Small things that are big tells

[SisterAgatha]

Just for fun, what are the little things you notice about people that actually tell you quite a lot about their nature.

I noticed last week that whenever we go for dinner with my SIL she always assumes the first meal that comes out is hers. Even if it’s very obviously not. And if you order the same thing, she practically snatches the one that is served first. Lots of eye balling peoples dinner to check no one has got anything she ordered. I can definitely extend this behaviour in to other areas of her life too.

Anyone else spot these little things?

Do you dog into the buyer or ...*

What does this mean pls? Intrigued about this sandwich test too.*

Dig in the butter I think is what the writer was saying. However, auto correct had other ideas. It took me a couple of minutes to realise this is what was meant. Then I laughed.

I'm still aftershock laughing now !

@whatnow41 So true about the protected characteristic and bullying. I’m about to leave yet another job due to harassment and bullying due to my epilepsy. I expect it will be the same in my next role but at least I’ll get some respite for a bit 😢

The one above from a PP about how a man's driving reflects what he's like in bed is brilliant. I'm thinking back and omg it's so true!!

Other little tells I've noticed: anyone who starts an email or conversation with the words, "In future..." invariably thinks they're better than you.

I give out compliments freely and happily, all the time, to all sorts of people including strangers on the street. I don't have a hidden agenda. I just think if you notice something nice, tell the person. I feel good, they feel good, what's wrong with that?

Women (I've only experienced this with women) who go on about being able to smell something. I think they're trying to show off how sensitive and sophisticated they are, when they are anything but.

People who judge women for how they choose to feed their baby
I fund they are usually complete cunts

@IEat

People who say I just tell it how it is... mouthy gob shites who are extremely rude Same as those who shout instead of talking at a normal volume

Mouthy gobshites that you just know are completely unable to tolerate any kind of criticism themselves

@Asanuit

Women who refuse to even contemplate breast feeding. I don't mean those who have tried and have not been able to. I am referring to those, who say they don't want to damage their breasts or it gives them the ick. It's just so selfish not to give your child the best start in life. Women who smoke in pregnancy. I've never met one yet who isn't selfish, vacuous and difficult to be around.

Remove head from sphincter, then talk.

@looptheloopinahulahoop

One of the most telling signs is how men treat their mothers

That can go both ways, too. The ones who are completely inconsiderate and need nagging a hundred times to phone/text their mum to say happy birthday or they've arrived home safely after a visit, and on the other hand the ones who are total mummies' boys and always put their mums above their wives.

A happy medium is good!

I was going to say the same.

There are men who are completely under their mothers' thumbs and always will be.

When you are seeing them, you are attracted by how much they spoil their mothers, how family-oriented they are, how they will do anything for family, how family comes first etc - you find that when you marry them, their mothers and siblings still come first, and their family is the family they grew up in - not the one they have with you. You will never be good enough, and your children probably won't make the grade either.

I give out compliments freely and happily, all the time, to all sorts of people including strangers on the street. I don't have a hidden agenda. I just think if you notice something nice, tell the person. I feel good, they feel good, what's wrong with that?

I'm guilty of this, too.

@ddl1

People who "don't want to be a trouble" and cause no end of disruption

I agree on that; but there's also the other side of the coin: people who 'want to be hospitable' and will pressurize people again and again to eat/ eat more and not take no for an answer, and get offended if people don't eat everything that they're offered. Sometimes even refusing to believe in people's allergies or digestive illnesses, let alone just that they're full.

Yes!

And when they re-fill your glass when you've said that you don't want another drink, thank you, and then get shirty when you don't drink it.

Amazing dancers are not always great in the sack- I talk from experience

@Confusedandshaken

People saying people who like animals are good eggs and/or pets are good judges of character piqued my interest. Mostly because though I don't dislike animals and have had pets I'm not that fussed about them on the whole and much prefer people.

A quick google showed that Hitler and Stalin both had much loved pet dogs which sort of knocks that theory on the head. So did the late Queen Mother who IMO was a very cold, calculating human being. Also Henry VIII the well known wife killer. Plus serial killers Denis Nilsson, Jeffrey Dahmer, Myra Brady and Harold Shipman.

Love this!!

@LunaNorth

‘What am I like?’

A cunt, that’s what.

made me smile...

@SchadenfreudePersonified

I give out compliments freely and happily, all the time, to all sorts of people including strangers on the street. I don't have a hidden agenda. I just think if you notice something nice, tell the person. I feel good, they feel good, what's wrong with that?

I'm guilty of this, too.

Me too I will tell someone they’re wearing lovely perfume Or I really like their handbag Etc

No agenda. Just me

@Hoppinggreen

People who judge women for how they choose to feed their baby I fund they are usually complete cunts

hahaha

@SchadenfreudePersonified

* When you are seeing them, you are attracted by how much they spoil their mothers, how family-oriented they are, how they will do anything for family, how family comes first etc - you find that when you marry them, their mothers and siblings still come first, and their family is the family they grew up in - not the one they have with you. You will never be good enough, and your children probably won't make the grade either.*

But surely that only applies in whirlwind romances

If you are together for years before marrying and life together - you’d know this before the day you married

@Asanuit I find people who judge women on how they feed their baby quite a big tell about their character.

I had people I barely know ask me why I was bottle feeding my newborn ds2 and why didn’t I even want to TRY breastfeeding. I told them I just didn’t want to. The truth was trying and failing to breastfeed my ds1 was a contributing factor to my postnatal depression which nearly led to me killing myself and I didn’t want to risk the same thing happening again. Funnily enough I did want to divulge that information to a complete stranger at the time so I just said I didn’t want to breastfeed. Maybe they all judged me like you did.

@Letsallscreamatthesistene

I think people are getting the wrong end of the stick tbh. Im not at all blaming her as a victim. She picks fights where ever she goes. She always has an ongoing fight with someone. Im not going to explain it anymore and partly because I dont think I can explain it in any other way, partly because I can feel a collective starting against me when what I wrote initially has been misunderstood.

I have a friend a bit like this. There's always a problem with someone. She has just been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, which causes her to react in a more extreme way to events where most of us would go 'meh'. The issues are very real to her.

Bloody hell I give compliments sometimes because it is nice to. I am not having a dig or being passive-aggressive.

My one is people who always think the worst of everyone. Who take innocent remarks as major digs. Always too much drama with them.

Also I started seeing someone who ‘hates’ all his exes now and says they were all crazy liars, manipulative and still obsessed with him - what does this mean?!!

If you see yourself as not just the next potential girlfriend but the next potential ex, it will become clearer. Presumably these were nice enough women at least initially that he chose to go out with them. And they all have just one thing in common - him. So how come they're all crazy? Or actually are they perfectly ordinary and nice women and in fact he's a bit of a wanker and that's why they now hate him.

Give it time and he may be describing you as crazy and obsessed with him.

@TellySavalashairbrush

Amazing dancers are not always great in the sack- I talk from experience

No, they are very often self-absorbed and obsessed with their own body.