Bring your worries over here, the Night Shift are still here to mind them

[2018SoFarSoGreat]

New thread here, since the Last Thread has ever so slowly filled up. Isn't it amazing how little our worries crept up in the night when the world was actually one big worry?

Pandemic or not, this is the place to just park your worries. We don't ask questions, or try to solve your problems. We just hold them, tenderly, carefully, until you are strong enough to take them back. If they choose not to come back, all the better.

Signing in for the Night Shift, V3!

Beaten to it by the big guns 😊 and Klatchian’s cat 😉

As it should be. ☺️

I feel as though I’m coming home. x

@SheldonesqueTheBstard and your Stink Eye are not ever beaten - you ARE A BIG GUN!

(I'm practicing my own wee stink eye, to join you :))

Welcome home.

2018

I’m sure your stink eye will be magnificent 😉

It is a Sheldon family trait. We are born with it. Stinking in and by numbers if you will 😉

The Elvis sneery lip thing isn’t quite so honed. See? 🥴

Fucking fuck.
Can I please join?

I'm very much feeling the puffling love. Pufflings are important to me.

Otherwise, I'm properly angry that my sister died. Really fiercely cross. Right now.
I know I can't change it.
My smallest DD wrote her a letter tonight, and my heart is ragged.
I know this is not constructive, but I really loved her. I really love her actually. Past tense inapplicable.
It's just shit, and a handhold would be nice.

As you were.

Just dropping in to wish you wonderful, warm, kind people good luck for the night shift. This is the best thread on Mumsnet xx

@Nextlevelnonsense
Love, like starlight, never dies

@2018SoFarSoGreat
What an endlessly kind thread this is. I had some dreadful sleepless nights this year, like never before. In the heart of hearts I knew that in the light of day things will get better, but getting through the darkness was torture. Sometimes just getting to the next day is all that's needed and yet it's so unbearably hard.

nextlevelnonsense

I don’t know if you’ve ever seen Steel Magnolias but in the same vein as the much missed Clairee in the scene with Ouiser, you can hit me. Slap me. And you can tell the world you slapped Sheldonesque the B’stard.

I can’t imagine your pain and you are living one of my worst nightmares.

You be angry. You deserve to be angry.

And get it out. And then grieve. And I will hold your pain as you mourn.

Fat hand here for you. All day long and twice on Sundays. x 🌻

@SecretOfChange - thank you
Love is a verb, and I'm struggling with that part.
Just right now.
I wish she could reply to the letter, because it's quite beautiful.
I will somehow escape this thought pattern soon.

@Nextlevelnonsense I'm so sorry. Your grief sounds all consuming.

I'm sorry you are in so much pain. The letter sounds so beautiful and such emptiness where the should be her reply.

I'll hold some little part of this care for you. Try to rest.

@Nextlevelnonsense I don't have a sister but my cousin who was 3 years younger than me died when she was 31 and it took me years to process it and begin to understand how I feel about it the confusion and shock is so difficult. Healing needs time, but describing feelings (even incorrectly) and speeds up the healing process a little. Lots of love and hope you get some sleep x

May I join? I'm a big fat hideous mess. Recently split with cheating bastard ex (I have a thread)
My mental health is in tatters, cptsd and all the fun and games that go with it. Currently sobbing on the sofa because I'm scared to go to bed. Crying is making the pain of the broken ribs he left me with worse.

@SheldonesqueTheBstard -
I knew she would die
She deserved a lot more from life though.
She had 5-10 years in January
She died in May
She was exceptionally beautiful, not that it's important
Bloody relevant when I can see her face constantly.
She was magnificent. Not like the miserable twat that is Mons Lisa.
She was supposed to come home, but that didn't happen.
I had to say goodbye through a fucking hospital window. My parents held her hand,. Nobody else allowed in.
Covid really fucked stuff up.

I've been really strong, but tonight I want to scream into the void
Any void, really

welcome, @FrasierCraneDay. I'm so sorry you are in pain, physically and mentally. I'm sending you a big Worry Warrior hug - can you feel it? Now you just let it all flow over here, and we shall take care of it while you get some rest. Just rest. That's it. No more worries for now; when you are ready they can come back - or they can bugger off, whichever you prefer. If a Worry Cat gets to them first. you will never see them again.

@FrasierCraneDay
You are very brave
I hope he falls into a pit, and suffocates
Very slowly
By inhaling his own faeces

I'm pleased that you managed to escape, and were brave enough to do it.
I know that it's easier to stay.

You are incredibly strong.

Thankyou both for the replies. I'm just so lost right now and don't see a way out

Scream to me. Scream to everyone here. We will echo your pain so it can be heard by the world.

From your description. I see her as a magnificent Boudicca - screaming out her presence as she arrives in a chariot pulled by fiery black horses.

You have been robbed. You have been cheated. It shouldn’t be this way and I’m so sorry for that.

But I will tell you this. On your sister’s journey to her next realm, she will be carried by a love so fierce and true that she will feel it always. And her magnificence will never be forgotten as you have painted such a vivid picture it will imprint on the memory of all you speak of her to.

I’m sorry it wasn’t what you expected. I’m sorry it wasn’t the life you or she deserved to have together.

I am.

But your pride and love for her shine. And she will have felt that strongly. Even through glass.

@Nextlevelnonsense I am crying with you, hearing your love and your pain and your rage. I can hear it.

Your sister sounds like a Sister to beat all sisters! How lucky you were to have each other. I bet she felt your love through that glass, and it carried her on her next journey.

Scream here, scream as loud as you can, then leave it all with us. Right here, we've got it. Just for tonight, while you just breathe, and rest, and heal. Tomorrow you can come back again if you need to, and for as many tomorrows as you need. We'll still be here, holding your pain and sorrow tenderly for you. The rage we shall not be quite so tender, but we shall hold it until it quiets.

Let it all out. Now just breathe. Big breaths. Still your body. We've got you. You are in such good hands with us.

This place just gets more beautiful.

I’ve been too worried to worry about people I love and it bothers me that I am neglecting these people by not worrying. Does that make any sense?

My brother might lose his house. Tomorrow I’ll find out more, but it’s night here now so can someone please handle?

Ah @Hannayeah that's really scary and sad. I've got that one for you, and we'll be sending strength and love to you all.

Please don't worry about neglecting anyone here. We are a team, and always open to new warriors joining us, so we can take turns. You've taken so many turns and will do so again, when you can.

For now, let it go. Give it over. That's it. I've got you. You just rest ❤️

Please can you take my worries. These are things I can’t change and are in the past, yet still they crushingly weigh on my mind.

💕Thank you

@Wearethetwirl yes. Of course. Leave them right here. You don't need to hold onto them. In fact, perhaps you can try to park them right here and leave them be for a while. We can hold them and shush them if they need it, for as long as you want.

Just let them go. You rest your weary self and just be. That's all you have to do now. We've got you here.

@Wearethetwirl I’ll help with these worries. They will have to listen to the dog snore.

What a wonderful calm and nurturing place - I wish all the worry holders a good day and those with burdens a lighter Friday.

Generosity and care seems unbounded here x