How often do you receive/make breakfast in bed

[KrispyKremezz]

Hello

How often do you make you partner breakfast in bed and vice versa?

I ask because I make it for my partner 5/6 times a week. Quick bowl of cereal most days with coffee, nothing extravagant but it’s always served to him in bed and I’m beginning to get annoyed that he’s becoming spoiled.

For context, he works nightshift and gets in around 6:00 and is back up for noon which is when he likes to have his breakfast in bed and just relax a little before starting his day.

Am I being too harsh or is he just acting entitled?

Never, both ways

10 year together, precisely 0 times for making or receiving.

No food in the bedrooms.

Hardly ever.

Maybe 3 or 4 times each way in the last 12 years.

Once a week each - he makes for me on a sat morning and I make for him on a Sunday. The odd week day he'll bring me up a coffee after he's brought the dog for a walk

Never unless we are ill.

Rarely. I hate breakfast in bed.
The children can have toast in bed if poorly.

He's very lucky! As long as he's not being an entitled arsehole about it, and you don't mind, why not spoil him?

Most people (with a regular 9-5 job) go to work after breakfast, so it's not generally a meal to be taken at leisure during the week. Nice at the weekend, though.

DH always makes me tea in bed at the weekend, but we get up for food - cba to eat it in bed.

Unless it's my birthday, or he suddenly feels like spoiling me....

Never

Never, I'd hate to eat breakfast in my bed. Does he expect/demand you bring him breakfast?

Maybe twice in almost 20 years as DH tends to be up before me. DH has bought it to me probably half a dozen times or so, usually for special occasions or if I'm in bed unwell.

Never. No food in bed. We call it Bread-xit because it started as no bread (ie toast) in bed

Never - we always have food downstairs. And he normally makes his own breakfast, even if I offer to cook eggs or something for the him and the children.

Not very often really. We’re both up fairly early most days so whoever is up first generally makes a cuppa for the other but that doesn’t really count given the other is up as well.
If either is hungover, non-hungover-one will make a bacon sarnie and a cup of coffee for the other, and if both are, it’s whoever surfaces first.

Birthday / Mother's Day / Father's Day. Sometimes I take my own breakfast back to bed if I'm hiding from my children though

Never either way, but I work night shift and sometimes take my morning meal (whatever you want to call it !) to bed with me.

Wow so hardly any of you actually make or receive it. Mostly due to no food in bed rule. Would it be different if that wasn’t an issue?

I feel like he expects it now rather than appreciates it. I know it’s not a huge deal it’s just a bowl of cereal and a coffee but even still it’s starting to annoy me, maybe because I don’t get the opportunity to have a lay in or to have that time to myself. It would be nice for him to bring me a cuppa out the blue once in a while. If I ask him to he would but never unexpectedly.

Am I just being a sensitive tit?

Never, but it's not something I like anyway. I can't get comfortable to sit and eat so I've never understood why it's supposed to be such a treat.

@CloseYourEyesAndSee He just asks me if I would be kind enough to do it and I do. I don’t jump with joy at the request though.

Never and never. Don’t really see the appeal to be honest. I wouldn’t really see it as a treat.

How has this become a thing for you?

Why doesn't he make and eat his breakfast downstairs like a normal person and then go up to bed afterwards?

Never.

Your partner isn't getting much sleep though, if he's in at 6 and awake by 12. Night work is brutal.

@KrispyKremezz if he doesn't appreciate or has started to expect it without gratitude I'd stop.

I wouldn't have it in bed even if we did eat snacks and things in bed as I don't think bed is a suitable place to eat breakfast.
I prefer to get up and out of bed but obviously that's a completely personal thing.

Cross posted. Do you live in the 1950s?

Am I being too harsh or is he just acting entitled?

Why do you do this? If it's because it suits your routine, crack on. For him to be acting entitled, he would IMO need to be insisting that you served him in this way, in which case once would be way too much for me

Which is it?

How much does he do around the house? It would make such a difference where he is on the spectrum between doing "almost everything" and " almost nothing"

For for me, even if he did almost everything, forcing or insisting I did something would never work for me.

Having read your update, I'd say: "I did it last time, it's your turn now" and stick to not doing it until he has done some favour or gesture for you.

Never, neither or us like it and we have kids and pets to get up with. If one of us is really tired, the other will let them sleep in and maybe bring a cup of tea up.