[quote Lockdownbear]@ancientgran you are incredibly fortunate to have been able to have had a career and raise 4 kids.
Can I be really curious and ask what domestic help you had, nanny, family support?
You can't be that much younger than my mum who's career progression was nonexistent mainly because she worked locally for childcare reasons rather than commuting to the nearest city where she'd have had more opportunity, better money but the downside of commute etc. And she was starting to.think about elderly relatives needing support too.[/quote]
Well it varied over the years, I have a big age gap between eldest and youngest.
With my first two I found a nursery place, honestly not easy in the 70s. At school I shared things with two families in my road so one mum took them all to school, I worked flexi time so went to work early and one or two days a week I was the one who got home to pick them up and 3rd family did the same. One mum worked Saturdays as did my husband so they both had a day in the week. I took a group of 4 or 5 to swimming lessons on Saturdays. Some summers the kids had 3 holidays so 2 weeks in family 1's caravan, 2 weeks with us in a chalet, 2 weeks camping with family 3. So holiday was 6 kids not our own 2 per family. Sounds hell but worked well as kids all had a partner roughly their own age and they entertained themselves.
Family two was also complicated, I had a toddler and was pregnant when husband became disabled. When I went back to work I got kids up dressed fed and he managed till 11 or 12 when childminder came and picked them up. Again with flexi I could usually pick them up by 4.30 as I didn't want them in fulltime childcare. Teenage older kids would pick them up if I couldn't.
Just to add to the madness we home schooled the youngest two for 3 years due to circumstances.
Two of my siblings lived abroad so for many summers I had them and their family staying so that helped alot as my kids did stuff with them.
I never had a nanny or any help in the home so at one stage I had 4 kids at home, disabled husband and demanding job. Generally I managed by giving up sleeping, I still don't sleep alot. I did pay for someone to do a big bag of ironing on 2 or 3 occasions when things piled up and I also paid someone to cut the grass.
I suppose I was fortunate but I was also hardworking and determined and most importantly I suppose I had good health.