Bring your worries over here, the Night Shift are still here to mind them

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

New thread here, since the Last Thread has ever so slowly filled up. Isn't it amazing how little our worries crept up in the night when the world was actually one big worry?

Pandemic or not, this is the place to just park your worries. We don't ask questions, or try to solve your problems. We just hold them, tenderly, carefully, until you are strong enough to take them back. If they choose not to come back, all the better.

Signing in for the Night Shift, V3!

@OnceUponAMidnightBeery Awww! What a beauty! I should have left my anxiety with you and him last night as you did such a good job the night before!

@2018SoFarSoGreat I hope you got some rest.

May I join in?

@2018SoFarSoGreat, just want to say I feel for you. My mum told me on the phone last weekend she thinks she's failing, that this last year has aged her five years. Currently waiting for my passport to be renewed so I can make plans to travel to Ireland. It feels like an age since I've been back.

Thank you all . I feel better just knowing I've written down what was worrying new, and that you lovely lot have me tucked in safely.

@mathanxiety that's so hard. I'm so sorry. I was so lucky to get 6 weeks of extra vacation for three years so that I could be with my mum. It really helped, just being there. Lifted the load on my sister too, thankfully.

I hope your passport comes soon and that you can go be with her. See how she is for yourself. 💐

2018

I’ve nothing helpful to say. I dread the day.

I just want to say there is a fat hand here and a bosie across the miles if you ever feel the need.

Your jitters can be unjittered if I knacker them out with a rousing 3 hour version of the slosh.

May you find happiness in little unexpected places my friend 🌻 x

Thank god for this thread. Sitting here with covid. Bit scared and glad youre all there x

ah @Boatonthehorizon that's horrid. I hope you don't feel too unwell, and that you don't get worse. That's so frightening!

We are here. And will stay with you as you go through this. The fear and worry will be cuddled and squished and pecked until it lets you heal. Just rest up, take all the help you can find, and let your body get better. Go on. We've got you.

boat

You poor soul. May your body be strong enough to fight it and may your sleeps help your body to heal.

I’m a great believer in sleep - I don’t get much of it myself but my body will let me sleep like the gods if I need to find strength to keep going.

May you find strength in your sleeps.
Try not to be too scared - easier said than done I know. But there are many here who can take your fears for the night. It is easier carrying someone else’s fear somehow.

Blessings
🌻 x

[quote ABitOfAShitShow]@OnceUponAMidnightBeery Awww! What a beauty! I should have left my anxiety with you and him last night as you did such a good job the night before!

@2018SoFarSoGreat I hope you got some rest. [/quote]
The little sod is a cutie, and he knows it! He might actually charm any worries away, or as I’ve probably offered before, squirm them into submission....

Just leave whatever you need to right here. We’ll mind it for you.

@Boatonthehorizon

Thank god for this thread. Sitting here with covid. Bit scared and glad youre all there x

@Boatonthehorizon we’re all here to take care of your worries. Honestly this thread has given me so much peace and actual decent sleep! It’s amazing.

I've never actually baby sat a worry before and I don't have any cute animals to scratch the night away with but I'd like to try.

We judge ourselves harshly in relationships. Please remember he is also getting to know you and if he is as decent as you say he is, he will forgive insecurities. Try to remember something fun you've done together whilst I hold onto the anxiety. I can also hold the thoughts of covid and missed mums whilst I listen to those snoring around me. Until my son's midnight wake-up at least.

welcome, @Hawkaye. You sound just perfectly qualified to join the Worry Warriors. Thank you for being willing. Tis a lovely job; one that warms your heart and lets you do a little bit of good for someone else while distracting you from your own worries and fears.

Thank you for holding my Missed Mum thoughts. It is so helpful, truly.

I'm humbled. 🙇‍♀️

Sorry that's very funny. My phone has a woman bowing so mumsnet interprets it as a man bowing with a female sign afterwards. The irony.
That has made my night right there. It means I'll be able to stay awake for a bit longer with those worries.

Hello, checking in. Just a few work worries niggling at me at the moment. I am happy to take anything on if anyone needs to get a bit of rest tonight.

@Bearsbearsbears40 consider those work worries gone. We've got them for you so that you can just rest. Don't give them another thought. We will hold them tightly and only let them return if you really miss them.

Sleep well.

Thank you!

Shouldering on with you @2018SoFarSoGreat.

We've got you @Bearsbearsbears40. Sleep tight.

Who knows? maybe you'll wake up with a eureka solution to your niggles!

This is such a lovely idea for a thread. I'm an anxious person anyway and worry can dominate my life.

Two big worries are keeping me awake tonight. I'm self employed and have a major contract starting with a client in October and there are rumours the client is about to go under. This work would represent half my income for the next year.

The other is my DD has food allergies and will start school in September. I spoke to the administrator today to sort out the meeting with the catering team and they said being a packed lunch. I don't want her to take a pack up, they assured me
Allergies were catered for. I would have chosen another school if they had said they weren't. And worse she's a terrible eater so really needs the peer pressure of a shared lunch to get her to eat anything. She's literally only just turned 4 and she seems too young to have all this going on for her. (And me!)

Thank you everyone. I will try to sleep and let you look after these fears til morning

yukoandhiro

Your worries have been sat with me all night (work) and they are away to come with me to feed the ducks. I hope you got a sleep and I’m sorry I couldn’t reply.

I’m sorry about the work worry. Ultimately my lovely there is nothing you can do with that apart from protect yourself if the work does commence for them. I’m a great believer in one door closing and another opening though. May that be the case for you if the worst happens - but I really hope it doesn’t. 🤞🏼

As for your wee one? I can see how that would cause you such anxiety. Is it always going to be a packed lunch or is it just until they can assess your little one’s needs?

I can heave that worry about with me until someone more knowledgeable and soothing comes along.

Thinking happy and positive thoughts that all can come good for you
🌻 x

Thank you for helping with my (pretty petty) niggles overnight. Hope to return the favour when it’s needed.

(@YukoandHiro I love your username!)

It has been a long morning so I couldn't hand the worries back on time.
They've been good and seemed to have not multiplied in the night.
It wasn't so bad for a first worry sitting session! I name change a lot out of sheer paranoia but I'll be back to help when I can.

Signing in for the night shift. Any worries can keep me company while the cat tries to take over the bed!

I'm on an all-nighter to finish 3 essays. The news has been really depressing on Afghanistan and climate change.

Plus my health issues.

Fucking horrible bastard infertility.

Since having DD a few months ago I'm worried I've fallen out of love with DH. He's a good man in many ways but since a phone hiding period in my third trimester resulting in me discovering he had a porn habit when he told me my belly was a turn off, I just can't get over it. Since having DD the majority of physical affection has been sexually orientated. Tbh he's never been the cuddle type or just a respectful hug. I can't look at him in the same way any more. But I want to work things out. I haven't discussed this with him. Not sure how.