Would you judge someone for having cubic zerconia stones

[Gouldengirl9]

We have been married for over 40 years.
My original engagement and wedding rings are getting to tight.
DH wants to buy me a new set.
But the prices are very expensive for us pensioners. I have seen a lovely set in 9ct gold which has cz and not diamonds
Would you think Cheap if you saw them.
Or should I just get one diamond band even though I love wearing a solitaire

My original engagement and wedding rings are getting to tight.

Get them adjusted. A new set isn't a wedding ring / engagement ring

My dad proposed to step-mum with a genuine large diamond.

"You paid how much!?" she declared.
They took it back & got a CZ copy. Something step-mum could actually fathom wearing and not being desperately worried about.

Even jewellers can't tell the difference unless they take them out of the setting and weigh them.

I'm fairly sure that's not true at all. They have a machine that measures something or other. I've just had jewellery valued and he knew the diamonds were diamonds and the machine confirmed that some were spinels like he thought.

I agree that ordinary people won't be able tell from seeing a ring on your finger though.

Speaking as a fine jewellery lover/semi-snob, I would probably not even notice what stones they were, if you told me they were diamonds I'd just take you for your word. If you told the truth and said they were cubic zirconia, I'd probably commend your sensible choice! The style, tastefulness and craftsmanship of the jewellery is a lot more imo

I'm actually at a point where I prefer moissanite to diamonds anyway, the rainbow effect makes moissanite more attractive to me even if it makes it obvious it's not a real diamond

Very few people could tell the difference

And if they judge that says far more about them

*a lot more important

I have good old QVC diamonique earrings and they look so much nicer/sparklier than my diamond ring.

Nah, diamonds are overpriced and over rated. No judgement if you like them, it's fair enough if they're you're favourite stone for whatever reason. But Cubic zirconia is fab and you get way more for your money.

I'm currently wearing all fake diamonds (lab created stones) because my rings are all too big following weightloss. I can't afford to have them reset (dropped too many sizes for resizing) and not one person has said anything.

They look realistic and were cheap so I don't mind if I'm hard on them.

Diamonds are the result of a very successful marketing campaign by De Beers in the 50s.

My 3 carat engagement ring is a lab grown “diamond”. Without being braggy, I am a self made wealthy woman and I could easily afford a real 3 carat diamond but it’s a massive waste of money.

The bigger and sparklier the better IMO. If it’s cheap …. Even better!!!!

As others have said I wouldn’t know the difference or even look too closely anyway and I’ve often thought of doing the same anyway because I’m worried about losing or damaging an expensive ring.

There is a 0% chance that I would ever notice. Even if I was trying to spot the difference I couldn't!

Complete non issue. The only time engagement rings are judged is when you get engaged and even then only if you shove them in peoples faces.

My mum’s engagement ring was stolen, as was her replacement one. She now has a very nice 1ct diamond solitaire in 18ct gold. Everyone admires it. She always says that they couldn’t afford such a flashy ring when they got engaged, but could afford to when buying a replacement. She fails to mention that it’s actually QVC’s finest diamonique. No one has ever questioned it to my knowledge. Do whatever feels right for you.

Like everyone else, I can't imagine anyone would notice.

I would, however, look into getting your original ones enlarged - that's what I'm looking to do. You then have the sentimental connection to the rings from when you met and married.

I wouldn’t judge you and would probably admire them.

Congratulations on your long and successful marriage. After all this time you should get whatever you feel comfortable with!
Another option is if you have your original stones reset in a new band?

I don't think it's an issue at all op. However, my engagement ring, bought 31 years ago, wedding ring, bought 30 years ago (and blessed before God) and eternity bought 20 years ago are very very special to me. I'd have them resized. DH has once or twice said "we could replace those rings for something better" and I have said no.

My rings are irreplaceable from a sentimental perspective.

Anyone who judges you is an arse.

I’d not notice. The only time I have any idea of what a piece of jewellery costs is when someone shows me something and has to divulge the value.
The strength of the relationship and vows is what matters, not what the ring is made of.

So if people judge and think it’s cheap, will it change your mind and make you buy diamonds? Honestly, it’s your ring, no-one else cares

If people did judge then it's a far bigger reflection on them than you.

Definitely not true that jewellers can only tell by weighing.

I am trained and I could tell by looking at your stones that they were not diamond and also that they are CZ. However, I am in the minority and I wouldn't judge at all.

If you love your jewellery and it makes you happy and stands for something to you, why should anyone else get an opinion?

I'm not sure many people could tell the difference, I definitely couldn't. After a recent very stressful episode where my mum lost a piece of highly expensive diamond jewellery, it has made me more convinced I have no desire to own expensive jewellery. Cheap ones look just as pretty and don't come with the stress and worry!

If you like them and are happy with them who else’s business is it.
My wedding ring cost under £70.00 and people who knew implied my hubby was cheap. The look on their faces when I say we went wedding ring shopping together and it was my choice, I’m more about what the ring means than the cost of it.