@Nettleskeins
At the same age as Boris (55) with grownup children I confess I find the whole idea of a complete new family (for him) incredibly odd. Like an impulse in his part, although clearly not on hers. She is driving this, nothing wrong with that if he is malleable enough to be sucked in and treats her well, but it is just.. odd. And I wonder if as the years go by he is increasingly like someone detached from the whole process or dare I say disassociating. There is obviously a traumatic association in his mind with family life . Children, siblings and mothers "good"...fathers...well, role model confused
Yeah, when I'm his age my oldest will be 31. People would think I was crazy if I started again (ignoring biology)!But people don't bat an eyelid when it's the man- probably because they don't expect them to be too involved. Can't imagine Bozo doing night feeds or angsting over baby's milestones.