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I did something daring today... do you think I'll get a reply?

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aurynne · 16/08/2021 01:31

I was at the Drs. waiting room today and a gentleman came in and sat by my side. We looked briefly and smiled at each other. I thought he looked like a really nice person, not gorgeously handsome but there was something in him that made me want to know a bit more. He was well dressed and was wearing a name tag but I did not find the way to properly read it without being very obvious. I was trying to find an excuse to talk to him when I was called in to my appointment.

When I finished he was gone. I was just about to leave myself, when I stopped and thought: "What the hell, what do you have to lose?". So I asked the receptionist: "Excuse me, I'm going to be cheeky but, if I pass you a note would you be able to give it to the gentleman who was sitting by my side about 20 min ago?". She smiled at me looking amused and said that it could be arranged.

So I quickly scribbled this on the back of a receipt: "Hello, I am the lady sitting by your side at the waiting room earlier. I was wondering, would you like to go for a coffee one day? If not, I just hope this note made your day. Aurynne, 555-3453", and a smiley face.

I can't believe I did that!!! I'm 45, no spring chicken, but I am feeling quite excited. I have no idea whether the man is married, has a girlfriend, is gay or celibate, but even if I get no answer I am enjoying imagining his face when he gets the note. Which I really hope he gets. I want to know where he works, and why he was wearing a name tag. And what his name is. And most of all, whether he thought he'd like to know me too, or if it was all in my head only.

Do you think I'll get a reply?

Has anyone else done something like this? Please tell me what happened while I nervously wait for a message that may never arrive!!!

OP posts:

Lumpwoody · 16/08/2021 08:16

And it’s not even just romantic interest stalking. My ex in law spent a disproportionate amount of time reporting me to every official body they could think of for nothing. They stalked where I got prescriptions from, my doctor, the shops I went to. Sat outside my house and reported strange cars to the police. (They were eventually marked a s a malicious reporter but it took a while).

EarringsandLipstick · 16/08/2021 08:16

@christmascrazylady

If I went to the doctors and the receptionist gave me a note from a man sitting next to me I'm not sure I would be impressed that a professional medical centre would take part in this attempted hookup. Sorry but if you where s man it would come across as creepy

Absolutely this.

Sorry I don't see this as 'brave' or 'charming'. You were in a doctor's surgery together for a few minutes. It seems bizarre that tiny interaction would make you think of asking him for coffee.

It's totally different to a scenario where you had a conversation but no chance to share your number.

And yes, I'd be really unimpressed with the receptionist.

Sparklingbrook · 16/08/2021 08:17

It's not unprofessional to pass on a note that was left

IMO it is if it's a GP Receptionist but not if it was, say, a barman or waiter at a restaurant.

Lumpwoody · 16/08/2021 08:17

I would report the receptionist to the practice manager and ask that they put a rule in place not to pass on notes from people in future.

HalzTangz · 16/08/2021 08:18

@Lumpwoody

Passing the note wouldn’t be a gdpr breach but it would be the wrong thing for the receptionist to do.

It’s not for a receptionist to judge an interaction and decide if it’s safe or not for a note to be passed. I would expect they have a blanket rule.

So you've never ever in your life been passed a note left to you buy a receptionist.

I get notes left all the time, some coffee meets (personal messages) some work related.
These notes are passed through our receptionists.
They don't break any GDPR rules.

Iloveginger · 16/08/2021 08:18

@Lumpwoody

The op will know who she is *@50ShadesOfCatholic* but she won’t know her motivations.

Do you know that I’m normal looking at me? That my ex isn’t a stalker? That’s some skills you’ve got if so.

Perhaps the contents of the note might be a give away . ‘Hey call me if you like 000008976. woman pink jumper in docs office”

‘ picture of dead kittens. I’m watching you’

streamsofwords · 16/08/2021 08:18

@Galassia

You can’t be in the U.K. op as all our doctors receptions are sour faced harridans.

