What's been "mansplained" to you recently?

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My DP is a mansplainer extraordinaire. We were walking along the coast toward a famous (in these parts) lighthouse.

He told me what a lighthouse was.

My dad was a lazy man. He did nothing around the house ever unless forced to such as when my mum had to go into hospital and he had to them keep two small humans alive. Ge always slagged off my mums housekeeping, cooking ironing and ignored that she also worked (albeit part time). I remember being at the table at Christmas as a young teen and he decided she needs his useless help in the kitchen. My mother had a cooked every meal for years bar when she was ill. He was speaking to her as if she was an imbecile ‘now look Jane isn’t it easier if you tidy up as you go?’ How she didn’t lamp him with a Turkey I don’t know! He kept criticising her ironing, tgat came back to bite him she told him well you have a choice, accept how it is with not a murmur or do it yourself…my dad has never held an iron.

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@Covert19 my husband is similar. He posts and a football forum and takes what they say as gospel. I had mentioned a place to go on holiday as I had been in my younger years and it’s fab. He said ‘no I don’t think I’d like it!’ Then a few months later says ‘oh on ‘football forum’ they have said x place is a great holiday!’ Yes like I told you ages ago. The pressure washer brand is also by recommendation of these knuckle staggers!

@QueenPaw

Thanks for the diagram..it's lovely!
Clearly he was patronising...calling you Luv

I do a nice line in putting down the tools of the job and sitting down with a book if anyone starts critiquing my cooking or housework. Works a treat.

My cousin is a dreadful mansplainer. Once when I said that it had been my experience that men of a certain age who have been to all boys Public School tend to be patronising to and awkward around women, he launched into a speech about how I was wrong and in fact, women should realise that it’s working class men who are more patronising and awkward. (He’s a snob). He’s also stolen my ideas and pretends he thought of them first.

He also told me off for using the term ‘toxic masculinity’.

I know that deep down he’s massively insecure about his own masculine status.

I'm a train driver. Changing drivers a couple of months ago, I was just starting my shift and was taking the train off the previous driver who had finished his shift.

Didn't recognise the driver so he must have been new to the depot, but as I got into the cab he helpfully told me that he would sit in the first carriage so he'd be right there in case I had any problems.
Err, I've been a train driver for over 13 years so I think I'll cope, thanks.

@DancesWithFelines wow that would be my dream job, good for you. Unfortunately I don't have the best concentration so I wouldn't be suitable.

My part time job/hobby is sports trading, and I casually enjoy watching football. Every time a man discovers this they will ask me if I know the offside rule. In my younger days I would give them a precise answer. Now I am wiser I say "fuck off, would you ask a man that?"

@SenselessUbiquity ultracrepidarian

I have a load of builders working on the flats near my house...every time i get into my car and begin to reverse out..one of them will drop everything and start 'guiding me out' 🙈🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

@Janaih

My part time job/hobby is sports trading, and I casually enjoy watching football. Every time a man discovers this they will ask me if I know the offside rule. In my younger days I would give them a precise answer. Now I am wiser I say "fuck off, would you ask a man that?"

I don't get why people make such a fuss about the offside rule. It's not that difficult to understand. I didn't used to know it, as I really didn't care, but then curiosity got the better of me and I asked a friend to explain it (which he helpfully did, using beer mats and salt shakers to illustrate). I honestly thought I must have misunderstood him because it's so simple. What's the fuss?

When I was a teenager, my Mum would buy the Week and we would both read it.

My boyfriend (at the time) would find it on the kitchen table and attempt to read bits of it to us.

“Now, listen to this!...”
“Actually we’ve read it”
“No, listen! Blah blah blah...”
“We’ve read it”
“Ah, listen to this! Blah blah blah...”
“WE’VE READ IT”

Then he’d get the huff.

I don't get why people make such a fuss about the offside rule. It's not that difficult to understand. I didn't used to know it, as I really didn't care, but then curiosity got the better of me and I asked a friend to explain it (which he helpfully did, using beer mats and salt shakers to illustrate). I honestly thought I must have misunderstood him because it's so simple. What's the fuss?

I agree. It’s really not a difficult concept.

But you have made me very nostalgic for loud conversations in the pub demonstrating things with beer mats and fag packets (before the internet so you couldn’t double check).