Tell us a secret that no one else knows?

[GloomyWaters]

Me...by the end of this year I will be divorced...DH has no idea!

Following a painful relationship breakdown I became addicted to telephone psychics, dread to think how much I spent. I felt desperately heartbroken took comfort from them telling me the right person for me was just around the corner.. he really wasn’t!

Someone confessed to me that he'd once hurt a stranger very badly in a bar fight when he was very drunk. If he'd been caught he would have gone to prison. He gave enough information that I would have been able to take it to the police, though I don't know if they'd have been able to connect it to a specific unsolved crime. I decided not to for a number of reasons and have never told anyone - including the guy himself, who was drunk when he brought it up and most likely isn't aware that I know.

I am very busy man

Honestly, STOP WITH THE DAVE JOKES. It was barely amusing on page 1 and like a previous poster has pointed out, it looks really shit when people are sharing quite heartfelt genuine stuff

Thread police alert. 🙄 People can post whatever they want. Maybe some people don’t want to read some of the other things written here. You can always not read.

I had a Dave once and I can't bear to think about what a dick head he was. Coerced me into sex so many times. I feel such to my stomach when I think of him. Lucklily, he showed his true colours in a way I couldn't ignore by getting violent one night. Thankfully once was enough for me to get the fuck away from him.

I have so many horrible secrets that I can’t share with anyone. I was an abused and neglected child, and terribly bullied by supposed friends when I was a child. I’ve done some really odd things in my past, that, now I think of them, were probably a terribly misguided way of trying to look after myself because I didn’t know any better. I never feel I can be fully honest with anyone because of the fear of rejection.

I have overspent over the last few years and have a £14k debt because of it. I buy clothes and make up etc to try and fit in and to ensure no one ever bullies me about my clothes or appearance. My husband doesn’t know about the debt and I’m paying it off myself. I’m the main earner and pay most of the bills, and can afford to pay the debt off over a few years but I can’t bear the thought of letting him down by telling him about it. I feel such shame over my stupidity.

I really want to be a mum. I have always told my partner I don’t want children until my late 20s/early 30s as I feel I can’t be successful in my career if I have children now (I’m 23).

MonicaGellerBing I'd love to know how long/often have you been buying lotto tickets? Did you stick to the same game or tried many (Euros, Thunderball)? I'm trying , not a secret.

Someone just won 111 MIL (shock] on Euros!

Undina I really sympathise! I had that for nearly a year in my early 30s (ages ago) - not so much a breakup but I got involved with someone who wasn't really interested and 'toyed' with me for a bit - I was quite stupid about it of course. You do go down the rabbit hole with the psychics. One was blunt and told me I was deluded - it really hurt as I desperately wantned to hear he wante dme really, and of course sly ones would tellyou something like that so yo ugo back to them.

I am in a sexless marriage - not my choice :(

No sex for five years.

I don't want to leave because I have a cushy life and don't have to work, but I miss my little flat in London. I live in a small, twee town now and it is very boring.

Sometimes, I cheer myself up by sexting two male acquaintances who are as bored and frustrated as me.

Thanks for saying that CatAndHisKit, I do feel shameful and cringey about it when I think of it, it definitely helps to be able to say it and have someone understand. Mine went on for about a year in my 30’s too, you’re right it’s a rabbit hole once you get hooked in. I was paying for expensive texts as well the premium rate calls. It really was like getting/wanting a fix. So potentially damaging when we’re at a vulnerable ebb. I can imagine how hurtful that was with the blunt psychic. Pleased we both managed to break the habit

@Pyewackect

I'm currently involved in clinical trials regarding an effective treatment for Covid 19.

Thank you for doing this. I pray it works.

My parents had a single piece of antique furniture that they stored somewhere out of the way (can't remember where but it wasn't on display). When I was about five, I was absolutely overcome with the urge to draw a house in black pen on the bottom of it. So I did.

I still don't know why I did this.

@Thelema72

I am deeply in love with someone else

I bet it's Dave.

Another middle aged eating disorder one. I'm 51 and have been throwing up since I was 10. I've 'been 'cured' many times through a variety of counselling techniques, but I've never managed to kick it and have just learned to accept that it's part of my life. It's just been easier to live with it.

I sometimes think about sleeping with Dave from work.

The clique at work planned to do something really fun and work related this weekend and deliberately didn’t include me. They don’t know that I know

HappilyHadesBound

Yes I pay privately via Burwash Pharmacy - you work your way up each week until you get to full dose. Once on full dose cost is £250 per month. It's working well for me on half dose though so don't see any need to increase

You need to do lots of research on side effects and there are a few Facebook groups to join if you wish.

I've lost 10 kg since March (slow and steady) and hope to reverse my diabeties. I'm 49 and post menopausal

Maybe a bit heavy but I had a termination this year and feel terrible most days about it.

@NetflixAddict

I'm in a lot of debt due to spending on credit cards and taking out loans while mentally unwell and in an abusive relationship. It was manageable and affordable until a few months ago due to overtime at work. However, the overtime stopped and now I feel like I'm drowning. I'm almost 6 months pregnant but struggling to afford anything that I need and will be raising baby alone and in a tiny one bed 3rd floor flat. Because of my own stupidity and impulsiveness whilst I was ill I can't afford to move.

I’ve done the same when I’ve been overwhelmed by life. We may have to sell the house to clear my debts. Sending you hugs.

I self harm fairly regularly.
I am fairly senior in a caring profession, have a lovely dh and 3 dc, and everyone in real life thinks I’ve got my shit together.
I used to feel a lot of shame but it’s kind of just part of my life now.

It only started in my mid thirties after an awful trauma that I didn’t tell anyone about

My secret (that some people know but I dont like to share) as that my partner and I met when he was married. Neither of us had any intention of breaking up his marriage I was young, had come out of a horrible relationship and wanted dates/sex with someone I wouldn't fall for. My partner was being a dick and cheating instead of ending his failing marriage. We fell for each other quickly and hard and we're absolutely soul mates.
We both feel guilty and I'm often ashamed. At the same time I feel it was faith. We have a child and although having had hard times are so happy.

@CanICelebrate

It only started in my mid thirties after an awful trauma that I didn’t tell anyone about

So sorry to hear this. Can you go and get some help for this? I am sure you really do have your shit together otherwise - but I think it’s really important you get some help.