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Man sprawled on front step. WWYD?

177 replies

Lizzie523 · 02/07/2021 20:43

I live in a flat and when the takeaway man came over an hour ago he said a man was banging on the front door and vomiting everywhere (Angry)

Looking out I can see the man is still sitting sprawled across our front step. I moved in 4 months ago and have met all neighbours apart from one, a man. So it could well be him. He hasn't buzzed any of the other flats and he's just sitting there. It will get dark soon. I don't know for sure he lives here but seems probable.

WWYD? I don't want to deal with it at all but feel some sympathy

OP posts:
peridito · 02/07/2021 21:28

What a lot of sarky comments on here ,OP asked for advice and she's taken it .

spiderlight · 02/07/2021 21:30

Don't put yourself at risk but please do try to get someone to check. I went to help an older man sprawled on the floor of a supermarket many years ago. He was perhaps a bit scruffy-looking and everyone was tutting at him and giving him a wide berth, assuming he was drunk. I had to literally shout at a member of staff to get them to call an ambulance (and I am not a shouter). He was epileptic and had lost consciousness because of a seizure. He was very confused when he came round and could easily have been assumed to be drunk, but he really wasn't.

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Lizzie523 · 02/07/2021 21:31

@beigebrownblue is it a 999 job though? A few people here advised 101 as it is non emergency

I'm coming up to waiting for over 20 minutes now.

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Frazzledd · 02/07/2021 21:32

I think the OPs getting a bit of a hard time on here - It's difficult to know what to do when you live in a block like this, especially right on your own doorstep. I'd have probably have asked MN too in her situation.

I'm sorry this is your Friday after a shit week, you've definitely done the right thing in phoning the police.

Micemakingclothes · 02/07/2021 21:32

This happened to me once. Man was unconscious. He was blocking access to my home. I phoned emergency and as I was doing that went to get help from male neighbor. I’m glad I trusted my gut and did not approach solo because when people did the man did not respond well.

toocold54 · 02/07/2021 21:32

Ignore all the rude comments OP. MN is a place to get advice, if he was lying unconscious in the street then I’d say you shouldn’t be on here but seeing as he’s sat vaping I’m sure it’s not an emergency.

It’s not possible to ring the police/ambulance for every single drunk person you see. Round my area you’d be calling them every day which is such a waste of their time.

gooseygoosey12345 · 02/07/2021 21:32

Yeah I agree with PP that's it's pretty insulting to use being a young single mum as an excuse not to have done something before posting on Mumsnet. I was a young single mum and helped a man having a hypoglycaemic attack... I'm not saying you should've gone out there but certainly should've called 999 way earlier! Even if he is drunk and has forgotten his keys he could be at risk of injuring himself, it also doesn't mean he's a terrible person!

BlueCherryBlossom · 02/07/2021 21:32

You are doing the right thing waiting for the police to answer, OP.

RoseRedRoseBlue · 02/07/2021 21:33

@beigebrownblue

cant understand why you are mucking about. 999 job. For all you know he might have a knife. Aside from being very unwell.
The overwhelming odds are that he doesn’t. It may shock you, but not every man in the country wants to rape, rob or stab people. The vast majority of people don’t wander round armed to the back teeth.
CurbsideProphet · 02/07/2021 21:34

Can't you report it online rather than stay on hold? I thought they gave that option for non-emergency.

I understand you're annoyed by the situation, but it's not really ideal to get shirty with posters who were giving advice (which is what you asked for).

BluebellsareBlue · 02/07/2021 21:35

My great uncle was diabetic (long gone now of course) but if he had a hypo and it was particularly bad he seemed drunk and completely incoherent. My mum got a call one day from a stranger (number fir emergencies in his wallet and declaration of his diabetes) he'd been lying outside a block of flats about a two minute walk from his house for a while before an off duty nurse realised that he was ill and not drunk, he was smoking his cigarette, well trying to anyway. Everyone else just walked past him.... he was lucky

Laiste · 02/07/2021 21:37

Ignore the snotty replies OP.

I always know exactly what to do in any situation as long as it's not happening to me! In that case i'm the worlds worse ditherer and second guesser and i like advice as well :)

Ringing police to check on him and staying indoors safely yourself is the right thing to do. Hopefully he's ok i'd put money on him being pissed rather than unwell and you can relax in a bit.

SuccessfullySaved · 02/07/2021 21:39

People are being a bit mean....from what you've said I'd think he's most likely wasted. The fact he didnt follow the take away guy into the building is a bit weird if he's locked himself out. Maybe it's the area I live in, but if that happened here I can guarantee everyone would leave him well alone

DogsSausages · 02/07/2021 21:39

If you are worried about him then forget 101 and call 999

justasking111 · 02/07/2021 21:40

He could be the boyfriend of another tenant so you've done the right thing not letting him in

Rosehip10 · 02/07/2021 21:40

Do you live in a middle class area OP?

beigebrownblue · 02/07/2021 21:41

Those who siad 101 are just living in the clouds.

Sure do that if you want the police to show up in four weeks time. Great.

Other than that 999,

NightoftheLivingBread · 02/07/2021 21:42

Can’t believe some of the unnecessarily rude comments on here. Hope it gets sorted soon OP.

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Lizzie523 · 02/07/2021 21:42

Right everyone - as I was waiting on the call I saw him keeled over vomiting again.

I finally got through and the moment I got through and gave details he bloody disappeared!! Although I was on the phone I didn't hear anyone come inside the building. I said I would call back if he re-emerged. Just do strange.

I feel so stressed now, I'm going to try and enjoy the rest of my movie anyway. Thanks for the advice and moral support !

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Frazzledd · 02/07/2021 21:43

@Rosehip10

Do you live in a middle class area OP?
Oh I'm dying to know why you just asked that (totally irrelevant) question....Hmm
PaddleBoardingMomma · 02/07/2021 21:46

@Lizzie523

Right everyone - as I was waiting on the call I saw him keeled over vomiting again.

I finally got through and the moment I got through and gave details he bloody disappeared!! Although I was on the phone I didn't hear anyone come inside the building. I said I would call back if he re-emerged. Just do strange.

I feel so stressed now, I'm going to try and enjoy the rest of my movie anyway. Thanks for the advice and moral support !

...someone is "keeled over" vomiting and you're glad to get back to your film? You'd not be much use in an emergency I don't think.

Next time, get off Mumsnet and call 999. I've seen people having a diabetic hypo and TIAs that look agitated and drunk, let's just hope he's ok I suppose...

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AbsolutelyPatsy · 02/07/2021 21:47

you dont have to engage with posters op, dont rise to it

GreyhoundG1rl · 02/07/2021 21:48

Why did you tell them he'd gone?! They could have done a drive by, he can't have got far, and he well come back Confused

GreyhoundG1rl · 02/07/2021 21:48

may well...