Tell us a secret that no one else knows?

[GloomyWaters]

Me...by the end of this year I will be divorced...DH has no idea!

My cousins DP came onto me at my DB’s wedding. I’ll never say anything though because she’s had such horrendous luck with men in the past and think’s she’s finally found ‘the one’, he was blind drunk so probably doesn’t remember it anyway.

My brother is planning to syphon off as much money as possible and hiding investments when my dad dies (or before if he gets dementia) to stop my other brothers getting as much as us/him. I am pretending to go along with his plans so I know exactly how he is going to work it out. But I am going to tell them before he gets a chance.

I have formed a deep friendship with D at work (he is not a Dave) and he knows far too much. It is now bordering on an emotional affair and I am worried that my colleagues are going to start gossiping soon.

I see dumb people.

I am in my third sexless marriage. The other two ended by me having affairs, divorcing, then marrying the guys I had affairs with. I don't know what's different about this third time but I'm actually happy, even though we don't have sex, I'm not tempted to look elsewhere. Unless Dave is free Maybe it's an age thing. Most people think I've been married twice, some of my newer colleagues only know about DH.

I've name changed to share this one...
An ultra-religious, powerful political couple in my country had a scandal several years ago when the wife of the couple was exposed for having an affair.

The part of the story that was kept out of the papers due to an injunction was that several months before the story broke the wife had received a blackmail demand for several thousand pounds along with pictures of her kissing her lover. She paid up. The blackmailers went to the press anyway. Following which her husband beat her and sent her to a private mental health facility.

@supersop60

I would like to live on my own, by the sea.

Oh so would I!

But it’d be nice to have a friend nearby.

@KindleAndCake

When we drive past cyclists, I always want to wind down my window and smack them on their lycra arses. I really have to sit on my hands on this one.

Me too, but maybe not for the same reason as you. The buggers insist on cycling on the main road (narrow busy A road) when there’s a cycle path just beside it! Fuckers.

Very dark but here is one of my secrets.

I'm secretly pleased that my biological mother felt so alone & crushed under debt that she ended her own life, I'm glad she suffered until she couldn't take anymore.

@WalkthisWayUK your post rang alarm bells for me. I hope your name doesn't begin with a R or an S if you are female .

I've made a fake Facebook account and catfished a group of nice old ladies so I could end up being friends on there with my estranged manipulative narcissistic MIL and see what shit she's posting about us. We've never spoken on there but I posted randomly in a load of groups I knew she was in, then friended loads of random people from the groups so we had a lot of mutuals, then sent her a request and she accepted. I check her profile every day. I'm bitter and obsessed. I hate it.

I've had access to my mothers Facebook page since last summer, where she just spends most days slagging off my sister and I to my brother.

We went no contact years ago. i'd like to say she can't let go, but here I am in her inbox...

She is a dangerous character however and knowing what she is planning helps me keep my sister safe.

She horribly emailled me last year so I responded with an email template that looked like it came from the email provider saying the address wasn't recognised. I didnt want her to know she had finally found a way to contact me.

@SunshineCake I’m sorry it rang alarm bells - but no my name doesn’t begin with an R or an S but I am female. If it helps feel free to ask anything else but it’s probably not the same.

@CanICelebrate It’s so hard isn’t it, when things become coping strategies. I guess it would take a different approach to figure out how to replace it with something less harmful. I am trying to do this with behaviours I know aren’t helpful to me so I don’t think it’s easy at all. I hope at some point you find the strength to go back at it.

@BettyUnderswoob

Sorry, that was to *@IEat*

Yes exactly - really nasty post IEat

@RicherThanYew

Bless you, that’s such a lot to go through.

I also love toys and have several My Little Ponies, Sylvanian Families and some Care Bears sets that I’ve either bought for myself or DP has bought for me. They’re sweet little reminders of happy times when I was little, before life happened to me.

@Fudgeballs I am so sorry. You absolutely have the right to a better life. Can you contact women’s aid as a start?

[quote CanICelebrate]@partyatthepalace

I did eventually get professional help for the trauma itself and the ptsd did get better but the self harm has continued for a decade.
It is now such a staple part of my coping strategy for many aspects of my life that I am not sure I could stop now. My trauma triggers pop up subtly and this is how I cope.

I go to work so calm and solid but sometimes I’ve hurt myself that morning. It feels a bit like I’m living a lie, but on the other hand I’m not doing anything that could accidentally kill myself so I have learned to live with it.

It makes me sad writing it down but I’ve become rather pragmatic about it.[/quote]

I hear ya. I have a kind of complex ptsd which am having treatment for and although I don't cut anymore I do self harm in other ways . some of my triggers are very subtle and it is something hard to explain even to my therapist.

I don't think I have any secrets that nobody else knows. My therapist has heard them all I think!

@Doggotired

My married friend is having an affair with her best friends husband who is also her husbands best friend. The 4 of them do everything together. Nobody knows but me and neither of them know I know....

Wonder if the other two are doing the same

When I was a teenager I was kidnapped and held prisoner in a single room for 19 months. (I actually wrote an article about this anonymously once for xoJane, but only one person who actually knows me knows this.)

My parents had MH problems and veered between being very loving and spoiling me, and being extremely neglectful, especially around illness and disability. Sometimes they'd take me to expensive restaurants and sometimes I'd go without food for days. It's fucked me up more than anything. No one knows.

When I was in my early 20s I went four years without speaking to another person or going outside (except occasionally late at night to buy food). I was depressed, anorexic, agoraphobic, and self harmed. No one knows.

I am a virgin and have never been on a date or had a relationship. No one knows.

@RosesAndHellebores

Thanks to MNet I am fully aware that my mother is a classic narcissist. All my old school friends still think she's the bees knees. DD realised mother was the problem aged 12. I realised at 51.

My father was like that. Narc and other kinds of abuse. My best friend adored him. She didn't believe me when i tried to tell years later.

As a child I used to act out v badly. ANnxious,.difficult,.self destructive, don't trust people, v shy ...i t boggles my mind that no adult picked up on the abuse.

@TherebytheGraceofGodgoI

When everyone is in bed I get a heaped dessert spoon of Nutella and slowly eat it like a lolly while watching tv

Just one?!

[quote WalkthisWayUK]@SunshineCake I’m sorry it rang alarm bells - but no my name doesn’t begin with an R or an S but I am female. If it helps feel free to ask anything else but it’s probably not the same.[/quote]
Thank you for replying and I'm relieved you aren't R or S. If you were you would be in your fifties and now I'm fretting you are R or S's child.