Has anyone else started a new job and instantly regretted it ?

[Borisjohnsonshairbrush]

Long story short -private hosp to a general Nhs. same department and better pay....

But the staff are bitchy about eachother when one leaves a room. The training on their systems and knowledge is not being shared. Process are similar but completely different platform uses. No one is fucking helping despite asking. Day 4 in and I feel like crying. Never felt so lost.

I'll give it til Monday, if no different ok asking for my old job back. My boss said she will keep my role open. The extra 4k a year is not worth working like this.

Please say I'm not alone

[TSSDNCOP]

Yes. I used to carry a resignation letter with me to meetings with a boss that I genuinely began to hope would have some sort of terminal episode so I could just step over his twitching body as I let myself out.

6 weeks and I posted my keys through the letterbox and resigned from a deckchair the next day.

[Meloncurse]

Yes, fortunately the company folded 6 weeks in and I was making myself give it 2 months, so saved me a decision

[ALongHardWinter]

22 years ago,I started a job in a very large well known department store (now gone out of business). By the end of my second day,I knew I'd made a big mistake. I was thrown in at the deep end,working on the perfume counter, without being given any training at all. I also wasn't shown how to use the till,which was incredibly awkward and embarrassing when a customer wanted serving. I had been told at the induction day that I would be given till training in a week or two. Try explaining that to irate customers. But the last straw was when we were briefed about what to do in a terrorist/bomb situation. The staff were expected to go hunting for the bomb. That was when I decided it wasn't for me.

[thatsnotmyzoo]

Yep started at the end of September. Knew it was a mistake on the first day. Weird team with my immediate team backstabbing and bullying each other. No one had any clue what was going on. Didn’t meet my manager for two weeks because she just didn’t bother with me. It made me miserable. Applied for another job in October, got it and left not long after.

The worst advice I got was to stick it out for a year. If I’d have followed that I’d have been unwell. Ultimately my next employer didn’t care and I stayed with them for over three years. If you know now, get out now.

[Mol1628]

Yep. Lasted two shifts at a big retail store. I’ve done lots of retail and working with the public before it wasn’t that.
They left me on my own no training, no idea where anything was. Staff disinterested in helping me. Trying to help customers when I had no clue. The person who was meant to be training me on the department kept disappearing to the office leaving me on the shop floor. It was dreadful.
I just walked out after being told I had a ‘bad attitude’ for asking not to be left doing tasks on my own on my second day with no training. Just wasn’t worth it.

It felt wrong from the start though to be honest.

[BluebelllsRosesDaffodills]

@TravellingSpoon

Moved from community c are to working as a senior in a care home. Absolutely hated it. The deputy manager was ridiculous and on my first morning properly shouted at me for dressing a gentleman in the clothes he was wearing yesterday, even though I hadnt been there and the clothes were clean and in his drawers. Staff ratios were terrible, there was no caring ethos and the staff were bone idle, bitchy and cared more about thier plans for the evenings/weekends.

The big thing that got me was there was a bath rota, and so people could only have baths on certain days. I lasted out the week and when Sunday came and sunday tea was a cold quarter triangle of toast and a spoon of spaghetti hoops I knew I couldnt stay any longer.

Did you report to the cqc?

[ChuddleyCannons]

Yes. I left a job I actually loved and had loads of friends at because of 1 woman. I regret it now. My first job afterwards was a massive mistake, very quiet ward with no prospects. They sent all their exciting cases to the bigger hospital in the area. We were a glorified gp surgery. The manager was incredibly condescending and I hated it immediately. I think I lasted 2 months before I found a job in my old trust new department.

I start in November And I really hope I can make friends again.

[Welshiefluff]

Not work it being unhappy for an extra £4k unless you really need the money.

No shame going back.

[Arrowheart]

Yes. Walked out of a recruitment job where the Manager was a lazy selfish rude obnoxious piece of work. Since discovered she does self help and well being mental health courses. Couldn't think of anyone worse. Absolutely horrible woman.

[ALongHardWinter]

Mol1628 Sounds so similar to my experience,I can't help wondering if it was at the same place!

