Posts that never make it to MN

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"A colleague came round the office yesterday with a collection envelope for someone in another team who is retiring. I've only worked there two weeks and I've never met the person leaving. Colleague asked me if I wanted to donate. I said no politely, explaining I'm new and I don't know them. She said 'oh that's right, you wouldn't really have had anything to do with them would you' and moved on to the next person."

"My DH's friend is getting married next year and has just arranged a week-long stag do in Prague in March. We have one DC under two and I'm due to give birth to our second in February. DH told me last night he'd been invited on the stag do but declined because we'll be too busy with the new baby and elder DC. He's going to go out for a curry one night with the groom-to-be and a couple of other mates who can't make it instead."

Any more?

DH has a hobby (cycling, he loves it, and it's quite popular) which he does every Sunday morning for four hours with friends. He gets the children up and dresses them and gives them breakfast without waking me, then takes them to his mum's where they play with their similar aged cousins all morning in MIL's huge garden while she makes a roast lunch for us all. He goes off cycling, I get up late, lounge, drink coffee, catch up on some reading, then we all meet at Mail's at 1 for delicious food.

Oh wait... IABU!

A friend texted me to ask if I could do her shopping / walk her dog / give her somewhere to stay for a while. I said 'No'. She replied with 'That's absolutely fine, not a problem, I'll sort something elsewhere. Do you fancy a night out next week?'

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I've been invited to the evening do of a wedding of a friend I don't see that frequently. I can't wait, I'm really looking forward to it, and being in the evening means it's not a hassle for childcare!

"My MIL insists on buying DC lots of plastic toys. Last week she came in with a big outdoor slide. I said it was really kind of her but we don't have the space. She said not to worry, she and FIL would keep it in their garden for when DC is at their house. I said that was ideal, thanks. DC and I went over this morning and he had a great time playing on it."

The Grandparents spend a lot more on DDs at birthdays and Christmas then we do. Its great as we can then save our money for things like holidays. We have never felt upstaged and the children think themselves lucky.

"My neighbour lives alone so rarely fills his bin. He knows we have an infant in nappies and told me yesterday that we can always pop an extra bag into his. Also, if I need milk/bread, just let him know as he pops to the shop every day anyway for a walk and a newspaper, and he'll just leave it on the doorstep in case baby is napping"

I could play this game all day!

"I looked out of the window and saw one of my neighbours driving into my parking space. I was going to give it five minutes and then have a word, but she'd moved by the time I next looked. I don't have a diagram."

I gave my MIL a spare key. No regrets.

We own the pavement outside our house. And are permitted to drive over it (since its ours) despite not an official drop curve. We don't own the road though...apparently the local airport does...

I understand everyone has different incomes and outgoing, along with a multitude of other life variables so I don't worry about asking whether I've got enough money for this that and the other, I just focus on me.

IABU

My neighbours have 2 cars , I have one. They asked if I'd mind them encroaching onto my parking space slightly while the son is hjome from uni. I said I don't mind at all as it doesn't inconvenience me in anyway and they are good neighbours.

@Aroundtheworldin80moves

We own the pavement outside our house. And are permitted to drive over it (since its ours) despite not an official drop curve. We don't own the road though...apparently the local airport does...

You beat me to it!

Home alone, not expecting anyone today.
Doorbell rang, I answered it, and it was one of the workmen working on our house asking to use the toilet. I let him.
I then went to the shop and was asked for ID from a pleasant young man, figuring it's just his job because I showed him my driving licence, as I keep it in my purse because I get asked in a few places, and I got my bottle of wine.

I then came home and cooked a chicken that fed my family of 4 for one meal, with a normal size salad.

“My neighbours played their music loudly last night. I went over, knocked on the door and asked them to turn it down. They did and I went to bed”

I have no opinion whatsoever about Harry and Meghan.

DH and I hardly ever have sex these days. We both prefer this and enjoy being lazy together without pressure to get energetic. When we rarely have sex we enjoy it and laugh about "we much do that more often" but we know we won't. We are both happy.

A few weeks ago my adult dd (36) asked if she could ask one of her old school friends and school friend's dh with two boisterous under fives to join her camping at ours for 4 or 5 days over the August Bank Holiday, obviously using our bathroom, kitchen etc as necessary. I said yes of course!

Oh, hold on I'm expecting them all later today, perhaps it could yet be a post

'Oh good, Masterchef again. What a great presenter Gregg Wallace is.'

'Really enjoyed last night's episode of The Archers. What a great standard they keep up, decades in. Character-driven storylines, consistent characterisation, excellent plotting. I particularly like the amusing incidents.'

[for context, I start the threads on TA and over the course of thousands and thousands of posts and many years I could probably count on the fingers of one hand the number of posts like that one above - and yet we still listen ... ]

'We had a lovely Christmas. MIL gave me a jumper which is a bit too big, but she gave me the receipt so I can take it back and exchange it. So lovely to see her, and she was very complimentary about the meal.'

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“My friends are getting married soon. I received my invite today and they’ve included a cheesy poem asking for cash or vouchers. Thank god I can just bung £50 in a card and not have to come up with a thoughtful and meaningful gift”

@KineticSand

DH and I hardly ever have sex these days. We both prefer this and enjoy being lazy together without pressure to get energetic. When we rarely have sex we enjoy it and laugh about "we much do that more often" but we know we won't. We are both happy.

I could have written this

"DH and I are divorcing because I've been cheating with his best friend and working as a lap dancer and doing drugs and gambling all our money away. I know I'm the one in the wrong so I'm going to move out and DH will be the RP to the DC and stay in the house with them.".

"My ex and I split up 5 years ago and he has since met someone else and due to get married this weekend. It's not his weekend to have DD, but of course I was delighted that DDs new stepmum wanted DD as flower girl. She's a lovely woman and clearly dotes on my DD. I'd never say a bad word about her"

I forgot to add "and no, she's not the other woman"

OP:Am I Being Unreasonable about this?
MN: yes
OP: Okay, fair enough.