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Has anyone else started a new job and instantly regretted it ?

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Borisjohnsonshairbrush · 14/10/2021 14:01

Long story short -private hosp to a general Nhs. same department and better pay....

But the staff are bitchy about eachother when one leaves a room. The training on their systems and knowledge is not being shared. Process are similar but completely different platform uses. No one is fucking helping despite asking. Day 4 in and I feel like crying. Never felt so lost.

I'll give it til Monday, if no different ok asking for my old job back. My boss said she will keep my role open. The extra 4k a year is not worth working like this.

Please say I'm not alone

OP posts:
ChicCroissant · 14/10/2021 14:26

I've started a new job recently, not NHS, and I did find the first week really hard. I think it was not knowing what I was doing that made me uncomfortable, I was being a lot harder on myself than any of my colleagues were (they are lovely, I'm lucky). It is finally starting to feel a bit easier now. I also felt quite tearful some days. Hope you are doing OK, OP Flowers

lockdownmadnessdotcom · 14/10/2021 14:42

Yes, it was a long time ago but I knew on day one (first hour) that I'd made a mistake. I left at the end of my probation for a temporary job, which became permanent.

doglikescheeseontoast · 14/10/2021 14:43

You're not alone. I moved within the same organisation to a different office which on paper should have been easier (much shorter commute - 30 minutes instead of sometimes 80 minutes).

The first day, I knew it was a mistake. The atmosphere within the office was very different, very 'who works the longest hours' and any suggestion of leaving on time was met with a 'working part time, are we?' comment.

I stuck at it for about 4 months, but got up one day and left.

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Chocolatier9 · 14/10/2021 14:51

Yes. Knew on day 1 that the boss was weird. Decided to stick it out. Company went down six months later in a blaze of very bad publicity, boss ended up in the dock and I cost the nhs quite a lot in AD and medication

I mean no way the nhs is going to the wall but dont ignore your unhappiness.

Ceebeegee · 14/10/2021 14:57

Yes, I knew on the first day that I'd made a mistake.
The atmosphere in the office was horrible (I just wish I had noticed in the interview, I wouldnt have taken the job otherwise). The 'team' were bitchy, snarky and horrible. Lots of whispering and bickering. And that was all before my first lunch break! I was in the sales/customer service office and the way they spoke to the warehouse staff was horrendous, I'd never encountered anything like it.
The boss seemed to have a personality transplant since the interview.

I rang my old company in the first week, and got my old job back.

When I handed my notice in after just one week, I was told that I was such a disappointment. I wasn't brave enough to say "you too".

PersonaNonGarter · 14/10/2021 14:59

Yes, and I started a thread about it. Loads of people told me to stay.

I didn’t stay. I left in my probation period and have never ever regretted it. It doesn’t look great on my cv - but people very rarely look at my cv.

Frostine · 14/10/2021 15:00

Yes Thames Water , stayed 1.5 days.

BeyondMyWits · 14/10/2021 15:02

I lasted/wasted 4 hours in one... a retail fabric warehouse. My colleagues were, to be honest, lazy, they left all the heavy lifting to me whilst out the back gossiping and drinking coffee, I found customer preorders stuffed down the side of the till... preorders that customers were ringing up about collecting, that hadn't even been processed.

I could not cope with the ingrained culture of ineptitude, so completed my shift, said I was not a good fit and left. Was surprised they actually paid me.

MeanderingGently · 14/10/2021 15:04

Yes, started a new job in the summer (end of May), seemed all exciting on the induction day but once on the job it really wasn't what was promised. Stuck it as far as week 2 and decided life was too short. Sent them an email to say it wasn't what I'd been led to believe and left.
I now have a lovely job which is perfect, much closer to home, nice people etc.
Don't stay if it's making you so unhappy, it really isn't worth it.

BoxOfDreams · 14/10/2021 15:10

Yes, started a new marketing job and from the moment I arrived I knew it was a mistake. The atmosphere was awful and I was given a pile of problems to solve that had just been left for months it would seem. At the end of the day I went to see the director and apologised but said I wouldn't be returning. He offered more money but I just had to get out of there. Fortunately this was the 80s and there were plenty of jobs going.

ifonly4 · 14/10/2021 15:11

Funnily enough, OP, it was when I took at job in the offices of the hospital I felt regretted my decision. For me it was the bitchiness, every time someone left the room it started and I couldn't believe I was exempt. Also, if you didn't understand dictated instructions, ie tape scratchy or language barrier, it was an insult to check with whoever what they intended - and given it was in connection with medical records, I personally didn't want to get it wrong.

I knew I'd already been replaced in my old job. I stuck the new one out eight months, and ended up in my dream job in my dream firm.

Siriisatwat · 14/10/2021 15:17

Yes.

I lasted six, miserable months. I cried everyday. It was just awful.

Awful, bitchy colleagues. A line manager who’s face lit up if she had to tell me I’d done something wrong or that if someone had complained about something i’d done (she was forever changing my responsibilities and not telling people).

I will never work in a school again!

Siriisatwat · 14/10/2021 15:18

Oh, and it was an hour in that I realised i’d made a mistake. It was an awful feeling.

