Could you have your in laws live with you?

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Just that really. Do you think your relationship with your OH could survive?

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I haven't watched Frasier in ages. I wish they rolled it out on Netflix or Prime. got the boxset but DVD are so clunky now.

Nope would rather separate and live alone.

1st of inlaws - not a chance.
2nd MIL - yes probably, but DH died before she did then she died the next year.
Don't live with current DP but can't imagine living with his parents.

Absolutely not.
The MIL would have been ok but my DH doesn’t even like his own DF.

I wouldn't mind MIL living with us, on the whole (if we had a bit more space in our house). Food would be an issue though as we tend to eat things she doesn't like, like lots of garlic. Not an problem for a weekend but I'd miss these things long term.

No no just no. No.

I could have coped with my dad, (unfortunately deceased) but no-one else. I have enough of my mother after 2 nights. She is not welcome back here after 3 days this July where she was rude, aggressive, pissed. So big no. Both my pils are dead.mil was pretty fabulous but had dementia and was in a specialist home, needing full time care at the end.

I don’t think it’s a natural thing to do, although I know some people get in with their parents well enough to do it.

Some of these comments have me cackling!!

It’s a tough one. They pay no rent or bills and are incredibly messy. They ignore my DC and worst of all, they ate the cake I bought myself yesterday. I’m 20 weeks pregnant and have been suffering with awful HG and have just started to come out of the other side. It’s just awful. I feel miserable

No. They are good and kind and I like them. However, we live differently. 24/7 would not work.

Hell will freeze over first

We did for a short while, I could possibly do it again for a very short time with a end in sight but not long term and not my dad.

Absolutely no way

I've just reached for the propanolol even just thinking about it

Over my dead body would they move in here

Not a chance.

We both know that wouldn’t work with either set of parents.

My ILs are pretty young - DH is ten years younger than me and his mum had him when she was a teenager so is only in her fifties now. FIL is 10 years younger than MIL and in his forties and just a few years older than me so I think we could make it work!

Hell. No. My IL's are truly horrible. I avoid them as much as possible as it is.

I've told DH that if he tries to move either of them in, ever, I'll take DC & move out. He agreed it's a no because of their behaviour. But, recently MIL was very ill & wasn't sure she'd live & H was talking about moving from our almost paid off home to somewhere with a granny flat for FIL (whose useless because MIL is very dominant). Luckily MIL is ok but I know it'll rear it's head again eventually.

I'll end my marriage before allowing it to happen.

No, but I wouldn't want my own family to live with me either. My relationship with my parents would be damaged beyond repair by us having to live together. It might even be terminal.

My husband felt the same about his mum, for very good reasons, so that was never going to be an issue in our marriage.

MIL stayed with us a lot after FIL died and lived with us for several weeks before moving house. It was not pleasant for either of us. She barely spoke to me at all, ignoring me and the DC and only talking to DH. She was up to her old tricks of pretending I didn't exist and wasn't worth wasting a breath on. Gave up trying to make conversation with her and we just did our own things. Was very glad when she moved out again.

No

PiL are dead but there's no way I'd have my DP to live with us long term. DF I could cope with, but DM is fond of a snippy comment on the hour so that would be very tricky.

If it came to it, they'd probably move in with DSis - she's the golden child so 🤷 y'know...

Mil passed away before DC and Fil is poorly and sleeps about 15 hours per day. If we had a spare room it would be fine. If it was still the two of them, no.

No. No. No.

No.

To be fair, it would be the same with my parents too. We need space to make the relationship work.

I couldn’t, but couldn’t have my parents either, so not a MIL thing, but I like my space thing

Yes. My late m.i l suffered a massive stroke which left her totally incapacitated and bedridden.
There is no way I would have her put in a home, so she came to me until she died three years later.
If I had to, I would do it again.

My parents no but they are dead now as if FIL and that was also a firm no.

MIL is selling her house in Surrey after Christmas it will sell very easily. She will either buy a house close to us or we may buy a house with an annexe between us but we need to consult a solicitor on how it’s done. Houses with annexes are quite rare in our area. That would be our preference. My MIL is really nice and though a bit dotty a very interesting woman.