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Just dropped off DD at school and feel awful

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ponderingthisthing · 13/09/2021 08:58

DD started reception last week and has done really well esp. given that she's naturally very shy.

She wanted two plaits this morning so I did them. She then pulled them off when she was in the car (think she complained that the hair bands were too tight) which really annoyed me, since by this time we were already in a hurry. So when we got to school I told her we didn't have time to do her plaits again (which is true, though we may have made it in the nick of time had I swifter fingers) and just did a quick tie back. She was a bit upset by this. She then complained of being cold (I didn't put a jumper on her as she has eczema prone skin so is best kept cool, I thought if she had a jumper on she might forget to take it off when it gets hot). She went in without tears but I can tell she's not happy.

I just felt like an awful parent when I left for a) being cross with her for pulling off her plaits b) not trying to give her a plait at the school gates c) sending her in without a jumper.

I know these all seem minor but I keep worrying that this doesn't set her off for a good start for the school day and she'll be upset. Obviously lesson learnt that I should leave more time for the morning school run so that we have enough time for emergencies!!

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Thesearmsofmine · 13/09/2021 08:59

Does she have a jumper with her to put on?

toomuchlaundry · 13/09/2021 09:02

There will probably be spare jumpers in lost property if she got really cold.

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ponderingthisthing · 13/09/2021 09:03

@Thesearmsofmine

Does she have a jumper with her to put on?
No. I had it in the car just in case but didn't give it to her when we left. It's not a cold day so I hope she'll be fine; she's also used to dressing lightly because of eczema. It didn't help when most children at drop off had theirs on though. So I think I will send her in in one in future days like this.
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DogsTails · 13/09/2021 09:03

Is there an option of a cardigan? She can have something on but open at the front so more airflow for her eczema. Saying that I’ve never kept my Dd cold because of her eczema Confused, today’s very chilly.

CaptainMyCaptain · 13/09/2021 09:03

She'll probably forget once she gets together with her friends. It's not the end of the world, she'll survive.

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ponderingthisthing · 13/09/2021 09:04

@CaptainMyCaptain

She'll probably forget once she gets together with her friends. It's not the end of the world, she'll survive.
Yeah. I hope so, though as it's a new school she's just getting to know the other children. Still only a few days in.
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peboh · 13/09/2021 09:05

As an adult with eczema, I can honestly state that cold dry air is much worse for the skin.

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ponderingthisthing · 13/09/2021 09:06

@DogsTails

Is there an option of a cardigan? She can have something on but open at the front so more airflow for her eczema. Saying that I’ve never kept my Dd cold because of her eczema Confused, today’s very chilly.
No, just a jumper. Indoors she'll be absolutely fine, but maybe a bit chilly outdoors. Guess I'll just have to drill it into her to take her jumper off when it gets hot during the school day.
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GiveMeAUserName123 · 13/09/2021 09:08

To be honest you should get a cardigan for her to put on when she gets cold. Other than that it’s just stuff that happens sometimes. Tomorrow is another day and do it differently so you both don’t feel crappy for the day.

toomuchlaundry · 13/09/2021 09:09

Has she got a coat for outdoors?

GiveMeAUserName123 · 13/09/2021 09:10

Just to add I had eczema as a child and glad my mum didn’t keep me cold- I hate the cold!

Does the school not do cardigans?

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ponderingthisthing · 13/09/2021 09:12

@peboh

As an adult with eczema, I can honestly state that cold dry air is much worse for the skin.
We'd always gone by the mantra given by the dermatologist "better cold than hot", and she rarely complains of being cold. But I obviously don't want her to freeze! Think the complaint this morning may be due in part to the fact that she was feeling a bit upset and self conscious about going into school.
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idontlikealdi · 13/09/2021 09:12

Has she got a coat / cardigan/ something to be be warm? Sitting at a desk with windows and doors open she'll be cold.

ItWearsTheBatteriesOut · 13/09/2021 09:13

Just to those saying it is chilly, MN covers a large area, it is certainly not chilly where I am today however most children had jumpers on, I think parents think it's school uniform so has to go on, there is definitely no need for it where I am (still UK)

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ponderingthisthing · 13/09/2021 09:13

@GiveMeAUserName123

Just to add I had eczema as a child and glad my mum didn’t keep me cold- I hate the cold!

Does the school not do cardigans?

There's no option for a cardigan at the school (I agree cardi would have been a very practical option!). She very rarely complains of being cold even though she dresses light a lot of the times.
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BigPyjamas · 13/09/2021 09:14

Sounds like a tough morning for you.

She'll have gone in and likely be absolutely fine. And if she's cold they'll have spares, they won't let her freeze.

I keep a spare hairbrush and hair things in the car just in case. And often we do the style in the car once we've parked up, then there is less chance of it being messed up and everyone is less rushed.

You're both new to the school mornings, it'll get easier Thanks

peboh · 13/09/2021 09:14

I think as others have said I'd look into a loose fitting cardigan, or a size up jumper so the materials aren't super close to the skin. The weather has really take a turn today, and I think it's just going to get colder. So definitely worth just making sure.

You can also mention to the teachers to just keep an eye and check every so often if she needs her jumper taking off

ToomuchHeat · 13/09/2021 09:16

I’ve sent mine in 3 layers today! I know that wouldn’t work for you. Perhaps is there a light cotton version of something you could buy or size up?

ToomuchHeat · 13/09/2021 09:16

PS she’ll be overwhelmed and exhausted too (as will you!)

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ponderingthisthing · 13/09/2021 09:16

@BigPyjamas thank you. That's great advice. I also need to learn to plait quicker as have clumsy fingers 😂

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crazyguineapiglady · 13/09/2021 09:18

Go back and drop a jumper and coat off at reception for them to put on her peg for her.

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ponderingthisthing · 13/09/2021 09:18

@ItWearsTheBatteriesOut

Just to those saying it is chilly, MN covers a large area, it is certainly not chilly where I am today however most children had jumpers on, I think parents think it's school uniform so has to go on, there is definitely no need for it where I am (still UK)
It's about 14-20 where I am today. The sort of in between weather where you don't know what to dress in...
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Comedycook · 13/09/2021 09:20

My dd would always request hairstyles then after I'd finished them change her mind and we'd only just have time to put it in an ordinary ponytail. Don't sweat it...she is probably having fun and forgotten all about it

crazyguineapiglady · 13/09/2021 09:20

I've worked in primary schools and have never known teachers to go and get jumpers for children from lost property if they complain of being cold so I wouldn't personally rely on that.

InnPain · 13/09/2021 09:20

I can sympathise, this morning DC and I had a row over her doing up her buttons on her polo shirt. She was claiming she couldn’t do them and I just left her to it for 10 whole mins until she managed to do them herself (whilst also threatening to confiscate her tablet if she kept answering me back).

When she goes off to school I often feel guilty about whatever it is we’ve bickered about that morning, 3 out of 5 days it’ll always be something!

There’s just too much pressure in the mornings in my opinion. Not everybody has a spring in their step that early and it causes us to clash.