Raging at male friend preaching to me about being overweight

[Pileonsally]

Im overweight, late 40s, 2 kids. Always been 'big' and 'curvy'.
Like many women my weight and body has been bane of my life forever. Usual story, tried every diet, exercise, weight loss fad, also tried NHS dietician, hypnosis, personal trainer, private nutritionist. Read a million books and articles. Had blood tests etc.
Nothing works and I remain 4stone overweight.

I am aware this is an issue and hate the fact that I have no willpower when I dont get results. I also comfort eat when I'm feeling miserable.

Anywayyyy...without prompting a male friend of mine (no kids, ex pro athlete, never had a weight issue in his life, only ever had petite naturally slim gfs) texted me a big rant about society and everyone being overweight and how I blame hormones and being a woman and medication and metabolism when actually I'm just lying to myself and I obviously eat loads and just need to stop.
He was saying gastric surgery is ridiculous and why don't people just not eat as much.
Then saying well it can't bother you too much or you would just eat healthily.

I ended up ending the conversation because he filled me with rage! Im still blazing mad now.
Its the assumption that me (and all the other women in society who moan) just haven't 'tried' hard enough.

This isn't a post about diets or looking for advice.

Im looking for support from women who would also be filled with rage hearing this! I cant even process why he has made me so mad.
He said im mad cos he has pointed out the truth!? (I dont think I am)

Thoughts?

@Comedycook

Eat what your children eat - unless you feed them crap

No I don't feed them crap but they prefer plain, deconstructed food that I don't want to eat!

My point still stands. Men prioritise their leisure time and fitness ...it's why on weekend mornings, the roads are full of middle aged, middle class men cycling!

Women can exercise. Clean. Take the children out to the park/walk/meet friends….. or go to the gym like I see all the women at my gym doing

Food is food. You aren’t a dog, you don’t need to treat yourself. You can exercise in your garden when the kids are asleep.

What a load of absolute crap! Women generally do a shit ton more work than men. Working outside of the home and dealing with all the housework too plus the mental load of raising kids. Most women are exhausted. Try finding the headspace to eat well and work out when you're burnt out.

Food is food.
@Talktalkchat it's not though.
I said this earlier.
So many people associate food with childhood.
If you where denied food,if you where expected to not leave the table unless your plate was cleared.
That's ingrained in us.
That's hard to let go.

You can exercise in your garden when the kids are asleep.
True if you can be arsed.
Women do the majority of childcare.
That maybe the one time they are guaranteed to be able to eat,shower and catch up on things.
Not dance around like Mr Motivator.

He's not wrong but is extremely rude .