he is angry i haven't waxed down there?

[wdjav]

In fact he’s angry about most things.

Without going into too much detail, I keep hair short down there but never go for a wax. It’s not bushy or long. I shave regularly. I just don’t want a wax. He said the other day that I must be the only woman who is happy with that and he’s shocked I don’t want my arsehole waxed specifically.

Other comments have been why do I think it’s ok not to wear heels into the office. Why do I slob out in a tracksuit when home from work. Why don’t I wear make up everyday. Why does my eyeliner wear off during the day...he’s noticed our mutual friend’s eyeliners stays on an entire night and looks the same from 7pm to 11pm, would I like him to get me the same one??

Recently I moved during sex as felt slight pain due to the position. I just wanted to re position. He pulled out and stormed off slamming the door saying what’s wrong with me?? I started to cry. The next morning he looked at me and mockingly sniggered and said who cries during sex?

I’m just so sad. No other ties to him so could leave easily. I’m 36, 37 at the end of the year though. It’s so scary to think about starting over. I feel sick when I think about staying and sick when I think about leaving. I will end up alone either way.

Get away from this disgusting bully of a man! Yes, it’s a bit scary to leave but you’ll feel a hell of a lot better and will gradually rebuild your self-esteem and feel a lot more like yourself.

You’re not old. You have plenty of time. What you do not want to do is have children with this dickhead because then you’ll be tied to the bastard for 18+ years and have to see your children bullied and denigrated by him. Don’t even consider it for a fraction of a second!

Get away from this pig and be happy

Get your self respect back woman!

You definitely deserve better. And it is so positive that you have your own place and you are financially independent from him so that you don’t have that worry over you. As sad as you now feel you will feel so much worse if you stayed with him. Who knows what the future holds in terms of other relationships and children but you will definitely be in a much better place mentally if you leave him. Good luck.

OP, I know it is hard but what is the alternative? That you stay and have children with this man. Imagine your daughter's self-confidence!

Or that you stay and don't have children, in which case you won't have achieved your goals anyway.

If you leave you still have a chance to have children and if you don't meet someone you have a chance to have a meaningful life where you tailor your life around yourself and where you can build up your self-confidence rather than let it be whittled away by a not very intelligent or self-aware misogynist of a man.

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He is a prick. Leave him.

And as you go dont forget to slap a few wax strips on his arsehole and bollocks.

What's good for the goose and all that. Joking aside, Ieave. You deserve far better.

Urgh. He's dreadful @wdjav , abusive of course.

The charmingness to others is part of what shows he's a classic abuser.

Glad you've been moving your stuff back. Bin and block, so you have less risk of being hoovered back in.

Do not even consider having a child with this man you will never escape him if you do. No body gets an input in to how you choose to have your pubic hair. Vile man

Seriously OP, I've had awful abusive relationships and I go to counselling every week now. Its helping me see why I engage with men like this and stay with them so long and is changing the patterns I've had for so long. The counselling is worth it's weight in gold.

And as you go dont forget to slap a few wax strips on his arsehole and bollocks

Better still, leave a wax strip of your pubes in with the leaving note. This is what he wants after all!

@wdjav I have to ask is he waxed all over down there?

Another one here telling you to leave. It might seem scary at 37 , imagine it in 10 years.
Please get out

You are in a very abusive relationship. You need to get away from this situation. Plant of posters on here will give good advice. Please take it. For the sake of not living the rest of your life being abused.

I bet he's an ugly little pudding with a tiny penis

Dodge a bullet and LTB!

Do not get trapped by having kids with this abusive asshole!! He’s damaged goods and trying to bring you down. He actually sounds manipulative and evil

37 is not too late to start a family with someone else. A nice man. A lovely family. My sister started her family at this age, even with HRT.
Rise up OP, time to get your phoenix wings on and get the fuck out of there. You can do it today. Right now. The sooner the better if you want to start a family and enjoy the rest of your years.

Does your flat have a Yale lock? £20 to get a new one. You just need a screwdriver, takes 15 minutes to put a new lock on (take a look on You Tube how to change one). Why don't you order one now? Or book a locksmith now? That's the first step.

Then just go. Text him you've left him and that you don't want to see him again. It really is just a few steps because you have already built yourself a huge safety net. Clever, clever girl.

Imagine having a daughter with this man, or a son for that matter who didn't live up to his ideas. Please leave now he's awful and abusive and will be an awful and abusive father too. You still have plenty time and I'm relieved there are no ties

Wow this thread is heartbreaking. OP please please please leave him. Don't waste another second of your life on this disgusting creature.

OP, can you imagine what he'd say to you if you were pregnant?! He'd make comments about your bump, your weight, any hair growth or veins or anything!

What if you had a female child? How would he make her feel!?

37 isn't old, and when you're happy with someone else who doesn't make you feel shit you'll wonder why you even wasted the time thinking otherwise!

As a mother with a small child who left an extremely abusive relationship with just the clothes on my back and my daughters possessions in bin bags.. Let me tell you, it doesn't get any better.. It just gets worse. My ex nearly killed me after the least assault.
All the advice you've been given is pointless until you're ready for that change to happen in your life.
It was only me that could change mine and DDs life.. And I did it.. So can you.
Nobody deserves to be abused.

And I had a daughter with my abuser... He will never lay touch a hair on her head as long as I have breathe in my body.
Count yourself lucky you don't have children with this vile abuser.

Sorry OP just seen your comment that you don't necessarily want kids with this man, but you DO want a family. The longer you stay with him the less chance there will be.

Give yourself a chance at happiness, you deserve it. 37 isn't old for kids. My mums friend had her two lovely DCs at 45, 47! That's a good few years you've got.

So sorry to hear this OP

But as others have said it will only get worse if you stay. Think about the how much better you will feel not constantly being belittled by this small man.

There are so many women who are having their first babies in their forties. Don't worry about your age.

I may be old fashioned but it gives me the heebie jeebies when a man demands a woman is totally bald down there for reasons I think you will all understand.

@wdjav I had my third at 44 so do not despair.