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Bring us your worries, big or small! The nightshift will hold them so you can sleep

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 30/09/2021 19:01

Well, that LAST THREAD filled up much faster - so glad so many of us are finding this a place of comfort. How lucky we are to have so many of us on standby to hold our fears and worries, so that we can rest.

No questions asked, no solutions given, just the offer of a place to lay down our burdens. All are welcome.

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GoldCherub · 16/01/2023 03:07

That’s a good idea. Put the meditation on. Nothing can be done at 3am. You relax now listen to the soothing meditation and let me take those worries from you for tonight.

My cat is flat out on his back having his belly rubbed. He has so much capacity to hold your worries tonight. We are both very relaxed and have you covered so that you can get some rest. Snuggle down and give yourself a break.

heartbeatacrossthegrass · 16/01/2023 03:15

I think the chest infection that I have been wrestling since November is back again. I have again woken up sweating with a fever and swollen glands. Can't remember a single day since November that I haven't had a cough. I am so tired, have two young children and a full time job. Why can't I get well?! I thought the last lot of antibiotics had sorted it. My DH is away two nights this week as well. Christ, I am sick of being sick.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 16/01/2023 03:38

@heartbeatacrossthegrass it's difficult not to worry when we're ill and responsible for so much. A steamy shower might help for tonight and you can follow up with your doctor in the morning. Sometimes a plan helps. I'm here sending you support and will look for an update to know you're ok. 💖

heartbeatacrossthegrass · 16/01/2023 03:57

Thank you @Mumtobabyhavoc ❤️

The baby is awake now so I'm up feeding. Trying not to cough the house down!

HangingOver · 29/01/2023 14:38

It's bedtime here. Friends dog drowned today. They tried to save him but it was too late. He was a local character and every one is shattered. Can't stop thinking about his lovely owners at home tonight with an empty dog bed Sad

Mumtobabyhavoc · 29/01/2023 16:17

@HangingOver that's really upsetting and sad. I see you posted a couple hours ago. I hope you've been able to fall asleep. 🌹

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 29/01/2023 18:33

Ah @HangingOver that's horrible news. So very upsetting. I'm so sorry. I hope it was quick for him, in the end.

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elephantmarchingin · 30/01/2023 21:23

Not sure if anyone is here but wanted to post tonight.

I'm struggling unbelievably with health anxiety at the moment. It's consuming me and I go from panic attack to panic attack which makes everything worse, I can't get out of my own head.

Not sure why I'm posting just need an out i think

Libre2 · 30/01/2023 22:13

Hi @elephantmarchingin - love the name! I am here. I am not one of the usual crew but am really happy to hold your anxiety for you tonight so you can get some sleep. It’s horrible feeling anxious like that so I hope you can let go now.

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 30/01/2023 22:38

hello@elephantmarchingin, there is always someone here, you are not alone.
In fact, you are in excellent hands with @Libre2 on the job. I will join them in wishing you peace for tonight, and a sleep without that horrid anxiety

@Libre2, you may not be a regular part of the crew but everyone is welcome here, to hold worries or to be held. I'm delighted you joined us! The more of us there are, the less these pesky worries get the better of us.

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elephantmarchingin · 30/01/2023 22:49

@Libre2 @2018SoFarSoGreat thank you both so much.

Running on a couple of hours sleep isn't helping! Will try and curl up with a good book and hopefully drift off! Thank you for holding my worries

GenuineKlatchianPottery · 02/02/2023 00:26

I’m signing in for the night shift. Me and the cat, who is currently sitting on my ankles, are here to hold those worries and problems for you.
Leave them here with us for the night, then settle down and relax, we’ve got you.

Libre2 · 13/02/2023 23:14

Hello lovely people - not sure if anyone is around but my type 1 diabetic ds 14 year old is having a sleepover at a friend’s house tonight. The mum is amazing and her other son is also type 1 so he is in good hands but I am still really worried. I am trying not to check his numbers and just trust.

