How often do you receive/make breakfast in bed

[KrispyKremezz]

Hello

How often do you make you partner breakfast in bed and vice versa?

I ask because I make it for my partner 5/6 times a week. Quick bowl of cereal most days with coffee, nothing extravagant but it’s always served to him in bed and I’m beginning to get annoyed that he’s becoming spoiled.

For context, he works nightshift and gets in around 6:00 and is back up for noon which is when he likes to have his breakfast in bed and just relax a little before starting his day.

Am I being too harsh or is he just acting entitled?

Wow I can’t believe breakfast in bed is so unpopular! I love it! But as a single mum the only time I get it is if I make it myself and take it back up or room service on holiday!
When I want coffee in bed it’s literally the only time I wish I had a husband!

My DH brings me mine every day. To be fair it used to be the other way round, when he had the long commute, but now he WFH, while I have a long trip, we’ve swapped.

Never, both ways. If he's around downstairs when I'm making myself a hot drink I'd make him one at the same time, but probably wouldn't take it to him. Same the other way around. The only time we'd make each other breakfast is if we were doing something hot, I would never make him cereal or expect him to do that for me.

Why does he get up at 12?

I hate breakfast in bed, so never. The only time I ever make breakfast for DH is if I'm cooking eggs or pancakes for everyone (once in a blue moon).

Never, hate food in bedrooms

DH Will very, very occasionally bring me coffee in bed if I wake with a migraine or I've had a really bad night with one of the kids. Never breakfast!

I get it every week day since LO was born, his alarm goes off early for work so I think he feels guilty (I do all night feeds and changes) and so he brings me breakfast. I’ve told him not to worry about it but he says he doesn’t mind. I try and do a weekend one for him in return.

Dh brings me a cup of tea every morning. But only cos he’s making one anyway and coming upstairs to get ready.

But don’t think breakfast in bed is something we’d do ever.

Though we stayed one night in a hotel last year when we took ds2 to Uni. Breakfasts were served in the room, so we had a big tray on the bed with eggs and toast etc which was a really lovely treat.

Nowadays, almost never.
DP often sleeps late at the weeken and I'll wake and read and then get up and have breakfast downstairs so I don't disturb him. Sometimes I'll take him a coffee up.
If he is here when he is on earlies he gets up and goes with as little disturbance as possible.

With late-DH we used to have breakfast in bed (pain au chocolat or croissants, coffee & juice) most weekend mornings. Either he'd get it or I would, probably worked out pretty even.

DH brings me tea in bed or upstairs while I am getting ready several times a week. Food only if I am poorly. He doesn't drink or eat in bed. Obviously if he's poorly I will make sure he has a drink and food if required.

I make DH breakfast in bed at least once over the weekend. Mostly I do it without asking but sometimes he'll text me to ask for it.
He brings me tea on weekdays if he's here, he'd do breakfast too but I'm not hungry until later in the day.

Never either way 🤷‍♀️

Never and have been married 25 years.

Pretty much never in 25 years unless you are ill. Occasionally a coffee at the weekend if we are both feeling lazy

I'd love a proper Hollywood breakfast in bed. Tiny vase with a flower in it. Fresh orange juice and French pastries 💕
If I'm very lucky DH will offer breakfast in bed, disappear for an hour at least and return with cold rock hard toast or a bowl of soggy cereal.

No food in bed, except squirty cream of course.

Only on holiday, when one of us will get up, walk round the the boulangerie to buy a baguette & croissants then make a pot of coffee to be enjoyed in bed.

Never happened in 13 years

@DGFB

Never, both ways

Same. Can't abide eating in bed!

It ends when you stop doing it!
He's a grown man ffs. If you weren't in he would move his lazy arse and get his own then take it back up with him if he wanted to play on his phone still.

I don’t think it matters how much other people have breakfast in bed (which to me means like a proper tray for Mother’s Day or something). What you’re describing is prob just making him breakfast and delivering to where he is, so question is about making someone their breakfast each day - which probably more people do dependent on morning tasks.

Your morning routine sounds unique in that he works a night shift so it might be more reasonable for you. Why he needs breakfast BEFORE waking up is weird though? I would think a coffee would suffice and then once he is awake he can make himself breakfast?

But your issue is because you clearly feel under appreciated, so maybe tell him that you do. Or start saying, sorry just a coffee today but cereal in the cupboard for when you get up. Or just start going for a run when he would normally wake up, so you break the habit of the task?

Never.

Spoiled isn't what you have it's an attitude. If he demands it then he's spoiled but I bet he really appreciates it, night shifts are a killer.

DH brings me a coffee in bed every weekend before he goes out with the dog, and sometimes he'll bring me croissants or pain au chocolat too.

He doesn't really eat breakfast so I've never made him anything to have in bed.