Bring your worries over here, the Night Shift are still here to mind them

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

New thread here, since the Last Thread has ever so slowly filled up. Isn't it amazing how little our worries crept up in the night when the world was actually one big worry?

Pandemic or not, this is the place to just park your worries. We don't ask questions, or try to solve your problems. We just hold them, tenderly, carefully, until you are strong enough to take them back. If they choose not to come back, all the better.

Signing in for the Night Shift, V3!

@stilldumdedumming, I hear you and that is a lot to worry about. It must be quite frightening, and so very exhausting. I'm so sorry 💐

Glad your lovely parents are coming . You need some loveys. Until then, just leave all of this here. We've got this. You just let it be for a wee while. that's it . Just let it go .

That's hard going @stilldumdedumming.
I'm glad you've left it here even if it's just for a little while.
I hope you get a some rest.

@Hawkaye and @2018SoFarSoGreat thank you- I've just woken up now!

I mean I had a lovely few hours kip. Delicious!

well done!
I know it's not much but hopefully it gives you the strength to carry on.

How are your dd and dh doing today?

Oh dd is a teenager! She bounced back just fine!

Dp is sad and worried. He is not used to being down. He was already struggling with how different his life is (he can't drive or work) but he was getting on with it. The this has set him back. I have told him to lick his wounds for a few days. I know he will rally.

Any one who wants to drop their worries off for the night can pop them over here with me and the cat. I’ll take good care of them while you sleep; the cat may chew them a little, so you may not want them back.

I’m here too, at least for a while in person. If I do drop off as my worries are being so excellently minded, you can pass them over anyway.

I have a playlist of soothing audiobooks that will both calm your worries and keep them occupied. They’ll be too interested in it to come back and bother you tonight.

I’m also here.

I’ve done something I shouldn’t and to sleep would not be wise. Not for me.

Happy to sit quietly with worries or woes. 🌻

Reporting in for worry minding duty. Fling it all my way.

Had a bad car accident on the motorway today and now that the shock has faded and I’m home safe, I’m feeling strangely robust and very lucky. Anyway, it’s hard to explain but I can hold onto the troubles of others well tonight.

Hope everyone is doing well/hanging in there. 😘

Blessings counted for you tonight bitofashitshow, blessings counted 🌻

@SheldonesqueTheBstard 🙂

@SheldonesqueTheBstard

I’m also here.

I’ve done something I shouldn’t and to sleep would not be wise. Not for me.

Happy to sit quietly with worries or woes. 🌻

@SheldonesqueTheBstard I have done and still do many unwise things. I hope you’re OK

You can send all of that to me if you like, or you can let me send the worry-nibblers to you? You don’t need to sleep if you don’t feel it would be wise, just let it go to us

Thank you for the offer of the worry nibblers.

I watched a documentary tonight and really should not have done. It wasn’t and isn’t my pain to feel.

But sometimes when you hurt for others, you are reminded of things closer to home. I just don’t want the dreams.

I’m watching recorded stuff now. Just to change tempo.

But thank you.

Hi everyone. I have started doing some self care, joined Slimming World bought myself some new clothes. DH and I have decided to pursue a no fault divorce next year when the laws change. I am scared. What if I can't find myself again? I had to sleep today due to illness and painkillers, but I feel disgusted with myself. I'm trying to work on self compassion but it's hard. To make matters worse last week I felt terribly guilty about the children not going on holiday and so I bought them some toys and new clothes. I have most of their back to school stuff so there isn't anything we can't manage without, but I feel guilty and stupid for making the wrong choices.

I'm trying so hard to pull myself but it is so hard. I can't pour from an empty cup though and I have felt and looked scruffy and downtrodden for years. I would pursue a divorce with faults but I can't bear any more nastiness. Putting my needs first isn't something I am used to doing but I really need to strengthen myself. I just had to tell someone.

You are amongst friends here.

We all mosey through this life the best we can. Some skip through it gaily. Mere mortals sometimes have to drag ourselves through it day by day.

We can’t always do it perfect. Sometimes we have to make compromises we really don’t want to just so that we can pull ourselves forward.

Yes. It sucks. But it is for the greater good.

And one day you’ll smudge on a bit of lippy. Maybe do your hair salon stylee. Maybe one day (soon hopefully) you will shake yourself and grin and rejoice in how far you’ve come. But until then, puddle through.

Start working on what makes you happy. You will get there. You and your bairns.

Till then? I am a scruffy bint who could do better with myself. But I have broad shoulders and an ample backside for squashing down worries.

I’ve got you - everything is always better after a sleep. 🌻 x

And your name is telling me you are halfway there my friend.

One day your wings will unfurl and you will rise victorious surrounded by the magnificence you have within.

Hang in there phoenixrising 🌻

Thank you Sheldon. I have just woken up and seen this, it really helps that you responded, I am very grateful for your kindness.

I'm meant to be tidying or packing. I have no energy to do either. I have to leave at 6 tomorrow. Do I try and catch a couple of hours sleep then tidy and pack? Or carry on for a couple of hours then sleep?

My 5 month old has been admitted to hospital with bronchiolitis. My 22 month old has just recovered from chest infection. I haven't slept in 2 weeks, I have an awful cold and cough, I'm so tired and trying not to cough and wake him up. Husband isn't allowed to be here due to covid restrictions. It feels very lonely.

Signing in for support too please. A few niggles with day care and house purchases. And perimenopause is giving me insomnia and headaches. Nothing I can't handle but I'll happily exchange them for someone else's just for the night. It's easier to check on other people's worries...

@Phoenixrising2020 finding yourself is hard but it sounds like you are on the journey. Stare at the ceilings for a while. Maybe even close your eyes. I'll keep your worries company.

@MistySkiesAfterRain well.... if you start packing the wrong things in the wrong place and do that at least 3 times I'd say stop and sleep... 4 hours kip is not a bad nap. Do you have to drive tomorrow?

Oh @Pregnancyhell that sounds miserable. Is anyone else allowed to help you? You must be running on empty.

Hello, I was hoping for a great night’s sleep tonight - never mind! Happy to look after some worries - @Pregnancyhell and @TerrificTeapot - please just leave those with me and get yourselves some well earned rest now. Things always look better in the morning, remember.

No, train, I've decided to have an hour and a half now to refresh, and another hour and a half on the train.