Iseeyoulookingatme · 14/10/2021 15:19

Yup, I started a new job in the NHS 4 months ago and since the recruitment process it has been a nightmare. My shifts have been complety mucked up, I'm part time and they keep putting me on full time telling me I have to be fully flexible even though the position I applied for was part time evenings. I said I would quit if they didn't fix it. There is very little support and I've had no feedback since I completed my training. They expected me to do 6 weeks of full time training which was a nightmare to arrange childcare and onl told me about the first 3 weeks. I could go on. I'm only planning on working for them for a year. Oh and the week after I finished my training I was told I might be getting made redundant. I could cry but I need a years experience before I can apply for my masters degree so have to stick it out for another 9 months.

Gonnagetgoing · 14/10/2021 15:24

Yes. Approx 2.5 years ago I started a new job as a Legal PA at a large British company. The main person who'd be training me and working with me was on annual leave at the time and their induction/training was very hands off - old person had been internally promoted and helped but not much...

I found out the main person training me was fairly good but very rigid. Then I also found out that one of the main lawyers was horrible about anything and everything (would scream, shout etc) and had been transferred to me to work with her as the main person didn't want to deal with her anymore. My team weren't much better. My main boss had no idea how to do 1:1's with me and was rude/critical of me knowing that I'd been in contracts (and other perm jobs) before I started with them. I lasted a month before I walked out and didn't regret it.

Gonnagetgoing · 14/10/2021 15:26

@Siriisatwat

Yes.

I lasted six, miserable months. I cried everyday. It was just awful.

Awful, bitchy colleagues. A line manager who’s face lit up if she had to tell me I’d done something wrong or that if someone had complained about something i’d done (she was forever changing my responsibilities and not telling people).

I will never work in a school again!

Oh god yes, the crying every day. I panicked and could see/tell it wasn't going to get any better so despite my SO at the time, friends and family etc trying to help I could just see it wasn't going to get better. I felt totally at sea. I used to go for walks around my new workplace location at lunchtime to escape.
Gonnagetgoing · 14/10/2021 15:27

@PersonaNonGarter

Yes, and I started a thread about it. Loads of people told me to stay.

I didn’t stay. I left in my probation period and have never ever regretted it. It doesn’t look great on my cv - but people very rarely look at my cv.

You don't need to put a job on your CV. You can just wing it and say time taken off for X reason (caring for sick relative, holiday etc).
Trisolaris · 14/10/2021 15:27

Yep, lasted a week and a day. Recruitment company that wanted me to lie to people looking for work. Definitely not for me.

Gonnagetgoing · 14/10/2021 15:28

@Borisjohnsonshairbrush

Long story short -private hosp to a general Nhs. same department and better pay....

But the staff are bitchy about eachother when one leaves a room. The training on their systems and knowledge is not being shared. Process are similar but completely different platform uses. No one is fucking helping despite asking. Day 4 in and I feel like crying. Never felt so lost.

I'll give it til Monday, if no different ok asking for my old job back. My boss said she will keep my role open. The extra 4k a year is not worth working like this.

Please say I'm not alone

Honestly - don't feel any shame in going back to your old job. These things happen. Better to leave now if not going well rather than stay and be miserable.
BobbinThreadbare123 · 14/10/2021 15:29

Yep. Walked out after ~month. Life it too short and I'd made sure I had a lot of backup savings, so my subconscious must have known...

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tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 14/10/2021 15:38

Aaah OP, sorry your having a tough time. Thanks

But yes, like others I have also been in your position and a year on it didn't feel better but various feelings/emotions - first proper job since having DD so was determined she wouldn't see me "quit", enjoying bringing some £ back in, feeling I would soon get my old self back, not wanting to admit I wasn't perhaps up to it even though training was non existent - meant I stuck at it. And a year on I wasn't just still unhappy I was starting to feel quite poorly. I handed my notice in and finish this week! I almost feel giddy with relief ...

Just wondering .... how old are you? I'm 40+ and peri menopausal. I really believe this has been a huge factor in how I've not settled. The drop in self confidence, the brain fog, shit info retention and recall ... I think the adjustment of a new age for some of us at this age is one we massively underestimate.

But I digress. If it doesn't start to feel right very, very soon, go back to where you were. Thanks

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 14/10/2021 15:40

Should read - adjustment of a new job Grin

Beeinalily · 14/10/2021 15:42

OP you're really lucky that your previous job is being kept open. If you're really sure, then go back.

Justfedup21 · 14/10/2021 15:43

I moved departments in the NHS four and a half years ago and within hours of my first day I knew I had made a huge mistake. I was actually very honest and even sat on the reception computer during my break to sit and apply for my old job back!!

I was talked in to staying by the line manager so cancelled my application for my old job but so wish I hadn’t. I stuck it out for the four and a half years purely because I only had to work two night shifts a week for more pay than when I was working full time but I can honestly say I have never been so miserable in a job. The staff, as in your case, were unbelievably bitchy (and this was dispite us being lone workers so only have to actually see each other for thirty minute handovers and the beginning and end of shifts!)

If you enjoyed your last role and were happy there I would definitely recommend going back, it is honestly not worth being miserable at work - life is far too short.