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I think harry is really brave

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ssd · 21/05/2021 09:18

Talking about his mental health. Starting talking is the hardest bit. I have to start the conversation and i cant. And i can usually talk for Britain.
I admire him.

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HeraInTheHereAndNow · 21/05/2021 11:42

DelilahDingleberry

“I am appalled at the way people are talking about mental health on this site today. Absolutely appalled.”

Really.

You ought to be. When my son was suicidal and brought home by the police having stood on a railway bridge deliberating on life and death, he was told there were no beds available locally. A bed was found for him at The Maudsley in London (135 miles away) but not until he was 18 as it was an adult unit. So, we were out in a CAMHS waiting list.

Forgive me if I don’t feel huge sympathy for Harry. I do however, feel greatly for all the kids/young people who wait 18months plus for a mental health clinic appointment.

Bluntness100 · 21/05/2021 11:43

I have no doubt that Charles and William love Harry. I’ve no doubt that what happened to Diana was incredibly hard for both of them, in different ways. It happened to all of them. Not just Harry.

Could it have been handled better in hindsight. Of course. It was a horrific situation for all concerned. With long lasting repercussions.

Is what Harry is doing now causing his brother and father horrific pain. Undoubtedly. Is this going to help Harry in the long run, very doubtful..

gobbog · 21/05/2021 11:44

He can’t seem to get his story straight. Today he said he’s been in therapy for four years.

But in 2017, he told Bryony Gordon he’d been in therapy for three years.

Weird.

JudgeJ · 21/05/2021 11:44

@gottakeeponmovin

So suddenly after what 20 years the fact his mother was dating someone of Egyptian decent is relevant to her death? Fits his racism narrative doesn't it. Diana was chased alone, and when dating men what ever their colour
She also had a relationship with a very respected heart surgeon of Pakistani descent but Harry chooses the man who fits their version of his poor-me life.
me4real · 21/05/2021 11:45

Another child of an alcoholic here who also lost a parent at an early age. I think what I'm struggling to understand, is what Harry is finding helpful about not just "getting on" with life. Raking it all up over and over,

@TheMostHappy $$$$$ and also scoring points against people he's annoyed at.

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 21/05/2021 11:45

@TheMostHappy yes I know what you mean about getting on with it, like @HeraInTheHereAndNow also said.
I have only ever had a very brief discussion about stuff with my sister, she remembered things that I had forgotten and vice versa probably self protection? I'm damned if I'm going to start raking up stuff now, it gives the past too much power if you see what I mean?

Mrsjayy · 21/05/2021 11:46

Diana was 19 years old when she was hand picked to be Charles wife the whole marriage was ridiculous and a total mess. People Berate Meghan for stealing Harry, manipulating him blah blah she was his get out imo.

Mummyoflittledragon · 21/05/2021 11:47

A good therapist would advise Harry to spend time on self care. A good therapist would never, ever advise him to go on television to speak to Oprah.

Oprah sounds like a therapist but actually she is an award winning actress and her soul game here is to accrue more millions by sensationalising Harry’s life. She’s already admitted she doesn’t care about the celebrities she interviews. He is being played and it is incredibly sad.

Oprah is no different from Jeremy Kyle. She’s just more polished, more famous and more convincing. The Oprah show is a media machine.

How long before there is a high profile suicide? This is what we are talking about here. And it could be Harry.

Think on op.

HeraInTheHereAndNow · 21/05/2021 11:48

@KowhaiWhy... don’t worry, they never all travel together.

Christ... imagine if we’d been stuck with Prince Andrew and his circle of friends 😐. When Harry first left, I did wonder whether the Uncle Andy and Jeffrey Epstein scandal was the final straw.

TheMostHappy · 21/05/2021 11:48

Yes!!! @HeraInTheHereAndNow I completely agree. Shit happens, and for some it's more shit than others but you can control how much you let it affect you. You can go two ways - let it ruin your life or pick yourself up and make the best of your lot. Unfortunately I think Harry seems to be letting his past define him and it is ruining his life.

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 21/05/2021 11:48

@gobbog

He can’t seem to get his story straight. Today he said he’s been in therapy for four years.

But in 2017, he told Bryony Gordon he’d been in therapy for three years.

