Embarrassing crush on my electrician

[gelatodipistacchio]

He is lovely and sweet and has been very friendly and interested seeming in a way that is probably just professional.

He just finished a job (which requires some follow up) and wrote this:

(...) Please don’t hesitate to get in touch at any time and as many times you want if you got questions. We’ll keep in touch

I'm naturally prim and proper. I feel that any overture I could make (like suggesting a coffee???) would be exceptionally awkward and similar to a gross dude who hits on his cocktail waitress.

What to do, what to do?

Oooh!!

What about 'Thanks for all your hard work. If you're ever in the neighbourhood and want to pop in for a coffee, it would be lovely to see you again!'

I don't think that's too forward but is maybe an invitation for him to take up if he's interested and if he's not, it doesn't feel too like it's a come-on?

But I've not been on a date in ages so perhaps my advice is crap

Wait, are you saying that you would go for it???

I went with the extremely businesslike:

"Oh my gosh, what a late night!

Thanks for all of your work this week! Everything looks great and it's exciting to see things coming along.

Let me know the payment information for the first installment and I will pay it asap."

le

I would but maybe I'm a brazen hussy

@Starcaller

Two questions:

1. What would you say?
2. Do your methods work?

Is he single?

@EachandEveryone great question! I have no idea. There's no ring on it, but perhaps electricians don't like to wear metal on their hands for some reason...?

Well I haven't been single for a decade so my methods are probably from the land that time forgot! But I've always had decent results in the past from leaving a question open and sort of suggesting that I'm interested in a way that isn't too strongly a come-on, so it can be dismissed as just pleasantry if the person isn't interested, but if they are, maybe gives them an opening to come back.

Like in the example I gave above, if he wasn't interested he'd probably just think it was friendly small talk and not really think anything of it. If he was interested, it is an open door for him to respond and keep the conversation going.

Assuming he is single, obviously!

Ooh, Julia!

@Starcaller I see what you mean. I'm probably too much of a wimp even to suggest he pop by for a coffee. Perhaps I could offer him a coffee when he comes by to do the additional work? Then I could also determine whether he is single.

To be honest, he is so nice and attractive that it seems unlikely he is.

Ooh interesting thread. I'm married but I think you should go for it. What's the harm if you're both single.

@midsomermurderess is this a cultural reference I'm missing?

I think you need to find some more electrical problems at your home and get him round again. Then get chatting to him when he’s there.

Julia in Motherland crushing on her builder.

@Toomuchleopard this is so elegantly simple. And I have loads of work to do! I will have to arrange it so I am conveniently around, being in his way, next time

@midsomermurderess

OF COURSE. This has actually gone through my mind numerous times so I'm not sure how I missed the reference. I should probably watch those episodes and take notes on how embarrassing I am...

He clearly likes you, you clearly like him.
Life is short, so just invite him over for a coffee.

@midsomermurderess

Julia in Motherland crushing on her builder.

That is the first thing I thought when I saw the title of this thread!

@newblue82 does he clearly like me????

@midsomermurderess

Julia in Motherland crushing on her builder.

😂😂loved that episode!!

It's sad too though isn't it, it being a reaction to her feeling unloved and unlovable.

Is he coming back anyway?

just shag him then

Please tell us his name’s Garry! Could you do with a full re-wiring? (Not a euphemism!)

Definitely need to find something wrong with the electrics, anything at all

I remember calling the gas man out (not because i fancy him) but my gas wasn't working, turns out someone had turned off the tap. He was there all of 5 seconds, i looked a bit of a twat

@gelatodipistacchio

Wait, are you saying that you would go for it???

I went with the extremely businesslike:

"Oh my gosh, what a late night!

Thanks for all of your work this week! Everything looks great and it's exciting to see things coming along.

Let me know the payment information for the first installment and I will pay it asap."

le

This is giving him NOTHING. But, I also have no advice about what you can say that gives out something but not too much as I'm shit at flirting.

Oooo exciting OP. ! Keep us posted !