Small things that are big tells

[SisterAgatha]

Just for fun, what are the little things you notice about people that actually tell you quite a lot about their nature.

I noticed last week that whenever we go for dinner with my SIL she always assumes the first meal that comes out is hers. Even if it’s very obviously not. And if you order the same thing, she practically snatches the one that is served first. Lots of eye balling peoples dinner to check no one has got anything she ordered. I can definitely extend this behaviour in to other areas of her life too.

Anyone else spot these little things?

@twilightermummy

*Taking pictures of themselves donating to food banks/homeless people/any charity.*

Please dear God tell me that people don’t actually do that!

Oh they do. They do...

People who tell you how clever they are are in fact, not.

@HeadNorth

I don't have a dog but honestly do believe that dogs can sense good people. Best test of character? Introduce them to your dog

This to me is nonsense. My vile, alcoholic, bullying stepfather was adored by his dog. Dogs aren't very bright - or very good judges of character. They will abase themselves and fawn over the biggest, most aggressive person in the room - like many people, actually. I think cats are far more discerning.

Yes agreed.

Why do people act like dogs love them because of their sparkling personality when actually it's because that person feeds the dog, and that's why it adores them

People who the rules don't apply to.

People who overshare, i know their life story within 5 minutes.
Also they are usually the ones to ask for favours when you know them 5 minutes.I avoid them like the plague.

@CrazyNeighbour

I have plastic plates now

But it doesn’t matter. You know that it isn’t the end of the world if it gets broken. A Tesco white dinner plate is £1. The same cost as a packet of hobnobs. If you can afford a packet of biscuits or a tube of pringles you can happily smash the plate on your kitchen floor (every week!), because it is NOT the worst thing in the world.
It’s part of reclaiming your life.

Yeh, growing up, every day started with a struggle to find a matching pair of clean socks. I don't know why my mother didn't buy me more socks, we weren't that poor. If I asked her for clean socks she'd sigh and come upstairs and spend ten minutes looking for clean socks. It was so frustrating, I felt guilty for this every day.

Now I buy so many socks. I have a drawer full.

People that always need park as close as possible to the door of whatever place they want to go into.
Usually a bit fat. Usually a bit selfish.

Other people park where it doesn’t impede anyone else even if it does incur 10 more steps.
Yes I know some people have disabilities but lots don’t. It’s just like some odd competition where parking as close as you can makes you a winner.
It’s why the short road outside my local shop becomes a pain in the arse single lane. Despite there being a large mostly empty car right next to the road. People turn round in the car park to park outside and use the shop. Makes life tricky for residents and people turning into the junction.

Some dogs are very good judges of character, others not so. One of mine is, one just likes everyone and one doesn't like most men.

The most perceptive one can recognise calm, gentle people by their body language a mile off. Horses tend to gravitate towards the same sort of people.

When I'm at work, I pick up on people's body language all the time. One indicator of shiftiness is a stranger who makes unnecessary eye contact with me.

"I'm very honest"
If anyone tells you that, don't believe a word they say and check your change.

Every time someone new tells me they are honest, I observe them closely. They are usually ratbags.

Oh yes, you can definitely tell what kind of person someone is by the way they drive a car.
It exposes all their worst character traits.

@OssieShowman

People who don’t clean up their own mess in a fast food restaurant.

This too. Dirty, thoughtless, entitled pigs.

Something I like in people is when they use their hands when they talk. Especially when they put a hand to their chest. I find them to be genuine

@headlock

Something I like in people is when they use their hands when they talk. Especially when they put a hand to their chest. I find them to be genuine

In most cases...

@Theunamedcat, how interesting. Breaking anything was an absolute disaster in my house.

@DoesSheDoesntShe 😂 yes, definitely some exceptions!

@Confusedandshaken

People saying people who like animals are good eggs and/or pets are good judges of character piqued my interest. Mostly because though I don't dislike animals and have had pets I'm not that fussed about them on the whole and much prefer people.

A quick google showed that Hitler and Stalin both had much loved pet dogs which sort of knocks that theory on the head. So did the late Queen Mother who IMO was a very cold, calculating human being. Also Henry VIII the well known wife killer. Plus serial killers Denis Nilsson, Jeffrey Dahmer, Myra Brady and Harold Shipman.

Off topic but I’m interested in your comments about the Q Mother, can you tell us why you think this? I kind of always thought there was something off with her which is why I’m particularly interested in your comment..

@Mugsen

People who the rules don't apply to.

Yes! This is such a good one! There are always people who think the rules aren't for them, in so many situations! Driving / parking being the typical one!

A well-off friend of mine picked me up some Tena Lady when I was extremely ill with Covid (the coughing fits led to 'accidents').
In the circumstances, I would have written off the debt (£5) and not expected it back. I'd have been happy to help out a friend.
She supplied her bank details and I paid it back. I've always felt a bit about it.

@Mugsen

People who the rules don't apply to.

Definitely that one. Covid has highlighted that one.

Yes, people who put their hands on their chest comes across as very genuine

@DansMaPoche

lick the knife not like the knife!

Ha. Now that would be a 'tell'.

People who are really tight with money haven't any empathy.
Bad listeners, I agree , are always the victim. It's always everyone else's fault or talk over everyone else. Don't tend to be interested in anyone else that much.

@HowToBringABlushToTheSnow I used to have a neighbour who loathed the Queen Mother, he maintained she spent the war years expecting her staff to eat within the law as far as rations etc went, but didn't expect to obey the law herself. And a different person (didn't know my neighbour) always said she was a modern-day Marie Antoinette in a "let them eat cake" sort of way.

I wonder what small thing it is about Megan Markle that some people find so difficult.

Actually, I don't. People who declare it's nothing to do with her ethnicity go in the 'I'm not racist but...' bucket.