Has anyone else started a new job and instantly regretted it ?

[Borisjohnsonshairbrush]

Long story short -private hosp to a general Nhs. same department and better pay....

But the staff are bitchy about eachother when one leaves a room. The training on their systems and knowledge is not being shared. Process are similar but completely different platform uses. No one is fucking helping despite asking. Day 4 in and I feel like crying. Never felt so lost.

I'll give it til Monday, if no different ok asking for my old job back. My boss said she will keep my role open. The extra 4k a year is not worth working like this.

Please say I'm not alone

[Tenbyfive]

@PartyStory

Yes, moved abroad for a job and soon found out they had lied about pretty much everything. Even the training did not match up with the job. There were so many small but easy to fix things that were wrong that would have made the job so much easier for everyone but instead people had to come up with ridiculous workarounds. Everyone who worked higher up seemed to be a jerk and played favourites. The customers paid huge sums for very amateur work but didn’t know better and I didn’t like feeling like I was part of a scam.

Thankfully got a job in a different field through a contact and they only cared about my ability to do the job.

I do hate that many companies in the UK insist on seeing a full work history in applications yet dislike honest answers as to why you left a job. You’re forced to cover up jobs like these by extending previous work dates or making something up but if you’re found out, your whole CV is cast into doubt. No one should feel that they have to sacrifice their mental health out of fear of permanently staining their work record.

@PartyStory


"I do hate that many companies in the UK insist on seeing a full work history in applications yet dislike honest answers as to why you left a job."

I don't even understand why it matters why you left the job - if something untoward happened, it'd be flagged up on the reference such as gross misconduct.

I've left most of my jobs because the money was crap and the next place offered more money...or it was so dreadful that I'd rather run before I got sacked/accused of being rubbish.

I think my biggest regret is not having done a professionally degree which would have led to a professionally career and maybe more options to choose what sort of work I do. Instead I'm stuck on a merry go round of 'jobs' which I despise and the only thing to look forward is lunch breaks/annual leave/leaving (and I earn circa 30k so it's not even that bad)... I am sick of the randomness in these jobs/ambiguity/lies/no real authority or knowledge.. It's just more arbitrary processes that make no sense...I'm thinking about retraining but I'm almost 40 and don't know what to do with myself. This can't be it until retirement, surely?! Sorry for the rant!!

It's great you managed to get a job in a different field!

[YouTubeAddict]

Yes. I started what was supposed to be my dream job earlier this year. My dream turned to a living hell very quickly and I’m now back with my previous employer. I don’t particularly enjoy this job either but it’s much less stress. I’ll probably go back to the other role (OT) but in a different speciality in about 6-9 months as I need to do some specialist training. I just need a breather for now 😂

[BluebelllsRosesDaffodills]

@Arrowheart

Yes. Walked out of a recruitment job where the Manager was a lazy selfish rude obnoxious piece of work. Since discovered she does self help and well being mental health courses. Couldn't think of anyone worse. Absolutely horrible woman.

Report her to the professional body of whatever qualifications she holds

[Borisjohnsonshairbrush]

Oh god now I have the Sunday scaries knowing I have to go in.

My ex boss is ringing me tomorrow to try and sort something out xx

[Mossstitch]

Yes, same, nhs, knew within an hour on first day! Different Trust, walked into staff room to leave coat said hello to two people who just looked at me like I had two heads, ignored me and went back to their conversation. One person went out of the office the others bitched about them. Horrible atmosphere. Handed notice in after a month, phoned my old manager and they had me back instantly (fortunately I had stayed on bank as new post was only for 12 months but in a specialism I thought I wanted to work in). Life's too short to be miserable at work!! Hope you get sorted out tomorrow 👍😁

[Borisjohnsonshairbrush]

Wow @Mossstitch sounds like my hospital! Xx

[Franca123]

Quit and go back to your old job. I've seen people walk out in their first week and always been jealous.

[FitAt50]

@Borisjohnsonshairbrush

Wow *@Mossstitch* sounds like my hospital! Xx

And mine. I have been here 2 months. Put my notice in on Friday and off to work in local University for more money and less stress.

[babouchette]

Yes. I knew as soon as I saw the head of the London office bollocking a junior IT guy because his computer wasn't working. He spoke to him like a piece of shit. I knew straight away the culture was going to be toxic .... and lo and behold, it was. I ended up staying two years because I was so worried about bouncing in to something else terrible. Luckily my current company is a million miles away from that, culturally.

[TravellingSpoon]

@BluebelllsRosesDaffodills yes I did. The day before I left the lift stop working so all the residents who lives upstairs and who couldn't come down had to stay there in their rooms. I was told it was a regular occurrence and the owner didn't want to pay out for repairing it.

Its still going and I know that they had a terrible time during Covid. The residents were lovely 😥

[OverweightPidgeon]

Go back to your old job - the relief will be enormous.
I walked out of a job after 4 days , it happens to more people than you’d think.

[LindaLooky]

My problem is that I experience this in every new job. It takes me months to settle into it, and until then I'm convinced I've made a terrible mistake. Then it is ok. So I no longer trust my inner voice in the early days and just try to get on with it.