[dayswithaY]

Yes, it was my dream job working for a high end brand that I loved. The manager was very charming and chatty at the interview and I told her how much the brand meant to me, my knowledge of it.

Right from the start it was wrong. No training, left alone in the shop - completely alone - to answer calls, deal with customers, use a system I had no knowledge

[Mol1628]

@ALongHardWinter Such a humiliating experience isn’t it.

[dayswithaY]

No knowledge of, the manager was never there but she used to turn up for all the middle of the day shifts. I was alone for late nights, mornings, weekends, all the shite. I was permanently stressed and felt stupid. Woke up at 5am shaking with anxiety as it was so terrifying being there with no support.

I only met other staff on a handover and they said the same.

I should have left straight away but because I'd gushed on and on about the brand i didn't want the manager to think I'd blown smoke up her arse just to get the job. I shouldn't have given a shit as they lied to me anyway.

Awful jobs generally don't get better, you just get used to them.

[anthurium]

Yes and I'm still in it. It has been eroding me for the past 9 months but I'm pregnant and needed to stick out for the SMP and the enhanced element pay - shitty reason but there you go. I've never felt so undermined in m life, I feel lost/confused/out of my depth anb have tried many times to rectify the situation. Had I not been pregnant, I'd have been looking for something else lonb time ago.
I'm sorry you're going through this Op.

[TopCatsTopHat]

Went through an interview process where the final stage was meeting your manager for 'fit', liked them a lot, thought I would be happy having them as my line manager so I accepted the job. One month later I'd worked my notice and started, they hadn't told me they'd had a bit of a reshuffle and my line manager was now a person who I had met briefly during the process and who my gut reaction was 'they seem nasty thank goodness they're in a different section'...on day one I was knew she was no good but was committed and couldn't just walk away.
Fast forward one year I was a shell of my former self after being managed by someone who behaved like I was shit on their shoe and had no idea how to manage people but as a high biller herself no-one pulled her up on it. In the end my performance was suffering and I agreed with senior managers it was best I left. I wasn't the first person this had happened to, they should have addressed this person but she brought in money so they didn't.
Pity as the rest of the department were fine and the person who I'd actually taken the job to work under was ace, but as my line manager this person cast the greatest shadow. She was such a bitch, and took pride in it.

[FitAt50]

Yes - NHS forpast 2 months with no training - met line manager once and she has been 'working from home' since. 2 Colleagues off sick with stress and I am band 4 running everything. I had a job interview today for HR job at university and I got it. Instant £5k pay rise and hopefully not as stressful or horrible.

[WantStickyBean]

Yep! Moved from private to public sector, after a week I was on the phone to my old boss asking for my job back and I told my new manager I was leaving after about 10 days. I ended up staying for 5 months to help them out of a hole, but am so so glad that I was able to go back to my old job with no hard feelings.

[HazelBite]

I interviewed for a job and the chap that interviewed me said "actually my assistant is leaving and I think you'd be a great replacement" the money was great too. The assistant was leaving on a certain date so I resigned from my job and arranged to start the weeek after the assistant had left, only she didn't leave, turns out she was having an affair with her boss and had decided to stay put and leave her DH!
I was surplus to requirements and was shunted around the company (very well known company) and given the most awful jobs to do I think managers of any departments were told to make my life difficult , I, and other members of staff there, decided that they were trying to make my life so difficult and unpleasant, in order to make me resign.
I reapplied to my old job, once I had got it, verbally retaliated to one of the managers and promptly got the sack.
I had the last laugh though as I got severance pay, and I put in a claim for unfair dismissal which I only dropped the day before the hearing.
Apparently the had employed two lawyers (hopefully at great expense) to act for them.
Funnily enough it is one of the few places that I worked at that I made some really good and long lasting friends.

[amusedbush]

Yes, I got a promotion a few years ago and immediately hated it. The manager, who had been on the interview panel and really nice, instantly despised me when I started and treated me like shit - loudly and publicly. In addition, nobody else in the department knew what the job role was so I had to figure it out myself using a half-arsed handover sheet and old files saved on the drive. I cried in the toilets and considered taking the pay cut to go back to my old job.