How will she get the note to him? I think she was just being polite to you and will bin the note as I don’t think she is allowed to look up how records and get his address?

I assume he'd come out from his appointment as he went in after the OP.

Lumpwoody · 16/08/2021 08:18

I know it doesn’t breach gdpr rules. I said that.

And no. I’ve never had a note passed to me by my doctors receptionist.

AbsolutelyPatsy · 16/08/2021 08:19

good for you !

StarryStarrySocks · 16/08/2021 08:20

I guarantee the receptionist was just humouring you, and that note has gone straight in the bin.

headintheproverbial · 16/08/2021 08:20

@SquirryTheSquirrel

In the UK, for the receptionist to use his details for the purpose of passing on a note would be a GDPR breach - she should only be accessing his data for the purposes it was collected for. Not sure if the same is true where the OP is (guessing from format of phone number it isn't the UK).

Obviously the OP meant no harm, but there are situations where this sort of thing could be very frightening - abusive ex using this method is one that leaps to mind.

I'm not sure we should really be cheering this on.

OFFS.

Lindtnotlint · 16/08/2021 08:21

The fun sponges really are out in force on this one. Good for you, and hope you get a reply. :-)

Sparklingbrook · 16/08/2021 08:22

@StarryStarrySocks

I guarantee the receptionist was just humouring you, and that note has gone straight in the bin.

I had the same thought!

AbsolutelyPatsy · 16/08/2021 08:22

why didnt you just hang around outside?

Ticksallboxes · 16/08/2021 08:22

I hope the receptionist passes it on and he calls you!

When I was in my late-20s I'd just returned from a long round the world trip and was waitressing. One evening this gorgeous man came in on his own at sat in my section. He was reserved but keen to chat and I got a vibe from him. I ended up giving him my phone number with his bill.

He never called and I was very upset, but met the love of my life a month later. He came in again a couple of months later with his partner and they both kept staring at me which was awkward.

I could never understand though why he came to eat in a swanky restaurant in the evening on his own, unless he'd only just met his GF when they came together.

rainbowstardrops · 16/08/2021 08:24

It sounds like the opening pages of a romance novel ........

StopCryingYourHeartOut · 16/08/2021 08:25

Regarding weekend appointments. I used to live in Australia and my local GP clinic was open Saturdays and Sundays. And you just turned up, no need to book either and was always seen within half an hour.
So this OP could be overseas.

WafflesOrIceCream · 16/08/2021 08:25

😍

Lumpwoody · 16/08/2021 08:26

A doctors is a different type of place to working in a bar or restaurant.

I don’t get why you’d cheer this on. I do feel out of kilter and I know that’s because I was watched for so long but it really makes me anxious to think my doctor receptionist would pass on a note like that and not just put it on the bin.

sycamore54321 · 16/08/2021 08:26

“ So you've never ever in your life been passed a note left to you buy a receptionist.

I get notes left all the time, some coffee meets (personal messages) some work related.
These notes are passed through our receptionists.”

You really can’t see the difference in your own receptionist passing you on a message and this scenario in a medical setting where there is a clear expectation of patient confidentiality?

Shirleyphallus · 16/08/2021 08:27

Fancy feeling so “incredibly uncomfortable” over a post on an Internet forum that may or may not even be true

Polkadotties · 16/08/2021 08:27

How does this breach GDPR? 😂

AdelindSchade · 16/08/2021 08:29

It's not being 'uptight' but recognising that certain roles have professional boundaries that are best kept within - for many good reasons. So if the receptionist has any sense it will not have been passed on.

DarlingFell · 16/08/2021 08:29

@christmascrazylady

Are you always such a mood hoover?

Lumpwoody · 16/08/2021 08:29

It makes me feel @Shirleyphallus that I need to ask at my doctors what their policy would be.

I have ptsd and anxiety due to past experience and it’s making me very anxious. Yes.

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