Loads of women have said they'll listen to you if you quit this one small thing, but no, you've deliberately chosen the approach that you knew would cause an argument.
No, it never works that way. There are people who will always find some reason to avoid confronting racism. "I would be happy to listen if you would only be less forceful in your approach, if you would only stop seeing racism where I don't see it, if you would only recognise that not all white people are racist, if you would only stop being so sensitive, if you would only realise that some white people just don't know any better," etc., etc., pathetic excuse after pathetic excuse. You may not like the use of the name Karen in this context. But surely you can look past it to the much more serious issue of racism that the Central Park incident brings into focus.
This thread is a prime example of a real problem in the wider culture.