Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Original poster

I think harry is really brave

999 replies

ssd · 21/05/2021 09:18

Talking about his mental health. Starting talking is the hardest bit. I have to start the conversation and i cant. And i can usually talk for Britain.
I admire him.

OP posts:
Puttingouthefirewithgasoline · 21/05/2021 11:57

I have not trawled through but I agree, and its something that transcends wealth, unless you have suddenly lost a parent with no warning quite young it will be almost impossible to totally understand how he has been feeling.

I lost a parent and my beautiful friends carried me at the time but it was only until they started to loose people later on did they say "wow, so this was it, Ive never felt such pain, so raw". Its about time the RF had a modern spring clean and I guess this is it.

SunshineCake · 21/05/2021 11:57

By all means ask for help but don't crucify your family in the process in public.

HeraInTheHereAndNow · 21/05/2021 11:57

@Dogatetheleftovers FFS 🤬 Now, that does make me angry.

He was asked to travel and “be” himself and smile and wave and it was all too much? He needs to give his head a wobble.

osbertthesyrianhamster · 21/05/2021 12:02

@HeraInTheHereAndNow

DelilahDingleberry

“I am appalled at the way people are talking about mental health on this site today. Absolutely appalled.”

Really.

You ought to be. When my son was suicidal and brought home by the police having stood on a railway bridge deliberating on life and death, he was told there were no beds available locally. A bed was found for him at The Maudsley in London (135 miles away) but not until he was 18 as it was an adult unit. So, we were out in a CAMHS waiting list.

Forgive me if I don’t feel huge sympathy for Harry. I do however, feel greatly for all the kids/young people who wait 18months plus for a mental health clinic appointment.

👏👏👏
Bluntness100 · 21/05/2021 12:02

@HeraInTheHereAndNow

I do think he and MM are happy. And they have a wonderful young family who are away from the shitshow of a Royal family we’re stuck with in this country.

I just do not understand why they cannot rejoice totally in that, their wealth and their privileged lifestyle and stop with the endless whining.

I habe never experienced people who are happy lash out continuously like this. I’ve no doubt they love each other etc, but I think it’s a stretch to watch Harry and think that’s a happy man.
Endlesscleaning · 21/05/2021 12:03

He seems unhappier now and more lost than he ever did in the royal family.

Whythesadface · 21/05/2021 12:03

Meghan wanted to commit suicide, but decided not to as he didn't deserve to lose another female in his life.
Isn't this what abusers do to their victim.
How many abusive partners say they will kill themselves, but never meant it.
Also praying on Harry's worse moment in his life, and the person abusing him like this is his wife.

queenofarles · 21/05/2021 12:03

There are many things we have learnt in the last few months, Harry being 'happy' is not one of them. Sorry.
I agree,
He has some serious issues, and blaming family won’t help him.

Chicchicchicchiclana · 21/05/2021 12:03

Really sorry to hear you are struggling ssd Flowers. Please do go back to your GP if you feel therapy isn't helping. Would you consider an anti depressant if you're not on one already?

As for Harry, I think he hasn't got the measure of what the public think of him. I don't know if that bothers him or not but I do find this complete courting of publicity via the media (social media, Oprah, James Corden) extremely questionable from a man who blames the media and public interest so squarely for the death of his mother. I see he's even criticial of ordinary people mourning Diana's death now.

I mean, it's just not very likeable is it? And I know no-one, celebrity or royal or whatever, owes to other people to be likeable. But if he wants to be admired and be of importance in public life he's got a funny way of going about it.

I don't think he can come over for the Diana statue now. I think his appearance at the Duke's funeral should be his last. In the age-old advice of Mumsnet, if he wants to go NC he should follow his heart and stick to his guns.

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 21/05/2021 12:04

How much travel did Harry have to do?
I can't imagine his trips would have been particularly frequent or arduous?

Chicchicchicchiclana · 21/05/2021 12:04

@Endlesscleaning

He seems unhappier now and more lost than he ever did in the royal family.
This is my perception also.
LalalalalalaLand123 · 21/05/2021 12:04

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

DelilahDingleberry · 21/05/2021 12:05

Sorry, what, Harry shouldn’t speak out or receive empathy because there’s a bed shortage for people who are suicidal?

