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I wish I'd money

101 replies

ssd · 04/07/2021 09:37

Thats all

It would put my worries at rest

I know its not everything but its a lot when you don't have it

OP posts:
Soubriquet · 04/07/2021 11:25

Same OP

I desperately need a new mattress. I actually have a spring poking through and it’s horribly lumpy. I can’t afford to replace it though Sad

Anyone who says money can’t bring you happiness, has enough money to say that crap

HarrietHairbrush · 04/07/2021 11:26

I feel you op.
Dh has been in and out of work for 3 years. We were fairly comfortable before that and now we are on universal credit and watching every penny.

I am so grateful for our general health but I have been seriously depressed due to covid and the worry. I am not myself at all.

fluffythedragonslayer · 04/07/2021 11:33

I agree. We are not poor, we have a nice enough life but I have to consider every single spend. Yes, I can afford to treat myself to nice things, but I have to consider every purchase. And if I buy new shoes this month then I can't go for dinner with a friend or whatever. But I can afford the shoes or the dinner, so this is not poverty and I am lucky compared to a lot. But I would love to not even have to know the balance of my bank account and when every payment is coming in or out, and not have to check the balance before I suggest we go out for coffee and cake, and not have that sinking feeling when the kids say their shoes are too small.

LindaEllen · 04/07/2021 11:34

Agreed! It always annoys me when people spout the 'money won't make you happy!' crap.

Well, I'm unhappy because I can't afford home improvements I want, can't afford to go on holiday, and don't see my family enough because I'm working as much as possible to afford those things. So while money of course won't bring you happiness directly, it can take away many things that might contribute to your sadness.

SD1978 · 04/07/2021 11:36

I don't agree when the sentiment I'd rather have health than money is trottted out. It isn't an either or comparable situation. And I imagine being chronically or long term sick is much easier when financially stable, and not having to worry about losing your job, or the minimum amount of UC you'll now get whilst trying to pay for transport and possibilities childcare whilst you receive treatment. Money does make things easier, whether you're healthy or sick. Simple fact.

AnImposter · 04/07/2021 11:38

The only people that say money doesn't matter are those that have a lot of it Grin

Vikingintraining · 04/07/2021 11:40

Money doesn't buy you happiness, that's true, but money does buy you choice, and opportunity, and that makes a big difference in life. When you don't have them, life is hard. I hear you OP.

Pippin2028 · 04/07/2021 11:49

Life is made easier by having money, and anyone who has struggled in the past knows that. I have a relative who isn't really capable of holding down a job so is on benefits and I know her life is not so fun because she is so limited by finances. Of course people with money have problems too, but if you are in a bad situation, money can help. Even just by having money to go away for a night in a hotel if things are bad at home can really help rather than be stuck in a bad situation.

ProfYaffle · 04/07/2021 11:53

Of course money makes life easier. And of course it doesn't protect you from getting ill.

However, it continues to make life easier even when you're ill.

My dh and dd2 both have had significant health issues and prolonged stays in hospital. We're not rich enough for private health care but we're comfortable enough to be able to afford travel to hospital, parking, B&B for the night to save a long drive, taxis to the hospital, take aways when we get back late and don't want to cook, therapy for the psychological effects of treatment etc etc

Even with the NHS, being ill is expensive.

roarfeckingroarr · 04/07/2021 13:09

Can you change jobs?

Money gives choices and negates many worries. I could afford to take a year off to travel the world and it was incredible. It also means I can take a full year of maternity leave without having to watch what I spend, which has been awesome. I think it's silly to say money can't make you happy; it can, but it can't protect you from sadness.

Literarydevice · 04/07/2021 13:17

I totally agree. Of course you can't buy health or love but not having to think about everything you spend and what to do about an ancient car you can't afford to repair or replace. I've not had a holiday for 6 years and although that's a luxury it would be so nice to book a lovely hotel down south and just get a change of scene. And if you are ill at least you can pay for help and get a subscription to Netflix and audible and get nice food delivered etc. Those saying money isn't important maybe don't realise that it really really makes a difference to quality of life.

o8T8o · 04/07/2021 13:22

Money is a necessary condition for happiness, however it is not a sufficient condition for happiness.

MaisyMary77 · 04/07/2021 13:34

I’ve been at both ends of the scale. I started adult life living in a hostel for homeless mums. (16 years old, family had disowned me) I worked my butt off to improve the situation but for nearly 7 years we lived off virtually nothing. That was awful.

Nearly 30 years on, everything has completely changed and we have a very good standard of living. We don’t need to worry about anything financial. We’ve been thrown some proper corkers over the last few years; illness, death within the family, cancer…. Having money has definitely made it easier to live through the stresses.

Bedsheets4knickers · 04/07/2021 14:36

I wish I'd took my education seriously .

2bazookas · 04/07/2021 14:51

Whenever I needed more money I got a job and earned some.

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ssd · 04/07/2021 15:23

@2bazookas

Whenever I needed more money I got a job and earned some.
I see you haven't bothered reading my posts.
OP posts:
Wheresmybiscuit3 · 04/07/2021 15:34

I sympathise OP. Money certainly does make life a bit easier Flowers

osbertthesyrianhamster · 04/07/2021 15:39

You are not wrong. Not at all.

Berniesknittedmittens · 04/07/2021 15:43

Completely agree op!

@Soubriquet we were in the same position as you. With regards to the mattress; not sure if it's allowed but bed busters on eBay are great and can recommend their mattresses.

FictionalCharacter · 04/07/2021 15:51

A celeb once said in an interview that money buys you freedom. It buys you choices that you don’t have if you’re skint. Because of that, in a way you can buy happiness because you can buy your way out of misery.

Soubriquet · 04/07/2021 15:53

@Berniesknittedmittens

Completely agree op!

@Soubriquet we were in the same position as you. With regards to the mattress; not sure if it's allowed but bed busters on eBay are great and can recommend their mattresses.

Thank you. I’ll look into it
speakout · 04/07/2021 15:57

I'm sorry things are tough OP.

I have struggled financially in the past and is is not pleasant.

And I agree with others- shit things happen when you have money too, illness, death, accidents, losing a job etc, but does take some of the pressure off- you can jump in taxis, get takeaways etc during stressful times.
It does help.

BertieBotts · 04/07/2021 16:03

It's crap having no money.

Sometimes you can get a bit stuck in a rut with things. What jobs do you/partner do? Sometimes there can be a route to something higher earning that you might not necessarily have seen, if it's something you want to try and talk out on here? Or are there any costs which may reduce in future years e.g. childcare?

I know in the past I've felt like we would just be on a low income forever, but we do actually now have a higher household income than I would have dreamed of previously, and it should be even better once I have had this baby and get back to work. We haven't won the lottery or done anything magic. We are still nowhere near being high earners but we are much more comfortable than we were before.

OffRampHilton · 04/07/2021 16:57

I’m with you, OP.

I’ve been skint (not poor in the sense that I was at risk of losing my home, but at the stage where I was worrying about how to pay the mortgage, seeing which bills I could let lapse that month, absolutely zero room for extras) and I’ve been pretty rich (not yachts and private planes rich, but plenty of savings, investments, investment properties, able to add whatever I want to my shopping trolley without fear of the checkout etc).

I know which one I preferred.

You’re right, OP. Money isn’t everything, but it certainly makes a lot of difficult situations easier.

NautaOcts · 04/07/2021 16:59

There’s no doubt that money brings options and choices

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