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Is this an okay outfit for a wedding?

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Sophie1029734 · 24/09/2021 18:06

I'm 22 and have been to 1 wedding but I was a kid. I dont know much about the dos and don'ts for wedding guest outfits.
Is this an alright outfit to wear or is it too colourful? Too short?

Is this an okay outfit for a wedding?
Is this an okay outfit for a wedding?
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coolhwip · 25/09/2021 20:40

Shit! I didn’t think about that. I’ll email them on their modern slavery policy.

Megistotherium · 25/09/2021 20:40

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Miseryl · 25/09/2021 21:05

You must really hate the couple to want to steal attention away from them with your bizarre outfits! They look like circus or carnival outfits. 🤣🤣

Yourcatisnotsorry · 25/09/2021 21:10

Dresses are awful but I love the bags!

Miseryl · 25/09/2021 21:27

This thread has given a bloody good laugh with both some of the dresses and comments. I'm guilty of wearing too much black (I was a teen goth), I always struggle to know what to wear to a wedding as I hate most wedding type outfits. I'm probably at the opposite end of the spectrum to you OP.

Lollipoplew · 25/09/2021 21:28

Not really the kind of dress you would wear for a wedding... fancy dress event yes.... wedding no

RozinaBullock · 25/09/2021 21:36

You’re right, you don’t want to look frumpy but you want to look your authentic self and you’re young after all. Go with the green one, you can be frumpy when you’re 70!

Morganrae1 · 25/09/2021 22:25

You're 22 and if that's your dress sense go for it as long as you're comfortable. Only real rule I'd say is don't wear white and don't outshine the bride.

ellyeth · 25/09/2021 23:12

Perhaps the second. It really depends on the type of wedding and if you think it will suit your height and build. Also, would you normally wear these sorts of dresses for special occasions and would you feel comfortable in it if everybody else is more formally dressed? If the people getting married and their guests are likely to wear flamboyant outfits it may be OK. For a more traditional wedding, I think it is probably better to tone it down a bit, especially as you say you are self conscious. There are some similar styles suggested on here which are pretty but not quite so unusual.

The Chi Chi floral dress is rather nice.

There are some nasty comments on here. The OP is only 22.

Mamanyt · 26/09/2021 00:33

Rule of thumb...never wear anything to a wedding that might take attention away from the bride. It is her wedding, her day, not yours. If you would comfortably wear it to church with your mother, it is probably just fine.

VenusTiger · 26/09/2021 00:42

Even the ChiChi dresses look cheap - you don't want to look cheap OP - you could always find an actual cheaply priced dress in TK Maxx that doesn't look it.

If I were you @Sophie1029734 I'd look on Zara - very trendy/modern - different lengths and styles - but - look in the Autumn/Winter selection.

I honestly think you'll look really silly wearing such a flimsy, silky see through dress in December - most ppl will be in thicker material by then.
Reds, purples, blues - doesn't have to be wintry coloured, but pastels in winter look odd I think.

Buy a few dresses and send back what you don't like/want to keep - the most annoying thing about these ChiChi, Shein etc. websites is that the clothes are just cheap shit with price tag and they take forever to arrive and return.

RedRiverShore · 26/09/2021 07:23

That one in the OP would look like Hippo in a tutu on anyone that was over about size 10

Kind2Bkind · 26/09/2021 07:38

Wow! What a lot of judgemental people. I know the OP asked for opinions, but it surprises me just how many people feel that they have the right to tell people how to look.

In my opinion, as long as your private bits are covered, you should be allowed to wear pretty much anything. I celebrate and promote individuality. If you rocked up to me wedding in either outfit, I’d be happy. Just to have you there and present would make me happy. How people dress is up to them. Gone are the days of dinner jacket expectations and social conformity for wearing Sunday bests. Dress as you feel comfortable and happy. If other people don’t like it, that is there narrow minded problem.

SheWoreYellow · 26/09/2021 08:29

@Miseryl

You must really hate the couple to want to steal attention away from them with your bizarre outfits! They look like circus or carnival outfits. 🤣🤣
You remember you’re speaking to an actual human being here? Having individual dress sense and not knowing the dress code for a wedding isn’t really a big deal is it? Being a nasty cow to someone for no reason, however…
RedRiverShore · 26/09/2021 08:32

OP asked for opinions and people gave them or are we only allowed to post positive ones

SheWoreYellow · 26/09/2021 08:37

@RedRiverShore

OP asked for opinions and people gave them or are we only allowed to post positive ones
She asked if it was acceptable, ie the correct sort of thing, not if it was flattering or nice though.
Pipsquiggle · 26/09/2021 08:55

Sorry just read that this will be a winter wedding and you want to try to slim down for it. In which case I wouldn't buy anything now.

You haven't really told us about the type of wedding you are going to (flashy Essex or smart country or city chic etc) - this would affect my choice of outfit. Also what is your style and shape - again probably more important than size when choosing a dress.

Try looking on Pinterest on 'looks' you like and influencers that resonate with you.

Polkadots2021 · 26/09/2021 08:59

@Sophie1029734

Is this okay? And no I dont know what is acceptable because I have no clue about weddings.. at all. I dont also dont wanna go for something really mature and typical.

Is this a nice outfit?
Is it the lengtht, what's the typical length people wear?

Use common sense OP, this one has a lattice open design that shows off your boobs. You'll know as well as any of us if showing off your boobs at someone else's wedding (or your own, to be fair) is a sensible idea.

There's not an innate 'how to dress at weddings' gene we are all born with! You have to work it out using common sense like we all do.

Melm22 · 26/09/2021 09:00

I'd order both dresses in your current size and the size down. Sometimes the sizings come up differently. Enjoy the wedding 💑

Forgottenwhatsleepis · 26/09/2021 09:12

Either of the last 2, and I'd suggest ordering your usual size (check reviews as to how true to size they are, and the size guide) then if it is noticeably too big, take to a seamstress to take it in

notthemum · 26/09/2021 09:14

The first one is a bit much , too short and too frilly. 2nd one I like.
I actually quite like the one with puff sleeve too although I dont think it would give much wiggle room (dancing) also you may need to factor in the weather.

notthemum · 26/09/2021 09:25

Love the 2nd Chichi one and the 4th not bad. The others no.

Frecklespy · 26/09/2021 11:00

Is it a beach wedding? If so, go for it.

Zatapec · 26/09/2021 22:42

Yes, you're 22 you can wear what you want, it's pretty perfect for a wedding 😁