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Embarrassing crush on my electrician

103 replies

gelatodipistacchio · 11/11/2021 22:27

He is lovely and sweet and has been very friendly and interested seeming in a way that is probably just professional.

He just finished a job (which requires some follow up) and wrote this:

(...) Please don’t hesitate to get in touch at any time and as many times you want if you got questions. We’ll keep in touch

I'm naturally prim and proper. I feel that any overture I could make (like suggesting a coffee???) would be exceptionally awkward and similar to a gross dude who hits on his cocktail waitress.

What to do, what to do?

OP posts:
sarah13xx · 12/11/2021 00:21

Omg I’m totally here for this! I think suggesting a coffee just screams code word for I fancy you. Don’t suggest a coffee 🙈 If this wasn’t a public forum I’d get his name from you and be able to tell you in about 3 seconds flat whether he’s single or not with my research skills 😂 have you looked him up on facebook etc? Any pictures with a potential girlfriend?

I think if you’re shy the way these things progress best is to get messaging him. Start off with a thank you for the work message and you can very easily make your responses less formal and assess the situation. If you knew he was single I don’t think there’s any risk at all. Tomorrow would be a good time to contact him then you can casually ask him if he’s doing anything at the weekend (also see if he mentions wife) 🙈 Please update every move you make on here
and DM me his name

sarah13xx · 12/11/2021 00:25

@Toomuchleopard

I think you need to find some more electrical problems at your home and get him round again. Then get chatting to him when he’s there.
REWIRE THE ENTIRE HOUSE 🤷🏼‍♀️
JaneJeffer · 12/11/2021 00:42

I'm just here for the sparks flew joke.

TillyDevon · 12/11/2021 03:47

His messsge definitely seems friendlier than normal . I think reply in any form you feel happy with and it’s promising he has more work to do.

PAFMO · 12/11/2021 06:49

How inappropriate.
Would you be gushing had someone you didn't find attractive had sent such a message?
Do you think it was a front cover of a novel lurve thing or that he tries to get his rocks off with all his clients?

Bluntness100 · 12/11/2021 06:53

@PAFMO

How inappropriate. Would you be gushing had someone you didn't find attractive had sent such a message? Do you think it was a front cover of a novel lurve thing or that he tries to get his rocks off with all his clients?
Wow.
furbabymama87 · 12/11/2021 07:39

I wouldn't go for it just yet. I don't think the note gives anything away, unless he acted like he fancied you in person. Also he could be married or have a partner so I would find that out first. You don't want to potentially make things awkward.

Dragonfire282 · 12/11/2021 08:00

Hang on, everyone's getting a bit carried away with this. I don't think it's clear that he likes you from the text, he obviously cares about his customers but he might be like that with everyone, a good electrician especially if he's self employed will want to leave a good impression.

It sounds like you've got the opportunity for further contact so try and get chatting a bit more next time and definitely do some digging on social media.

Original poster
gelatodipistacchio · 12/11/2021 09:21

@PAFMO Hmm have you actually read the OP?

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gelatodipistacchio · 12/11/2021 09:23

Realistically, what will happen is that he will complete his work, I will thank him and pay him, and that will be that.

There probably is an element of feeling unlovable and unloved here! Most men are such dicks, and OLD is dreadful. Especially in Covid times, it's rare to actually meet someone in person and think they are nice

OP posts:
Mylee · 12/11/2021 09:31

Yesterday there was a thread about a handyman messaging a woman suggesting he was interested and he got ripped to shreds and called creepy, inappropriate etc all sorts of names and today someone is encouraging a woman to do the exact same thingConfused

SunLovingMummy · 12/11/2021 09:31

Well, you do have some options as you said he’s coming back. You could cyst to him and ask what he’s up to at the weekend. If no mention of girlfriend, wife or partner, you could then tell him about a pub/bar/restaurant or even a movie that is new/you haven’t been to/would like to see, and ask if he’s free and would like to go.

The worst that could happen is he says no.

DebbieHarrysCheekbones · 12/11/2021 09:51

All this titting about
Ask him if is single? If he says yes then ask him out.

You don’t ever have to see him again if the answer to either is no

User2638483 · 12/11/2021 10:55

Wait… do you not normally offer him a tea/coffee when he’s working at your house? You said you might do it next time like you don’t normally… 😮
now wondering if all tradesmen I’ve offered s coffee to are thinking im coming onto them

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gelatodipistacchio · 12/11/2021 12:26

@User2638483 the house is currently vacant and the tap is broken. So no.

OP posts:
User2638483 · 12/11/2021 12:30

Sounds like you need a plumber too! 😆
Maybe the electrician knows one and you could text him and ask for recommendation 😁

FOJN · 12/11/2021 12:40

Yesterday there was a thread about a handyman messaging a woman suggesting he was interested and he got ripped to shreds and called creepy

If we're thinking of the same thread the messages in that situation were far less subtle and when the OP said she wanted to keep things professional he cancelled the scheduled work (which was urgent)so she felt she'd paid a price for saying no.

I can't understand why tradesmen make a move before or during a job, surely it's more sensible to wait until all the work is finished and payment has been made.

makelovenotpetrol · 12/11/2021 14:00

@newblue82

He clearly likes you, you clearly like him. Life is short, so just invite him over for a coffee.
What part of any of that is him clearly liking OP?! My DH has had almost the exact same message from our male and married plumber. He's just being helpful.
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gelatodipistacchio · 19/11/2021 12:23

Update (keeping in mind that all of this is totally normal client relationship stuff)!

He asked if he could do some annual electrician assessment at my home, which means he needs to come tomorrow and then on Monday.

The whole thing is a silly crush, but I am sincerely excited to see him. I have decided that it's fun to feel this way even if absolutely nothing will come of it.

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teaandtoastwithmarmite · 19/11/2021 12:31

Loving this thread

Magpiesalute · 19/11/2021 12:39

Ooh, exciting. You definitely have to find out if he’s single, then take it from there…

AnotherMalbecPlease · 19/11/2021 12:39

I had a similar crush on my decorator - we've been together just over a year now.

JMAngel1 · 19/11/2021 13:28

Oooh I think he's interested - most electricians have work coming out of their ears and yet he's making time to come and do an annual assessment tomorrow - come on!!

TheFormidableMrsC · 19/11/2021 13:39

I had a lovely electrician. We ended up having a 6 year romance. Hope it's not him 🤣

junglejane66 · 19/11/2021 13:54

Was a 'reverse' thread on here the other day. Builder texted the OP in a similar vain as he fancied her. General feeling was he should be tarred and feathered after having his balls cut off with a rusty knife for having sent a text, albeit a rather clumsy text.