I decided to stick it out and was stuck there for 3 years. I had 10 interviews in that final year before accepting an internal move, which was a 12 month mat cover. My boss refused to let me go on secondment so I took it as a temporary contract with no guarantee of a job at the end of it. I was desperate.

I say trust your instinct.

[PartyStory]

Yes, moved abroad for a job and soon found out they had lied about pretty much everything. Even the training did not match up with the job. There were so many small but easy to fix things that were wrong that would have made the job so much easier for everyone but instead people had to come up with ridiculous workarounds. Everyone who worked higher up seemed to be a jerk and played favourites. The customers paid huge sums for very amateur work but didn’t know better and I didn’t like feeling like I was part of a scam.

Thankfully got a job in a different field through a contact and they only cared about my ability to do the job.

I do hate that many companies in the UK insist on seeing a full work history in applications yet dislike honest answers as to why you left a job. You’re forced to cover up jobs like these by extending previous work dates or making something up but if you’re found out, your whole CV is cast into doubt. No one should feel that they have to sacrifice their mental health out of fear of permanently staining their work record.

[GrealishHairband]

Yes me, I knew from the first day I had made a mistake. I handed my notice in on the Friday of my first week. My manager asked if I had discussed it with my husband. When I said the decision was mine and not my husbands he refused to accept my resignation until I had gone home and discussed it with DH

I finally agreed to ‘talk about it’ with DH but left saying that when I returned the following week to resign for a second time I wanted my notice to run from the original date. He finally accepted my notice second time round and I left 3 weeks later.

Very strange place. Interview had been held elsewhere so I didn’t get a feel for the place. There was one colleague who was obviously pregnant but she denied it until she gave birth the following week and was by all accounts v happy about it - as was her partner. So odd.

[TopTabby]

I knew, within hours of starting that I'd made a mistake. Line manager was the most odd person & the overall manager was just completely weird. I actually lasted 2 years as most of my colleagues were alright & there was a decent camaraderie but it was the strangest place I've ever worked. When I finally left, I got into an absolute state about my next job & ended up on anti depressants for anxiety. It was an absolutely miserable time.
My new job was lovely but I don't think I'll ever dare leave just in case.

[Ralph871]

Yes unfortunately.

First job back with the NHS after 7 years overseas.

Started two weeks before Christmas, first day the person I was supposed to be orientating with called in sick, hiring manager was on annual leave (in fact first time I seen here face to face after interview was to hand in my notice) so was left in office for hours whilst they scrambled about for a replacement. Basically I had two days sub standard orientation then was left on my own including all over the new year period.

Had to organise my own uniforms, IT access, ID
Cards and on top of all that the place was a shambles (I could tell it wasn't just because of covid) direct line manager wasn't interested and the manager above her was one of those remarkable public sector managers who everyone knows is an absolute horror bully but because they have been chronically bullied for so long they just kind of get used to it. In my second week she loudly berated a retired staff member (who had returned to work bank to help out during pandemic) in the office in front of myself and several other colleagues and I just thought "nope"

I resigned 6 weeks to the date I started, basically as soon as my mortgage application was approved and despite being offered a promotion to band 7 (what I had been overseas) I said thanks but not thanks, worked my notice period to ensure I got a good reference and left to work bank. The right post came along a few weeks later and I have absolutely zero regrets.

If a job isint right for you I'm convinced you know pretty quickly.

[NeedWineNow]

Yes, lasted a month in an American law firm as a PA. Spent a month filing and clearing up mess created by my boss and her two assistants, only to go off on a pre-arranged long weekend, come back and there were files left open and strewn around and on my desk, chair and the floor, so much paperwork dumped in my two tier filing tray the top tray had collapsed, and was back to Square One. Like a messy teenager's bedroom! I was not best pleased.

Boss also expected me to diary manage but then overrode any appointment I made culminating in arranging a meeting that she didn't tell me about and then having the day off. The lawyer she was 'meeting' arrived and bawled me out in Reception for being useless as she'd had a wasted journey.

I walked out one lunchtime, went straight to an agency (remember them?), arranged an interview that afternoon and handed in my notice the following day. As I had accumulated a week's holiday I never went back.

[Hardybloodyhar]

What you are describing is bullying.

It will only get worse.

Run, run like the wind.