FinallyHere · 13/02/2023 23:45

You are doing the right thing @Libre2

Leave that thought with me. I'll take good care of it while you settle down and get some sleep.

VikingLady · 13/02/2023 23:58

Not sure if this is the right place, but I'm awake with my two autistic kids whilst we see if we need to evacuate our house. The house three doors down is on fire. The fire brigade totalled our car (which I totally understand - lives come first), but it means DH won't be able to get to work until we can get a new one on the insurance. And we can't drive to a hotel. And we couldn't take the cats anyway.

Exhausted with being positive for the kids.

Libre2 · 14/02/2023 00:03

@VikingLady that sounds horrible- I am so sorry. I hope it resolves soon.

@FinallyHere - thank you. He just texted to say his friend snores so he can’t sleep. DH has pedalled round some ear plugs 😣

GoldCherub · 14/02/2023 00:11

@VikingLady i would snuggled you down but it sounds like you need to be awake for now. Have you got a bag ready with any meds, specific drinks/food and got the cat carriers out?

GoldCherub · 14/02/2023 00:15

maybe do some practical things while you wait to hear about evacuation. Charge up tablets and phones. How old are your children doing? Are they awake?

GoldCherub · 14/02/2023 00:17

My posts are a mess! I’m typing on very little sleep but I’m here if you need distraction.

VikingLady · 14/02/2023 00:53

@Libre2 and @GoldCherub thank you.

I've packed their most important soft toys and hoodies in a bag by the front door, along with basic toiletries and a change of clothes. And shoes and coats are handy.

I'm pretty sure we're fine, we're three doors down and they're solid Edwardian terraces, but the smell and noise and flashing lights aren't helping the kids!

We're all eating chocolate on my bed and watching Frozen 2 as a treat. God, they're going to be out of sorts for weeks

And the car is totalled.

VikingLady · 14/02/2023 00:56

GoldCherub · 14/02/2023 00:15

maybe do some practical things while you wait to hear about evacuation. Charge up tablets and phones. How old are your children doing? Are they awake?

Yup, they're awake. They don't have blinds in their room and the fire is mainly at the back. And we don't have a cat carrier any more! It broke! Buying one online tonight for future occasions.

I've got everything ready, I think. I was mainly whining about the emotional affect on the kids. We really don't need this in the middle of birthday season which unsettles them, when they're still getting over Christmas and covid.

GoldCherub · 14/02/2023 02:08

@VikingLady the unexpected is tricky. I hope the children process it quickly and get back to routine and the build up to birthdays. The barrier to working is a worry so let me take that one from you for tonight. It’s not your first rodeo with children but having an income smoothes the ride.

If you can settle your children I can take the worry of how to get to work from you for tonight. Nothing can be done about the car tonight so you get yourself tucked in and rested as soon as your children are asleep.

I can also take your feelings from the threat of fire for tonight. That must have been alarming for you. I will hold on to your shock. Rest now (once Elsa has done her finale)

VikingLady · 14/02/2023 03:30

Thank you @GoldCherub

No evacuation necessary in the end, kids asleep at last, all ok. And no neighbours hurt either.

Thank you for your help x

Pumpkintopf · 04/03/2023 00:48

Just wondering if anyone is around? I've had so much conflict in a voluntary role I hold this week. It really has been so unpleasant and looks like it will continue for some time yet. I go between feeling anxious and stressed, and angry and wanting to get it resolved. Just want my mind to quieten down now and need to stop checking emails for a while.

whatausername · 04/03/2023 00:56

Pumpkintopf · 04/03/2023 00:48

Just wondering if anyone is around? I've had so much conflict in a voluntary role I hold this week. It really has been so unpleasant and looks like it will continue for some time yet. I go between feeling anxious and stressed, and angry and wanting to get it resolved. Just want my mind to quieten down now and need to stop checking emails for a while.

It's nearly 1am, no more emails, no more ruminating. I'll hold your worries around the conflict and you go to bed. I'm sure you've seen enough of life to know that you'll get through whatever unpleasantness may (or may not) come.