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Ds 19 not eaten for over a week

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21782b7 · 30/09/2021 20:31

Ds has an awful sore throat. His tonsils are swallon. He has a couple of spots on his tongue and its slight swallon at the back. He had a phone call with the gp who said it sounds like strep throat. He's had 5 days of antibiotics that have not done anything. He's tried all the pain killers we can think of and they don't do anything at all . I did tell him if he calls 101 they will make him an appointment to see a gp at the hospital. But he won't call . He does have a gp call again in the morning. But the gp that's talking to him over talks him all the time. And he can't probably explain.

He cant even swallow water without pain. He's tried soft foods. Meal replacement shakes etc. But he's in to much pain. He's literally sitting there crying I feel awful for him

I don't really know why on posting. I know he's 19 and not 4 but I just feel so bad for him Sad

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TableFlowerss · 01/10/2021 00:03

@RaisedByPangolins

My DS is 21 - if he was in so much pain he was crying and potentially dehydrated to the point where his judgment was impaired I would take care of him. Just because he's an adult doesn't mean I've stopped being his mum. Similarly when my DP (aged 40+) was in agony with stomach cramps convinced he was constipated, I forced him to A& E where they diagnosed him with a necrotic appendix. Should I have left him to die of sepsis because he's old enough to go to war?
My point is, mother calling the doctor for an adult probably isn’t going to be as effective as him speaking to them himself!!

The DR will likely hear how bad he is an take more notice. Thanks

Fupoffyagrasshole · 01/10/2021 00:04

Just echoing what others have said here

Do not leave this until tomorrow it could be very serious !!

Call 111 or take him in - its important

earthyfire · 01/10/2021 00:04

@Joystir59

Swallon????
bore off

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OldieButaGoodie · 01/10/2021 00:10

I've had quinsy twice - it's like a boil/abscess on your tonsils - and yes, it's as horrific as it sounds.. I couldn't even swallow saliva.

There is a risk of your throat closing over due to the swelling and is serious - I was hospitalised for it, as breathing became difficult.

Please get to son to the hospital asap - tell him how much better he will feel when they get the proper meds into him.

HaileyBailey · 01/10/2021 00:14

This happened to my 19 year old. Doctor thought strep throat, prescribed antibiotics which did nothing. Had a blood test and it was glandular fever

ArranMumma · 01/10/2021 00:16

Ice lolly / ice cream ASAP !

HeadPain · 01/10/2021 00:27

He needs to be seen in person ASAP. Go to A&E or walk in. This can go bad and he can end up very ill in hospital. Happened to a friend of my cousin. He might not want to go or he may be anxious and crying over going but it's better to go and be sorted than sit at home letting it get worse and potentially dangerous.

arcof · 01/10/2021 00:29

QUINSY!

olidora63 · 01/10/2021 00:37

I had Quincy at a similar age..call111 .

PamelasPantsAreHuge · 01/10/2021 00:46

Did OP say he couldn't swallow his own saliva?
Can you see quinsy if it starts to happen (I thought throat was extremely swollen on one side - also not what OP says is happening).

Having said that, I couldn't leave a 19yr old crying in pain. I think this justifies a call to friends or neighbours to ask them to come over and sleep over so the younger children have someone with them and take ds to hospital to be checked.

There are some odd folks around. OP describes state of son, says feels sorry for him, everyone (bar one or two dissenters) says take him to hospital. OP ignores everyone. Very strange.

OP I hope he isn't in too much pain overnight and they can get him sorted in the morning (I'd still take him tonight though if at all possible). If you were my friend in the same scenario I'd happily come over and camp on your sofa for the night while you took him.

TartanJumper · 01/10/2021 01:05

If he can't swallow water, he needs to be seen by someone ASAP as he may get very dehydrated.
I'd go to A+E personally.

NotMyCat · 01/10/2021 01:07

To be fair the only time (and I've made my own way to a&e with a broken ankle, burns, pneumonia and cauda equina) I asked my dad to take me to OOH was for tonsillitis
I just felt so weak and crap I couldn't face even getting in a taxi. They swapped my antibiotics over and doubled them and I was off work for 3 weeks and lost over a stone

TartanJumper · 01/10/2021 01:24

@TableFlowerss

So glands fever, quinsy and strep throat have all been diagnosed in here….he’s 19, he’s an adult and people move out before that age.

