@Nettleskeins
At the same age as Boris (55) with grownup children I confess I find the whole idea of a complete new family (for him) incredibly odd. Like an impulse in his part, although clearly not on hers. She is driving this, nothing wrong with that if he is malleable enough to be sucked in and treats her well, but it is just.. odd. And I wonder if as the years go by he is increasingly like someone detached from the whole process or dare I say disassociating. There is obviously a traumatic association in his mind with family life . Children, siblings and mothers "good"...fathers...well, role model confused
Spot on. I'm the same age as well and the idea of having another family again is, I suspect, nothing to do with him. He's just a pleaser/wants to be liked. He'll be mid-70s when this one goes to university.
But the thought of that thing looming over you, humping away.