It’s the opposite. We should be encouraging people to speak out so those in authority cannot ignore the extent and severity of the issues.

I have first hand experience of the system and as a parent of a child failed by the system. I know how bad it is.

Justme10 · 21/05/2021 12:05

I agree op, speaking about our mental health is never an easy thing to do and I hope you will be able to start that conversation when you are ready Thanks

I'm looking forward to watching this programme when I get the time because if people stopped using it as an excuse to slag off Harry they would see that it is 5 one hour episodes (PH only featuring in 40mins) talking to royalty, celebrities and lesser known people.

It shows people that no matter the privilege you born in to, you can still have struggles with your mental health and I think that is very important in today's world.

With episodes titled say it out loud, asking for help and finding what works, I think it will be very helpful and informative for some people.

Arrowheart · 21/05/2021 12:06

@Whythesadface

Meghan wanted to commit suicide, but decided not to as he didn't deserve to lose another female in his life. Isn't this what abusers do to their victim. How many abusive partners say they will kill themselves, but never meant it. Also praying on Harry's worse moment in his life, and the person abusing him like this is his wife.
Yes!!! Exactly this.
grapewine · 21/05/2021 12:08

@Whythesadface

Meghan wanted to commit suicide, but decided not to as he didn't deserve to lose another female in his life. Isn't this what abusers do to their victim. How many abusive partners say they will kill themselves, but never meant it. Also praying on Harry's worse moment in his life, and the person abusing him like this is his wife.
To be honest, that's what I thought as well reading that.
IrmaFayLear · 21/05/2021 12:10

If he is brave speaking out, would William be brave if he now said that Harry was impacting his mental health? What about Prince Charles? Even the Queen?

littlecottonbud · 21/05/2021 12:14

I did really dislike the fact they had left the 'privileged firm' but now 100% think he made the correct choice - and think he is brave.
What would the monarchy have done if Meghan had seen suicide as her only option out of her life as a 'royal'.
I wish them a happy life - he has been thorough enough

UmamiMammy · 21/05/2021 12:14

I don't admire him at all. I think he will have a lot of regrets in the future.

NotJustAnyOldDog · 21/05/2021 12:15

What a massive bell end.

Summercocktailsinthesnow · 21/05/2021 12:15

It must be agonising for Prince Charles to watch his son publicly breaking down like this, like the stuff of nightmares.

It is bad enough dealing with and supporting a child with poor mental health, another entirely to have to watch the American producers in a feeding frenzy fully exploiting it. The horror of having it all play out into the world, I don't know where you start to deal or recover from that.

God knows whether it is deliberate or because Harry is so ill, the pain and damage he is causing to so many other people, including his own son at a time of bereavement is quite staggering.

Summercocktailsinthesnow · 21/05/2021 12:17

Meghan wanted to commit suicide, but decided not to as he didn't deserve to lose another female in his life.
Isn't this what abusers do to their victim

I agree with this. His pain is being exploited by those closest to him.

ScienceSensibility · 21/05/2021 12:17

@BillieSpain

I think he is the antithesis of brave.
Exactly so.

He is being well coached by his wife to be a lucrative professional whiner. They know the buzz words and causes to be associated with and are exploiting the Royal Family connection for as much money as possible.

Now he’s pimping out his mother. Sickening, both of them.

KowhaiWhy · 21/05/2021 12:19

don’t worry, they never all travel together.

Didn't they though, on that EzyJet or whoever, budget flight to Balmoral a year or so pre-pandemic? Being down with the people and all that? Getting their own bags even.

I know I'm taking a small point and making it a bigger deal. But Harry is still close to the throne, unless he chooses not to be - and he clearly is not making that choice. Quite the opposite, for all his foot stamping in recent weeks.

Whythesadface · 21/05/2021 12:19

It just gets worse the more you read.
The trashing of the royal family on TV was a way to heal things.
At what point will Harry realise the people he wants as friends will not befriend him because any thought in his head comes straight out of his mouth.
The pair will soon have nothing left to talk about, and will need a new hook to keep themselves relevant.
Maybe they can roll out the children.

Swipe left for the next trending thread