If you’re that concerned, tell him to ring in the morning. Honest to god, to think in 1930 there were 16 year olds killed in battle I’m the war 🙄

Conscription age was 18 so they shouldn't have been there in the first place.

We also used to send kids up chimneys and into work at dangerous factories, society has moved on a bit from almost a century ago. Thankfully.

SisforSoppy · 01/10/2021 01:43

I’m an A&E dr. He needs to be admitted for IV fluids and antibiotics. Please go to A&E

MitheringMytryl · 01/10/2021 01:55

Totally fine to intervene as mum if he's very unwell.

I had tonsillitis a lot in my early 20s and it's the most ill I've ever been. Each time I'd be so ill I would struggle to even get myself a glass of water, nevermind go into the GP. It's so much easier if there is someone to advocate for you and bundle you in car and drive you to the GP/hospital.

That isn't any less true once you reach adulthood. I would definitely expect my DH to do this for me, so why shouldn't a mother do it for their child?

1forAll74 · 01/10/2021 03:27

My daughter had something like this many years ago, she was about 24 at the time.She went to her GP, and he said that she had got an abcess on her tonsils. She had some antibiotic medicine,, and it cleared up after a while. The doctor said, that if it didn't improve, she would have to have the abcess lanced.

I was worried for her at the time, because I used to have a lot of throat problems when I was about 10, and like a lot of children then, I had to go into hospital, and have my tonsils and adenoids ripped out. ripped out was a term I used at that time. !!

ilovetea14 · 01/10/2021 06:35

I know how he feels I got a really bad strep throat couldn't eat was in so much pain. I was on antibiotics for 7 days but they didn't work.
I missed my holiday I had booked months before with my friend. I went back to my GP she couldn't believe how bad it had got and I was given a new prescription for stronger antibiotics they worked straight away. If his Gp is not helping maybe a trip to A&E as he could be really dehydrated if not drinking. Hope he gets sorted and feels better soon.

users689033 · 01/10/2021 06:48

OP you need to take him to A&E.

Abraxan · 01/10/2021 07:38

*So glands fever, quinsy and strep throat have all been diagnosed in here….he’s 19, he’s an adult and people move out before that age.

If you’re that concerned, tell him to ring in the morning. Honest to god, to think in 1930 there were 16 year olds killed in battle I’m the war*

If you'd read already you'd know that the ds does have a gp call tomorrow already.

And I can only assume you have been lucky enough to never feel really really poorly. Even as a much older adult I've been at a point where I've felt so unwell I haven't been able to concentrate and think properly, and absolutely could have used another adult to help advocate for me.

Fwiw an adult should have stood in for those 16y in 1930s - they should never have been there in the first place. That was adults failing children, and not a good thing to promote.

ittakes2 · 01/10/2021 08:00

He needs to go to A&E - if his tonsils swell more he won't be able to breathe. You can't be sure they won't swell when he sleeps.

Shellfishblastard · 01/10/2021 09:58

How is he today OP?

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21782b7 · 01/10/2021 10:02

@Shellfishblastard

How is he today OP?
Just spoke to his gp. Turns out he was given the antibiotics. And also told to get a covid test . To make sure he's negative gp would then see him. Only ds did not do as advised. So now its going to be at least another few days till hes seem by the time he tests and gets results.
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IamJuliaJohnson · 01/10/2021 10:09

If he is as unwell as you say, with untreated tonsillitis he needs to go to a&e. If you are unwilling to do that, you should at least try to get photos of his tonsils and email the surgery.

ColitisSucks · 01/10/2021 10:17

So now its going to be at least another few days till hes seem by the time he tests and gets results.

OP if he goes to a drive through / walk through test centre today he should get the results by tomorrow morning.

lborgia · 01/10/2021 10:20

Hi, I know this is just another story, but when I was 21 I had a gp shoo me away 3 times, till I couldn't open my jaw/ swallow water... I walked to A&E and was hospitalised for a week.

If your son is scared of going, just tell him it is magical when they start giving drips etc.. he'll feel tons better by this evening. Bear