Will my little boy get bullied!!??

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My little boy is about to start reception year at school, the school says he needs wellies to leave in the shed in the playground for when it gets muddy. He picked his own … pink sparkly Frozen wellies!! I absolutely love that he smashes those gender stereotypes, and while he was at nursery I didn’t care about him playing with dolls or wanting pink things …. But now he’s starting school im hesitant …. Kids can be horrible … do you think he’ll get bullied? It is reception class so the kids are only 4 / 5 but there will be older kids around the school yard

I'm impressed that your 17yo DS uses an umbrella of any colour😃. Most teenagers seem to walk around like drowned rats these days, rather than use an umbrella.

Really depends on school and area, where I am some would frown more on Spider-Man/diggers etc

Go with what you're happy with, you can please them all.

Sorry that was for @itsgettingwierd

I'd let him wear his wellies. It'll be fine I'm sure and they are his choice. If there is a problem with anyone being unkind about it the school will let you know,I think it's a great choice ☺️. Hope he enjoys his first year!

Why can't he wear the wellies? It's reception class!

The thing with trying to pre-empt bullying is that while other kids can be cruel they can also be fairly random.

Trying to second-guess them won't stop you from being a target of bullies, who can zero in on anything. At my school I was friends with a boy who turned out to be gay, and it wasn't a surprise. He used to try to make himself as unobtrusive and forgettable as possible, certainly no flamboyant pink glittery clothing. It didn't work, the bully boys in our year zeroed in on his mannerisms, his voice, his small physique.

Ticking all the right "traditional feminine" boxes also didn't help a girl in my year when the popular clique decided to turn on her.

You simply can't live your life according to what bullies want to dictate. You can't let them take up that mental space. You can't teach your children to let them live in that sort of fear. Be who you are, do what you want, and yes you might get picked on for it - stand up for yourself and your loved ones.

My friend who got bullied is now extremely happy and successful, and enjoys being a lot more flamboyant than he allowed himself to be at school.

I'd just send them. They're only in reception. Half of them will wet themselves at some point during the year, at least one will cry every day and make a fuss going in, they all come out smeared in mud and baked beans. They really don't care about sparkly pink wellies at this age, other than to be envious.