he is angry i haven't waxed down there?

[wdjav]

In fact he’s angry about most things.

Without going into too much detail, I keep hair short down there but never go for a wax. It’s not bushy or long. I shave regularly. I just don’t want a wax. He said the other day that I must be the only woman who is happy with that and he’s shocked I don’t want my arsehole waxed specifically.

Other comments have been why do I think it’s ok not to wear heels into the office. Why do I slob out in a tracksuit when home from work. Why don’t I wear make up everyday. Why does my eyeliner wear off during the day...he’s noticed our mutual friend’s eyeliners stays on an entire night and looks the same from 7pm to 11pm, would I like him to get me the same one??

Recently I moved during sex as felt slight pain due to the position. I just wanted to re position. He pulled out and stormed off slamming the door saying what’s wrong with me?? I started to cry. The next morning he looked at me and mockingly sniggered and said who cries during sex?

I’m just so sad. No other ties to him so could leave easily. I’m 36, 37 at the end of the year though. It’s so scary to think about starting over. I feel sick when I think about staying and sick when I think about leaving. I will end up alone either way.

Pleas, ditch this vile man. Do not even think for a moment about having children with him, you’d be tied to him for life and they would have a shit father. You can still fulfil your dream of having children but every day you delay leaving puts that farther away. Don’t let your time run out with him.

He wants a sex doll and nothing more. He doesn’t give a shit about you.
It’s not too late to start a new happier life on your own or meet someone decent.
Is there anyone you can stay with? Can you rent somewhere?

Please leave him. It will be the best thing you ever did.

Ok. You know he’s horrible. It’s really hard to let go when your biological clock is ticking. But he really is not the man for you.

You know you will break up with him eventually. Or he will dump you for another model.

So take back control of your future. The quicker you end it the more likely you are to meet someone else. But you can’t while you are with him.

It won’t be easy but so much better than being with someone who is so shallow and nasty.

Vile. Sounds like a porn addict too.

He sounds hideous. Would you rather still be with him in 10 years time with young children tying you to him? If you leave now you have a chance to meet someone else and have a family, if you want one. Don’t settle for someone horrible just because you’re afraid of the future.

Get out. I met my husband at 39 and had two kids in my 40s. But I'd stay single and childless rather than be with a man like your partner.

Your title for me was bad enough but then you said he is angry about most things, show him the door you are so much better than this. You will loose who you are. I have a daughter and would hate for her to be in this situation.

Look at it this way op. Its not over yet. People still have babies into their forties. You still have time to leave and find a lovely man to start a family with. However the longer you stay the more time you waste, the less likely that will happen. You're being your worst enemy here. You cant know for sure you'll be "alone" unless you leave and find out. Stop being so defeated and get your life on track! Only you can make it happen

If your here writing this post, your here for us to tell you to leave him.
Mums net is the best at being your emotional place to vent as you work it through.
You will find so many threads of woman who are happy, woman who tell you there is a life for you away from this man.

Remember that photo of Nicole Kidman leaving the lawyer's office after divorcing Tom Cruise?

That could be you. You could feel that free.

Leaving this man will bring your dream of having a family closer, not further away, because if you're not with him you'll have the chance to meet someone amazing. Don't waste the rest of your fertility on this piece of shit.

The Freedom programme is online at the moment and will help you move forward, just like Nicole, into the sunlight.

It’s so much scarier to stay with your abuser than leave. Go today, don’t look back.

This was me in my late teens. When I look back now I can’t believe I wasted 4 years of my life on a total arsehole. I didn’t tell my parents what he was really like because I was embarrassed and I knew they would tell me to leave him. I didn’t want to leave, we were living together and I didn’t want to start again. I was silly and naive.
You’ve made the first step to admit to people online what he is like. You now need to confide in the people closest to you so that they can support you. You know you have to leave, this is no life for you, you deserve better. Meet up with somebody today and tell them exactly what you’ve said on here, and then pack your bags.

I've read some things on here but he sounds appalling. I hope you can find the strength to get away from him. As for having a family, you would be far better off with donated sperm than staying involved with him.

Pls leave. I was in a relationship that sounds incredibly similar. he once would not talk to me for days because I ate a jaffa cake. He screamed in y face for chopping garlic wrong. he inissted on me wearing what he told me to wear.

I thought i had invested so much time into the relationship that it would be 'wasted' to leave. That kept me hanging on for 2 years longer than I ought.

I left, and met DH later that year and now have two lovely DCs. We have been together 20 years this year.

I was exactly the same age as you when I finally kicked out my cheating ex of 12 years. A few months later I met my now DH and just after my 39th birthday I had DS. Life is too short to waste on a knob jockey like him, LTB it'll be worth it!

This is not normal behaviour, he is cruel and vindictive and you have done nothing wrong. Being alone can feel scary but think about being free. He has worn you down so you feel you need him but you do not.

You deserve so so much more.

"Who cries during sex?"

Someone who needs to ditch the bastard who is abusing her.

I'm so sorry to read all this. Please don't let your desire to have a baby make you stay with such a man. Would freezing your eggs be an option to give you some time and remove the panic?

Op this makes me feel so sad hearing how terribly he treats you. Please find a way to leave this man he doesn’t love you op. You deserve to find someone else who will respect and treat you with kindness, my ex was like this and it was the best thing I did binning his ass and finding my lovely husband. I actually cringe how I used to let my pig of an ex treat me because I didn’t want to be on my own and thought nobody would want me but my husband treats me like a queen.

Leave this abusive arsewipe now.

Consider a sperm donor and the possibility of having a child on your own. You are not too old.

Anything is better than remaining in your current situation. Grab your freedom with both hands now and go. Be done with him forever. You won't regret it.

God OP this man sounds disgusting! Please leave him. Surely being on your own for a little while is better than putting up with that? You deserve so much better

You are a young woman who hasn't lost the chance of all kinds of new opportunities. You need to leave him, and STRAIGHT AWAY I guarantee you will feel released and relieved. You then need to spend time recovering your sense of self and falling in love with yourself. You may need therapy to help process what you've been through- ask your GP. And to try new activities and nourish or create friendships with women. You have a whole life waiting for you out there. Go and fly free dear @wdjav

@wdjav

I don’t know why I stayed. It was incremental and he used to give excuses like he was stressed or worried about his health etc. We went away last year for a week and on the second day he asked me to take lipstick on a walk, I said no it’s a walk, he proceeed not to speak to me for the next four days. Literally didn’t speak one word.

I’m just so sad I let this carry on and feel I’ve lost any chance of a family now

It’s never too late though - you are only 37 and deserve better. He won’t change and that behaviour will ramp up. I was in a similar situation and it got worse and worse to the point where if he didn’t like what I was wearing he would raise his voice in restaurants, shops, etc. For me it was an insidious slope - it happens over time and then you think fuck how did this even happen? Get out but protect yourself as it will get worse if he thinks you will be walking away. As for me 2 years later - I met someone at running club out the blue and we have been together 10 years+ and it’s definitely the best relationship I’ve had. Keep strong! 🌺🌺🌺🌺🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸

I'm sorry you're in this position, but you can't have children with this man. Even if it means you remain childless.

Please don’t even consider having children with this man. It won’t be good, this kind of behaviour only gets worse.