Tell us a secret that no one else knows?

[GloomyWaters]

Me...by the end of this year I will be divorced...DH has no idea!

I wonder just how true , are some of the people I know, i d love to have various surveillance teams and honey pots , at my command to build a detailed analysis of how faithfull they actually are,

My ex that's married with kids, I'm sure her other half is not all that he seems, again surveillance package, would be very intriguing perspectives.

I suspect one of the people I know , has a heavy dope addiction.

ED81
I trust your judgment. Go forward in peace.
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[And avoid Dave. He's a bit of a player]

@partyatthepalace

I did eventually get professional help for the trauma itself and the ptsd did get better but the self harm has continued for a decade.
It is now such a staple part of my coping strategy for many aspects of my life that I am not sure I could stop now. My trauma triggers pop up subtly and this is how I cope.

I go to work so calm and solid but sometimes I’ve hurt myself that morning. It feels a bit like I’m living a lie, but on the other hand I’m not doing anything that could accidentally kill myself so I have learned to live with it.

It makes me sad writing it down but I’ve become rather pragmatic about it.

Bless you @DoingItMyself.xx

My mum is adopted and has three adopted siblings.

One of her brothers was adopted illegally - money was exchanged, I have no idea why. No one mentions it and I'm not sure many people (including him) actually know.

@Pyewackect Thank you for doing this!

@PortugirlTES I don't want to miminise your feelings about this but in my opinion it's no worse than sleeping with a friend and realising it was a mistake. Please don't hate yourself for it - as pp have pointed out, no one was hurt.

Another teddy sleeper here. (50s)

Think I was roofied once in my 20s - had a very bizzare night with almost no memory of it. Chalked it up to experience and have always kept my drink in my hand now.

My ex made me have an abortion and I told everyone that I’d had a miscarriage because I was so ashamed.

Im not sure if my eldest dad is her Dad or belongs to someone who I worked with. I left the job and lost touch with him, I’m absolutely petrified of her or him buying on of those DNA things for fun. Be my own stupid fault.

I was in a abusive relationship for so long and escaped, my whole life was awful and contemplated suicide every day

My new partner can now be a dick too but I’m too scared and embarrassed to ask for help again.

I’m in so much debt as I’m limited by rules of what I can do and am only allowed to work certain places or it causes arguments so my wages are crap and don’t cover the cost of anything, I’m running up debt and no one has a clue.

My whole living situation and life in general makes so depressed and down, I actually don’t see the point anymore, I hate my housing situation, all my family (parents, grandparents etc )partner, job just everything no joy with anything, I don’t sleep but if you knew me in real life you wouldn’t have a clue I carry all this huge burden inside because I mask it all

@Catsintheboxroom

Turns out my little old mum is worth over a million pounds. She didn’t know either!

Mine too! Her and Dad bought properties, but until we had them valued recently, we didn't realise their worth.

DP and i have great fun taking the mickey out of her about it!

@PortugirlTES

Jeez... if anyone wants to pacify me now it would be appreciated. Never told anyone before and am now in pieces.

Lots of people do stupid things when they are teens, it’s like a period of insanity. Please stop giving yourself a hard time.

I know that my mum and dad were wife swapping with the neighbours when I was young.

Nobody knows I know. Makes me feel sick.

When I was about 11 I was told that my friend's 'aunty' was actually her older sister and she didn't know.

I never told anyone else, until now.

We were at an RC school so with some large families it wasn't unusual to have relatives, one girl in my year had an auntie in the year below.

@Fudgeballs you need help to leave this second abusive relationship. Please reach out to someone or an organisation . until you have the strength to do that MN can be your support system.

“CanICelebrate

It only started in my mid thirties after an awful trauma that I didn’t tell anyone about”

I am so sorry you have had to do this as way of coping💐

Could you tell here in case that helps? Change your name and tell?

@Teessider

Honestly, STOP WITH THE DAVE JOKES. It was barely amusing on page 1 and like a previous poster has pointed out, it looks really shit when people are sharing quite heartfelt genuine stuff

Some people really do find the stupidest stuff funny and then kick the arse out of it

Mine wasn't a joke! I really am pregnant with Daves baby (my partner is called Dave) and it's a secret because NO ONE knows yet (apart from Dave of course)

@CanICelebrate.
I’m sorry to hear this. It certainly seems to be the case that many use it as a way of coping.
Would you like to stop using it as a coping mechanism?

My abusive stepD used to make me work in his shop for free every evening after school and Saturdays and Sundays too "to pay for my board and keep". I hated him so much I used to steal as many £5 and £10 notes as I could without getting caught and burn them in the woods near where we lived. Never spent a penny of what I stole, just burned the lot. Must have burned thousands over the years. Still don't regret it at all.

Now I know why it's been so difficult to get a 2nd date with Dave.

@ED81

Maybe a bit heavy but I had a termination this year and feel terrible most days about it.

I've had 5 terminations. Don't feel bad about it if it was the right decision at the time.

I would love to have my nipples pierced but l’m too scared.

I’m not sure whether l would show Dave though.

@IJustLovePirates

The clique at work planned to do something really fun and work related this weekend and deliberately didn’t include me. They don’t know that I know

Fun and work related .. not getting pissed in the beer garden then, better off not being invited if it’s work related crap

A fellow mumsnetter threatened to kill me. I reported it, and mumsnet have said nothing to me about it. No follow up, no telling me what they have done about it, nothing.

I have a 'friend' from university who I would quite happily never speak to again. She has ridiculously high expectations from her friends, and so keeps falling out with people. I live far enough away that it hasn't happened to me (yet). She calls me her best friend. She's not even close to being my 'best friend'. Honestly, I find her exhausting as I have to be really careful how I word things so not to offend her. I suspect at some point my patience will run out. At uni we were both part of a big group, so I didn't really notice her being like this.

@supersop60

I would like to live on my own, by the sea.

I'm already doing that