Tell us a secret that no one else knows?

[GloomyWaters]

Me...by the end of this year I will be divorced...DH has no idea!

I’m writing Dave’s memoir

My FIL was a paedophile. As far as I know only DH knew (first hand experience) and he only ever told me. I am the only living person who knows unless he abused others.

Dave has an STD

Constantly drained from fighting against my dh and his controlling behaviour. I now don't say anything but the anger is there within me. I sometimes spit in his cup of tea or dinner. Disgusting I know but I get so angry.

@Missillusioned

I slept with Dave from work.

Does your name begin with J?

Er... is it just me but the Dave jokes are wearing a bit thin now on page 16. Especially amongst such poignant and sensitive stories?

@Doggotired

My married friend is having an affair with her best friends husband who is also her husbands best friend. The 4 of them do everything together. Nobody knows but me and neither of them know I know....

I am intrigued as to how you know!

@neroforte thank you. The training has been intense but I think I’m ready for the next stage. I shall see how it goes. The level of support we receive is far more than I ever expected.

@Rejoiningperson thank you for the good luck! I’m really impressed with the level of professionalism, the standard of the training and the support they provide. I’m apprehensive but feel excited to start too. It’s a long process but one I’m ready for.

Posted waay too soon.

.. anyway I wrote out the rest of my story but it's best kept in my head. I cringed for myself too much writing it, too boasting for me.

Let's just say I've had the last laugh & I bet the latest husband's kids hate you for taking their daddy away from them.

Also his dignity rang to say you encouraged him to flush it down the toilet & it's never coming back

@Thatwaslulu

My FIL was a paedophile. As far as I know only DH knew (first hand experience) and he only ever told me. I am the only living person who knows unless he abused others.

My Grandfather was a paedophile. He’s dead now. I feel it’s not my place to say anything yet I strangely find it quite oppressive to know this, and it does affect us all I think in ways that we cant talk about, it’s like a family shame, and my poor parent. I sometimes feel so angry on their behalf. Very respectable family too.

Honestly, STOP WITH THE DAVE JOKES. It was barely amusing on page 1 and like a previous poster has pointed out, it looks really shit when people are sharing quite heartfelt genuine stuff

Some people really do find the stupidest stuff funny and then kick the arse out of it

@PortugirlTES it always seems like the end of the world when you confess your deepest secrets for the first time, but once you've got over the initial sick regret feeling it does often feel better. I hope you feel clearer headed tomorrow, and the whole thread will go poof into the void after 90 days anyway.

It's hardly the worst thing in the world - nobody died, you didn't cause harm to anyone and no-one is even affected in any way besides the two of you. Honestly I (and probably most of us) have done things that are far worse because they actually hurt people, even if society as a whole would be less judgemental about them.

so many:

i sell used underwear and sometimes photos -DP doesn't know. Also doesn't know that during my morning run i arrange to meet people .

@PortugirlTES I think I'd be chalking this one up to experience. Yes, it's a societal no no and taboo. But ... consenting and over age. Pissed. It's your business alone tbh and trust me, we have all done things that hardly cover us in glory.

@WalkthisWayUK

Er... is it just me but the Dave jokes are wearing a bit thin now on page 16. Especially amongst such poignant and sensitive stories?

I posted my 'Dave joke' up and have been reading the thread and am up to date now. Yes some of the secrets shared here are horrendously sad and some daft! But isn't that this group as a whole. My 'secret' is I have been sexually assaulted on more than one occasion but seeing a silly secret doesn't negate that!

I’m having a face lift in 6 weeks. No-one knows.

Once two men broke into my apartment, beat me up and stole my stuff. I thought I was going to die. My injuries put me in hospital. Police did nothing. After asking around, a neighbour told me who one of the men was, he was known for violence in the area. I got a contact in the health service to find out his address and hired a huge guy to go round and beat the shit out of him. It felt great. Later I heard that he (the attacker) was jailed for manslaughter.

@FavouriteMug

My recent weight loss is down to Saxenda injections and no one else knows.

Everyone thinks I have been super disciplined or motivated. I haven't, I just don't have an appetite.

I'm interested know- are you getting that privately? If so, how much are you paying?

When I was 17 I started work and a colleague and I had to go visit a supplier, the colleague felt me up in the car and kissed me. He was a middle aged perv and I hadn't encouraged him, but I didn't stop him because I didn't want to make things awkward at work. I've never told anyone because my boyfriend at the time would have battered me for it and dumped me. Also I shagged that boyfriend in his marital home around the same time. I would shag him now to be honest even 25 years later, he had a huge cock and was really adventurous, even though he was also violent and controlling.

@PortugirlTES

Jeez... if anyone wants to pacify me now it would be appreciated. Never told anyone before and am now in pieces.

Oh sweetheart, give yourself a break. It’s really hard when something we feel shame around comes out in the open (even anonymously) I’m sure you must feel some trauma about it but you were brave to say it and we’re not here to judge you. It was a drunken mistake, in the past. Please don’t give yourself a hard time over it now

@upupandawaytoday

My exh is hiding his vasectomy appointment from his new gf

I've been shagging John at work

Me too with John!

I’ve been arrested three times. My friends would be utterly shocked if they knew.

I am in love with a man I can never be with. He is also in love with me. I think we're having an emotional affair, I'm single, so is he now. I'm too afraid to see it through. I run from commitment. I'm a terrible person.

“PortugirlTES

Jeez... if anyone wants to pacify me now it would be appreciated. Never told anyone before and am now in pieces”

I am so sorry this is haunting you. Please know that probably everybody has done things they never thought they would - things they find almost unthinkable.

Do you think it might help to talk to someone? There might have been more background to it than you have ever realised.
(I was thinking of the novel the Cement Garden by Ian Mckewan.)

Let yourself have peace.💐💐💐