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I wish I'd money

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ssd · 04/07/2021 09:37

Thats all

It would put my worries at rest

I know its not everything but its a lot when you don't have it

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Sloaneslone · 04/07/2021 09:40

I hear you.

I hate when people say 'money doesn't make you happy'

Because, if you are unhappy because of money problems...it helps.

Any other problem has one less worry of you have a lot of money.

And if you are miserable with money you can have car more choice available to, to try and change that.

Its not everything, but it also makes life much easier.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 04/07/2021 09:43

Well it couldn't hurt, could it? Smile

FinallyFluid · 04/07/2021 09:45

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Breathebreatherepeat · 04/07/2021 09:51

I agree - life would be so much easier with money! I find that on threads like this you gets lots of people who have money listing their ‘woes’ and saying how having money did not protect them from them. No - but it was one less thing to worry about! Believe it or not poor people get cancer too, suffer infertility loose loved ones!

Breathebreatherepeat · 04/07/2021 09:52

Lose - even!

RosesAndHellebores · 04/07/2021 09:53

I'm sorry times feel tough ssd - I think we've had this conversation already quite recently. I recognise you from old although I've changed names many times.

Happiness is great but when the shit hits the fan money helps. Ideally I'd rather ds2 hadn't had a congenital heart condition incompatible with life and hadn't died after being born at 27 weeks and had we had to live in a cardboard box for him to live I would have and gladly so.

However he didn't live and the next year would have been so much harder without money. Paying for his funeral was a non issue; me having help with ds1 (and there are blanks in that year) was a non issue, having no worries beyond the next pregnancy was a blessing. Having help in place when dd was born and there were concerns for how I would cope was a blessing.

Money might not be everything but when the chips are down it helps.

FinallyFluid · 04/07/2021 09:57

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MinnieMountain · 04/07/2021 09:57

@FinallyFluid

I have money, not a lot just as the user name implies, mortgage free and money in the bank,but in the last twenty years, my heart has failed, I could only have one child, I wanted two, then I had a cancer no one was convinced I would beat, I did but it took six stone of me with it, and I can no longer eat properly, then when I was coming up for air, I was diagnosed with breast cancer.

So whilst I get your frustration, be careful what you wish for, because if I could turn back the clock and in particular to the last two cancers and remain well but very tight on money I truly would. It will improve.

Sorry but how is having money connected to getting cancer? I’m not being obtuse- I’ve had breast cancer myself and I really don’t see what you’re getting at.
Sloaneslone · 04/07/2021 09:58

@FinallyFluid

I have money, not a lot just as the user name implies, mortgage free and money in the bank,but in the last twenty years, my heart has failed, I could only have one child, I wanted two, then I had a cancer no one was convinced I would beat, I did but it took six stone of me with it, and I can no longer eat properly, then when I was coming up for air, I was diagnosed with breast cancer.

So whilst I get your frustration, be careful what you wish for, because if I could turn back the clock and in particular to the last two cancers and remain well but very tight on money I truly would. It will improve.

I am sorry your health has been bad.

However, that's not particularly helpful. Because isn't saying she wishes she could swop her health for money. She is wishing she had more money.

And if you have alot of money and get sick, you have far more options available to you, than if you are poor. You can take time to rest properly etc.

And if you have poor health, not having to worry about paying the bills, makes things a little bit easier.

I would rather be very sick with money. Than be very sick and poor.

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ssd · 04/07/2021 09:59

Yes totally agree

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Vanishun · 04/07/2021 09:59

"Well you could be sick or something" is a dumb thing to say. Poor people get sick too and it's arguably even worse for them. Generally I'd expect wealthy people to be healthier for many reasons.

I hear you OP. It sucks and it's immoral that there are so many billionaires in the world when so many people struggle.

FinallyFluid · 04/07/2021 10:00

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Vanishun · 04/07/2021 10:01

I really LOATHE those types of "well I have it worse because of XYZ" posts.

Way to try to make it all about you, and to dismiss someone else's issues.

Sloaneslone · 04/07/2021 10:02

@FinallyFluid

Not engaging any further.
Hmm
Vanishun · 04/07/2021 10:02

It's toddler behaviour.

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ssd · 04/07/2021 10:05

@FinallyFluid

Not engaging any further.
I get what you mean finallyfluid. Health is more important than anything i totally accept that. I'm sorry you've had your health troubles and i hope things continue to improve for you.

I'm talking more in general. I just wish i had money so it wasn't a factor to always be considered. Like it wasn't too important. That must be a nice feeling.

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nellly · 04/07/2021 10:08

I understand @ssd I've been where you are and grew up poor with a single mum on benefits. Of course you wouldn't rather be rich with cancer Hmm
It's taken a lot of years but I'm almost debt free and it really is a weight off your shoulders. I can go for a meal without thinking about the cost and have managed to help my mum a bit. I'm expecting a baby and while we've been frugal we have been able to buy essentials without stress. I hope things improve for you soon.
Are there options to change things in anyway?

MinnieMountain · 04/07/2021 10:12

I understand btw OP. I grew up with a single parent mother and on FSM. Even then I was aware of how different it would be if we just had a bit more money.

Newhousehope · 04/07/2021 10:13

Ignoring all the health related talk… I have money. Not a lot. Enough to live on. However, when we have more disposable income - I am happier. That one less worry. The freedom to do/buy what I like, without being judged by DH 🤣

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ssd · 04/07/2021 10:18

We both cant get more hours at work. We both had 2nd jobs before covid which really helped but the jobs aren't there anymore now. I cant really see a way to help just now. Last year dhs job changed due to covid and for a few months he was getting lots of overtime....nearly 1k more a month, it was amazing. We saved some for the dcs and spent on a few household essentials. It was a great feeling.

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Camomila · 04/07/2021 10:19

I'd quite like some more money too. I've got heartburn from stress instead.

(We are trying to buy a flat but priced out of my home town, so I'm applying to full time jobs even though I'm not sure we'll have any extra money to save after all the extra nursery fees Confused )

Champagneforeveryone · 04/07/2021 10:20

I think the issue with having no money is that having no money impacts on everything else.

So a few years ago I was driving a tatty old car that broke down. I couldn't afford to get it fixed which in turn meant I ultimately had to walk to work, adding an hour to each end of my day so that I could afford to pay the garage.

If I had more money I would have most likely been driving a better car. If it had broken down I could have afforded to have it fixed, meaning I wouldn't have missed work, meaning my next pay packet was shorter.

Until you've been there it's extremely hard to understand the far reaching impact having no money can have.

SpiderinaWingMirror · 04/07/2021 10:25

The true lottery win is
Health of you and your loved ones
Love
Loadsa money.

AvonCallingBarksdale · 04/07/2021 10:27

It’s not a race to the bottom and I find those “my situation is worse because xyz…” only serves to invalidate the OP’s feelings which isn’t good.
Money doesn’t necessarily make you happier, but it does give you many more options which can take the stress away, which will probably do wonders for a person.
OP, hope things become less tough soon.

FAQs · 04/07/2021 10:28

Having no money can also be detrimental to health, physical and mental health. Sad some of the stories however they miss the point. OP I hope things pick up for you, I’ve had periods of up and down with money and sleepless nights.

Deciding which Bill to pay and it can be quite crippling at times.