Small things that are big tells

[SisterAgatha]

Just for fun, what are the little things you notice about people that actually tell you quite a lot about their nature.

I noticed last week that whenever we go for dinner with my SIL she always assumes the first meal that comes out is hers. Even if it’s very obviously not. And if you order the same thing, she practically snatches the one that is served first. Lots of eye balling peoples dinner to check no one has got anything she ordered. I can definitely extend this behaviour in to other areas of her life too.

Anyone else spot these little things?

'I'm a gentleman'

No, you're a misogynist.

People who have decided to hate a random woman they have never met and will drag her into any irrelevant thread to have a dig are pretty unpleasant and best avoided, I find.

People who participate in public, performative virtue-signalling, eg ‘clap for carers’ are invariably the biggest hypocrites.

How many of them claimed to love the NHS yet voted Tory?

How many of them are now refusing to be vaccinated because they won’t take a tiny, tiny risk themselves in order to protect others, yet were quite happy for NHS & supermarket workers to take massive risks themselves during the worst of the pandemic?

People usually oldies who refer to someone as being "a snowflake" and go on about how people weren't offended years ago. But call them a cunt and suddenly they're really offended!

It's a complete PITA in Germany, and people haggle agonisingly over what proportion of shared drinks or dishes they ate, but it's the German way. Paying Bills when you are in a group takes forever. Germans here absolutely hate shared Bills

People who whine on about the Royal family and the democratic tradition she represents would be first in the queue to support a military dictatorship here and the rounding up and incarceration of 'lefties'

@Ozymandias101

I used to have a boss who was really ineffective and disorganised. Whenever her superiors pulled her up on it, she would come to us in the team and say "But do you remember when I told you to do...xyz"???? because she was incapable of admitting that she could do any wrong.

People who can't face up to their own mistakes honestly are just poison.

Also, my current boss is incapable of making any kind of decision. He's paralysed by the fear of what his boss (who sought him out to hire him!), will make of his decisions. So, he gets around it by not making any and leaving me to figure out solutions to all the day to day stuff.

So yeah. Owning your own mess, and not being so much of a coward thay you're scared to make a decision. If you meet anyone with either trait, head for the hills.

Oh wow. Both behaviours sound like my current manager. Major part of the reason I'm moving teams in 3 weeks 🙄🙄

No they wouldn’t.

@vampirethriller

"I'm very honest" If anyone tells you that, don't believe a word they say and check your change.

Agree! With a lot of things in life! You wouldn't need to tell people if you were, they would know, now they know you're dishonest! Lol

@CherryCherries

People usually oldies who refer to someone as being "a snowflake" and go on about how people weren't offended years ago. But call them a cunt and suddenly they're really offended!

Speaking as an ‘oldie’, I agree. Other than that they are usually oldies!

@HeadNorth

People who have decided to hate a random woman they have never met and will drag her into any irrelevant thread to have a dig are pretty unpleasant and best avoided, I find.

And yet you just did exactly that 🤷‍♀️

Wish I'd known this last titbit before getting married...😧

@Blossomtoes nope, you've lost me with your comment, makes no sense to me.

@riceuten

It's a complete PITA in Germany, and people haggle agonisingly over what proportion of shared drinks or dishes they ate, but it's the German way. Paying Bills when you are in a group takes forever. Germans here absolutely hate shared Bills

Funny you should say that! I used to go out with a bunch of Irish mums and there were two germans in our midst and we did that Divide. Up. With. Calculator cabaret after the meal. So embarrassing, especially as we all ate/drank roughly the same!! As soon as they left we started just dividing by the number of people present. One night I did the calculations and I was complimented on my germanness! 🇩🇪🧮

Not so relevant at the moment, but I think you can tell a lot about someone by the state of their desk at work. Chaotic desk usually equals interesting but careless.

@DansMaPoche

Someone once said to me 'if you want to see a person's character watch them make a sandwich.'

It's SO true.

What bit about sandwich making tells you what about their character @DansMaPoche ?

I look at a colleague's desk and it's so tidy but every single time she needs a pen or a staple remover her drawers open and close. Waste of time and noisy. So does that mean she's all about appearances ??

@TheMotherlode

Not so relevant at the moment, but I think you can tell a lot about someone by the state of their desk at work. Chaotic desk usually equals interesting but careless.

Oh come on

ovensoff to be honest, I’m possibly being unreasonable because Steve Wright gets on my nerves, and I can’t be bothered to change station.

People who 'blow their own trumpet' a lot are usually nobbers. It's good to be proud of your own achievements, but not to go on and on about them

@ToWhere

People who don't have their camera on for work video meetings ever. It has been a while to get used to the technology already. We have means of hiding the background now. Woeful self-esteem issues.

Or possibly have got up late , are wearing their pyjamas and haven't brushed their hair

@LunaNorth

People who take selfies in places like outside Anne Frank’s house, at Belsen, or even in front of paintings in art galleries.

Shallow, vacuous, disrespectful and morally bankrupt.

Oh god I saw some foolish girl doing this in Bechtesgarten at the Eagle's Nest. She was like 'Yay, peace signs, cute me in Hitler's lair' taking numerous selfies.

Absolute moron and completely unaware of everyone else's horrified looks and what a disrespectful cow she was being.

@BertramLacey

I wonder what small thing it is about Megan Markle that some people find so difficult.

Actually, I don't. People who declare it's nothing to do with her ethnicity go in the 'I'm not racist but...' bucket.

I totally disagree. It's the Hollywood desperation that gets me.

[quote AnnieSnap]**@FlowerChildofthe80s “ I wouldn't either. Am usually too absorbed in a book or newspaper etc if someone comes on the train or bus. When am asked to give up my seat by anybody I just shrug and say "hidden disability, sorry" I've got nothing against pregnant women or elderly really, in my case it doesn't really tell anything”

That’s disgusting behaviour and yet you don’t mind admitting on a public forum 🤷‍♀️ Wow![/quote]
what might be helpful for @FlowerChildofthe80s is to get a hidden disability lanyard for your disability then you won't be asked. As someone who does have a hidden disability and can't stand on public transport I find it so helpful.

I don't know if there is a similar thing for pregnant women though to help them?

For me, i don't know if this is a tell as such. Or something I find annoying but people who talk over others and interrupt. Drives me bonkers!

Re: a previous poster mentioned tipping, I honestly think it depends where you live. I am in the UK and we tend not to tip much these days. I think previous generations did though, my gran was a generous tipper. Am guessing the poster who mentioned tipping may be from th US, where it is seen as v rude not to tip.