[anthurium]

@LindaLooky

My problem is that I experience this in every new job. It takes me months to settle into it, and until then I'm convinced I've made a terrible mistake. Then it is ok. So I no longer trust my inner voice in the early days and just try to get on with it.

Actually, this is a really good point, I feel this too!!

[DukeofEarlGrey]

Yes, but it was my first job and so even though I thought it was awful I just thought that that was what working was like! I stayed 4.5 yrs and it got increasingly worse - bullying was the main issue. I knew it was awful by then but it was only when I moved to a new company that I really understood how bad it had been by contrast.

My advice - just leave! Don’t let it erode your mental health like mine did.

[Facebooksgoneonholiday]

Yes me. I’ve been in post a year and ready to leave. Also nhs.
My boss will think it’s due to staffing and workload and try to convince me out if it… but actually it’s because I find it boring which sadly isn’t fixable.

[Animood]

Yes I have and I left after 2 months.

It was genuinely shit. Massive amount of bullying going on. The woman in charge of my department was an alcoholic ( she STANK and left her work laptop on a train back from London, a trainee had to drive her home she was so pissed etc etc).

The work I was given was dog shit and not as described. The boss started attempting to bully me. Obv I clapped back and I genuinely thought I might be sacked for that!

So I quit. Byeeeeeee

[WaitingForEgg]

Yes. Years ago working as a nurse I went from one nhs hospital to another (in London). Super unfriendly environment, extremely bitchy. I cried daily. Managed about 3 months before I went off sick with stress. In hindsight I should have just left and gone back to my previous job.

[simitra]

Best reason I ever saw (on Mumsnet) for covering a short gap on you cv is "project managing" a self build or major refurbishment. Most of us have seen Grand Designs and what a wonderful way to blow your own trumpet and your ability to manage and plan to all eventualities. Very little chance of being found out.

[simitra]

My first job (aged 16) was in the civil service - old style Pansions and National Insurance. I was sitting in an office all day adding up figures. It was mind numbingly boring. Knew at the end of week 1 it was not for me. The office and colleagues were fine but I hated the actual work and could not bear the thought of doing it for life.

My parents were furious when I spoke to them of resigning. I dreaded going to the manager to tell her and asking her if I could use her as a reference. To my surprise she was quite supportive when I told her I did not think the job was for me. She said:-

"You are very young and at the beginning of your working life so no employer is going to think the worst of you for making an unsuitable choice. I hear good reports of you from your supervisor and am happy to give you a reference."

[halloweenie13]

@Frostine

Yes Thames Water , stayed 1.5 days.

I'm curious why did you not enjoy it?

[MrsHookey]

Yes. Did three days and then had a word. Annoyingly they agreed they thought at the interview that it might not be a great fit. Thought it was very polite and amicable. And then they refused to pay me afterwards. Once I got my solicitor's letter in to them, I got paid. Never looked back. They were horrible.

[halloweenie13]

Yes I had an experience recently (ish) for an online role I had applied to, the beginning of this year I was becoming fed up with working for the covid services and sought out a change, I had put in a graduate application for a company but hadn't heard back so applied to another few as backup. The backup company offered me an online team leader role for an energy company, average pay, good advertised hours and wfh flexibility on a 6 month contract to be extended, I thought great will help me transition and offer me some new experience. However, the HR in the initial stages were very hard to deal with, when I explained on several occasions (as telling them at interview) I was in the process of moving home after uni they refused to accept my new address and kept sending new contracts to sign. So I ended up not signing by the time I started the online inductions and training for the role, they were even worse clueless training teams, delays in setting up databases and after reading through the contract thoroughly I noticed they had changed the hours to be mon-fri 8-6 and every other saturday for the same pay, something I obviously didn't agree too. By the end of the first week I had an offer from the company I had initially wanted in the graduate role and given I hadn't signed a contract with the other company, or even gone through the induction fully, I politely told the backup company I was no longer interested in the role due to it not being as advertised and began my other role which I am very happy in. Over the last few months since starting my new role the backup company have sent me threatening emails saying I have a duty to my role, Citizens advice gave me the legal responses to them to remind them I was never legally employed by them, last week they sent me and email demanding my bank details to pay me for the induction, of which I ignored the email. But trust your gut guys and always read the contract!

[Fetarabbit]

Oh that sucks, that's good you have the option though to go back. I've found NHS jobs vary wildly, where I am now when someone starts with us they get a proper induction, a good support network and relevant training is sorted. Other places has been the opposite and really horrible.

[Terribleluck]

Maybe not the first day, bit within the first month. They misled me about the actual role. Made me redundant within 5 months. Trying to find a job at the moment but I feel it's going ok!

[Redrobin01]

I started an operations lead role last year with a test making company, I left waitrose to start it thought it would offer growth but within the first few weeks was talked to like crap by other staff, the ceo of the company flounced around the office not really doing much but shouting at staff and showing people pictures of his lamborghini he bought with the covid money. I spoke to my old manager at waitrose and went back the next day , left at lunchtime and never went back into the covid office.