Weird.

Like I said upthread, there's too much contradiction in everything he says. It's a constant stream of undermining everything, so how can he be taken seriously?
JudgeJ · 21/05/2021 11:49

@KowhaiWhy

I'm really glad my mother didn't die in a televised car crash when I was 12.

Me too, with bells.

But also supremely concerned that all the Cambridges don't ever get in the same plane, and there's a horrifying accident.

Because then H is still our monarch in waiting.

Despite all this (I am not the UK, though in the C'wealth). Jeez - what a mess.

The real nightmare scenario would be if Harry et al were cut from the succession, the next in line would be Andrew!!
Itreallyistimetochangethings · 21/05/2021 11:51

Harry is almost never smiling if she is with him,

🙄 really - I've heard it all now. I don't see them that often but maybe you have more Contact. when I do he seems very happy next to M. He- doesn't seem to scowl as often as he did when he was in the UK

Hoppinggreen · 21/05/2021 11:51

I actually think he’s making things worse for people with MH problems.
He’s an over privileged whiny brat and associating him with MH issues is doing no one any favours

artquejtion · 21/05/2021 11:52

It really is a worthwhile discussion, but unfortunately Harry using it as a platform to air his grievances about his family, is totally undermining the real issue, as the only talking point coming from the programme is the gossip fodder he is providing.

I saw an excerpt where he was demonstrating some kind of therapy and I thought that looked like something very valuable to discuss, however anything of value in that programme has been totally undermined by discussing Harry and Meghans issues.

It is a huge turn off, as I would not be bothered watching it even if I felt I was struggling with my MH.

IrmaFayLear · 21/05/2021 11:52

Unfortunately rather than promoting mental health awareness and getting therapy, I will be scaring people off. Is this the result? Slagging off your family and looking ten times angrier and more miserable than before?

Dogatetheleftovers · 21/05/2021 11:52

I’ve just read that in another of the episodes Harry describes being exhausted through his 20’s and resenting being sent all over the world on royal trips such as Nepal. He says he was the “Yes man” that everyone went to because they knew he would agree to do anything and that caused him to almost burnout. There is a danger here of blaming everything on others asking him to do things, causing the exhaustion etc when severe depression, ptsd, anxiety can all make you so exhausted.

Rubyreddiamond · 21/05/2021 11:53

Why doesn’t he give his fees for these interviews to mental health charities??

anon12345678901 · 21/05/2021 11:54

@gobbog

He can’t seem to get his story straight. Today he said he’s been in therapy for four years.

But in 2017, he told Bryony Gordon he’d been in therapy for three years.

Weird.

Full of contradictions, he just doesn't think or realise that people would look into his claims as they have done.
HeraInTheHereAndNow · 21/05/2021 11:54

I do think he and MM are happy. And they have a wonderful young family who are away from the shitshow of a Royal family we’re stuck with in this country.

I just do not understand why they cannot rejoice totally in that, their wealth and their privileged lifestyle and stop with the endless whining.

MondayYogurt · 21/05/2021 11:54

I guess I'm saying that I'm not going to sit in judgement, mocking someone who suffered a horrible trauma at age 12. I'm not going to commend him, but there's no point spitting bile at the man. What does it achieve? Are any of these nasty comments going to change anything other than giving posters a tiny hit of dopamine from being mean online?

I haven't forgotten Caroline Flack's death.

augustusglupe · 21/05/2021 11:55

Well can't he talk in private with a trained therapist/psychologist or even better a psychiatrist!!
I can't believe a man who outwardly says he's so concerned with mental health is doing this to his family.
He's right about one thing, he is definitely acting like a spoilt, entitled 12 year old.

Wishitsnows · 21/05/2021 11:55

I have that horrible embarrassed for him feeling. That video with his arms crossing his chest closing his eyes. It just looked like the straitjacket was missing.

Wakeupin2022 · 21/05/2021 11:55

@Rubyreddiamond

Why doesn’t he give his fees for these interviews to mental health charities??
Because he's all talk, but really it's all about fame and making money.
anon12345678901 · 21/05/2021 11:56

The thing with Harry is, he's blaming everyone else for his issues, he'll run out of people to blame eventually.

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