DH told neighbours off for playing Phil Collins

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Both DH and I are working at home. Terraced house. Next door neighbours are fairly noisy. We are both very stressed at the moment as our autistic child has a serious ongoing health crisis and we're waiting for some important news.

I've thought for a long time now that DH is also on the Autistic Spectrum (as well as his child, his sibling and nieces are diagnosed with ASD). He has sensory issues to do with noise, and he is very, very particular about music. Music snob level. He gets visibly very disturbed if music he hates is played.

This lunchtime our neighbours were playing Phil Collins very, very loudly. It went on for a long time. We could hear it very clearly and loudly even with our back door closed. DH popped his head out of the back door and shouted: "whoever is playing Phil Collins, turn it OFF. And get some musical taste".

I am mortified. Phil Collins ceased immediately, but there was then some very loud and angry sounding discussion between the Syrian couple next door in Arabic or Farsi.

DH has never done anything like that before, but has had a go at the same neighbours because their kids were repeatedly throwing balls into our garden and back off our house.

DH said that people who play Phil Collins don't deserve respect. I was thinking of asking him later to apologise, or apologising myself. Advice please?

Perfectly OK to complain about that level of noise even during the day if it's so loud that it can be heard wearing headphones. Not OK to mention the artist.

"whoever is playing Phil Collins, turn it OFF. And get some musical taste". - that was unnecessary.

Complaining about the noise level, fine. Insulting someone's musical taste because they like Phil Collins, not fine. There's a lot of music I hate, but thinking people who like it are all wrong, bad, deserving of derision, whatever is foolish. I don't think autism is an "excuse", tbh.

Come on, Phil did ONE'good song

"Against all odds"

*Come on, Phil did ONE'good song

"Against all odds"*

True that.

Lets face it if he was inside wearing noise cancelling headphones then he wouldn't have been hearing loud music, he might still have been able to hear it but it wouldn't have been loud. He was just being an arse because he doesn't like Phil Collins. Being autistic isn't an excuse, my OH and DS are both autistic and would never go and shout at someone like that.

Oh man, I hate Phil Collins. I feel your DH's pain, and salute him.

Whatever music it was it was too late. I'm with your DH. No one wants to hear someone else's music. Hopefully they will be quieter now

DH is a twat and was rude

Phil Collins solo work is awful and I am with your DH on this one. There is worse such as the bedwetter's music Coldplay or bad karaoke such as Westlife but that is no reason to defend Phil Collins.

Peak lockdown thread, this is.

And: The DJ played a Phil Collins track at my wedding. The bridesmaids sorted that out toute de suite. I heard after the fact.

As you have a child with additional needs to consider, I would apologise and explain the situation. What you don’t want is the neighbours playing music loudly to spite you in retaliation and then your child suffering as a result.

@BarefootHippieChick I wholeheartedly agree. That could be my post. Fuck off U2 and Coldplay!

Noise should not be heard outside the house, none of us live on our own island. The only thing your husband did wrong was not to yell ' turn that fucking music down, you selfish pigs'. We are all under strain but people who play loud music ( or have barking dogs) deserve no respect.

He also thinks he has great taste in music , and he likes Greenday?

This.

I used to be a music journalist and am an appalling music snob. Phil Collins is about a billion times cooler than bloody Green Day.

It’s funny how most people on this thread are saying things like ‘team DH’ but if the OP and her family were at the receiving end of it I bet you’d all have something serious to say.

I think he shouldn’t have shouted that, if I was the one playing the loud music I’d have wanted to be told in a more civil manner. Nobody should be yelled at x

Team DH. I would have got the hose out or something. I hate inconsiderate people that think we want to hear their Shit music or phone calls. Keep it down.

@dementedma agreed x

I quite like PC, finding OP's story quite funny nonetheless.

Against All Odds was good. Were they playing that? I need to be in the right mood to hear it though (I.e. drunk).

Very much Team DH. Playing music loud enough so the neighbours can hear should be a prosecutable offence. Had to sell my first property due to drunk, druggy neighbour throwing his gf round and playing loud music from 7pm to 7am every night. We’re now very sensitive to music being played. We called the police, he punched me.

We used to live in a dodgy area. People directly opposite were alcoholics and possibly more. They kept no usual hours. One night about 1:30am DH and I were awoken to the great Phil Collins blaring out and I looked out of the window to see where it was coming from. Neighbour's door was wide open, music blaring and she's there giving her floor a good mop (front door opened straight into the house so you can see in) singing along as if it was the middle of the day.

Now whenever I hear Phil Collins, that is my abiding memory.

I didn't yell though. I just let her crack on.

@UnnecessaryFennel

He also thinks he has great taste in music , and he likes Greenday?

This.

I used to be a music journalist and am an appalling music snob. Phil Collins is about a billion times cooler than bloody Green Day.

In all honesty I don’t know if he likes Green Day, I haven’t heard their songs in his presence for over 10 years. I just don’t know that he doesn’t like them IYKWIM. I’ll ask.

@pennyfeatherington

😂

He’s correct. They don’t deserve respect. Maybe erasure will be on next.

But, unlike Phil Collins, Erasure were brilliant?

Phil Collins is worth around $300 million, so some people must like him! Just not many MNers apparently

On holiday one year some twat talked the barman into plugging his ipod into the speakers, so we had one holidaymaker's music playing all day everyday, including In the Air Tonight!

Yes I love Erasure. Am quite partial to one Phil Collins song, the one about rain.