I need advice from you females.
I've found out that the love of my life, my soul mate, my everything, has been cheating on me.
She's 22 and from the moment I set eyes on her when picking my teenagers up from the pub I knew she was going to be mine. We had a long courtship and she eventually moved into my new bedsit (my ex is a crazy bitch who took me for every penny, the house, the car, the kids and the dog) a fortnight later because she was being made homeless.
Things were great, she's been on furlough for the last year and a half, so we spent every moment together, but then she announced that she was looking for a new job and started becoming secretive with her new phone. I mean, it's still left around but when I went to use it whilst she was asleep as normal, it came up with the fingerprint thing. I happened to use her laptop later at 4am and her email account asked for a password, too.
I didn't say anything, but then she got a new job and started doing things like buying clothes and getting her hair done, even wearing makeup to go to work. And then I saw a message come up on her phone from 'Sam' who is her new boss, asking her if she could work tomorrow. She says this Sam is a Samantha, but got really cagey when I said I wanted to come into her work and meet them, saying that I can't just walk into a Nursery full of children to say hello. Well, that's not true because I picked up one of the kids can't remember which one from Nursery once in 2004 and they said hello to me first.
My problem is that since I started picking her up from work to save her the 17.53 minutes home takes her to walk, she's been distant and on the last time I couldn't make it, she took 22 minutes and claimed she was talking to a parent. So I waited outside her work the following day with a big bunch of flowers and saw her smiling and speaking to a man. She reckons he's one of the parents and she wasn't flirting. She apologised and I thought everything was fine and we could get on with having a baby - she loves my kids, has been homeschooling them all through lockdown whilst I looked for a job, so I just know she'd be a brilliant mum.
Fast forward a month and I've come home from signing on to find all her stuff gone and she won't answer her phone and when I went to her work, they said she had left and said they'd call the police if I went there again.
I really love her, I can't eat, I can't sleep i can't operate the washing machine , she's my world. I can forgive her for cheating on me, but how do I tell her that when she won't even answer my 78 calls and 127 text messages on all forms of social media that I've sent her? Every couple has their ups and downs, but surely I've got a right to know where she is, that she's safe with this man and to tell her that I've found the glasses that fell off her head last Tuesday when she tripped and fell whilst we were discussing her finding a different job?