What's been "mansplained" to you recently?

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My DP is a mansplainer extraordinaire. We were walking along the coast toward a famous (in these parts) lighthouse.

He told me what a lighthouse was.

We recently broke out electric garage door.

I explained to my DH as soon as it happened what had broken. He text the details to the repairs man who came out to repair it.

The repair man mansplained back to me what had broken. Even bought the broken parts into the house to show me and asked it I wanted to keep them so I could relay back to my DH what had broken and then asked if I would prefer him to call my DH to explain it instead.

DH telling me what woke was. He didn't even get it right

ExH told me a few weeks ago about how his new GF's dad is an independent school inspector. He then told me how independent schools are inspected differently to state schools.

I'm a teacher in an independent school and have been through 3 inspections.

Thankfully he is exH not H so I no longer have to nod along smiling lest I make him feeling emasculated to saying "YES I KNOW". Because he is an ex I told him to stop the tedious mansplaining, and also explained how I couldn't give a flying fuck what some random man does

Some random man today, when I was packing and paying for my shopping at the checkout. 'Don't forget your phone...it was in the side as I keep my bank and loyalty cards in it. I hadn't forgotten it, but was waiting for the payment to go through...Don't forget your bank card in the machine....I hadn't, I was waiting for it to clear and finishing my packing. Thanked him and walked off, thinking I don't need my receipt...Hey, you forgot your receipt...had to walk back and thank him again, even though I didn't want the bloody thing.....you'll forget you head one day, was his parting shot.

While waiting for an evening class to start the tutor asked me for advice of things to do with her grandson. I gave it (and added that the tutors expectation were too high). An electrician who has a preschool aged niece then told me which workbooks from Amazon are suitable for preschool children and the sort of work they should be doing. I told him it was unlikely the workbooks were for 2-3 year olds. He told me again I could get them from Amazon and proceeded to search for them. (He couldn't find them)

I'm a manager of a preschool (for 7 years) and former primary school teacher, which everyone knew hence tutor asking for advice.

I’m a programme manager with 30 years experience. A new, very junior team member tried to mansplain how a RAID log and RACI work.

(Male) founder of the company also decided to get all the women together for a diversity and inclusion meeting and proceeded to mansplain what the glass ceiling was, why women earn less than men, and why we don’t get promoted

Darwinian evolution. Colleague who should have known better decided to try chatting me up by badly "explaining" Darwinian evolution to me.

I have worked in Technology for almost 30 years. Today a kindly gentleman explained the difference between a USB A and a USB C port to me.

There were two:

1. Me: This is it, as you can see the keep is broken and needs to be fixed.

Man: ah. As you can see, the keep is broken. I'll need to fix that.

1. Me: Well, that's not true as I got planning permission for the kitchen window and it's fine to have PVC. As long as it's in the back and not facing the street, it's fine.

Different Man: You'll need planning permission...(repeats what I've just said back to me)

ExH turned up at the maternity hospital - I'd been in labour all night but he went home the previous evening as he was bored and tired and didn't see why I didn't just have another section like last time (I had to be resuscitated during the anaesthetic and was very poorly). He was phoned to say the birth was imminent at 4.30am, turned up at 6 and told me I was breathing and pushing wrong. He hadn't been to a single appointment or class, but knew it all, went to great lengths to tell me what I was doing wrong and told the midwives they were wrong too. He was totally arrogant and really upsetting me. The midwives were lovely and just ignored him, which he hated. He became an ex soon after.......

My boss (a wanker of a bloke who just can’t let go of the finer details)
He manplained to me how to use a mop after a child vomited on the shop floor
I’m 43,I have kids,I’ve ran a home for years and mopped many floors (and cleaned up gallons of vomit)
he still stood there and told me,step by step what to do
‘Fill the blue bucket,not the red one,fill it with water,you need to turn on this dispenser as it’s mixed with floor cleaner but it’s just water if you turn the other on,you will need the blue mop,not the red one… ’

I just walked away and left him clutching his blue mop

Bet a man had this idea!

Equalities. I've just had equality inclusion and diversity explained to me by a white middle class man who discovered his privilege five years ago and is now on a mission ...

MisgenderedSwan
Your problem is exactly the one I have with my DH (deerhound). Men tell me how to look after him. He's 8 and I've had him all his life. I don't take any notice, just smile and agree with them.

@SenselessUbiquity

you get it often in regulatory contexts - there will be a document outlining sets of circumstances and your set of circumstances isn't explicitly shown - it's either not covered, or you need to read the document really carefully to see which element trumps what other element - and while you are trying to get others to sense-check your reading, there is always a man belling "IF A THEN YOU DO Y, IF B THEN YOU DO Z" when you have just carefully explained why elements of both A and B apply in this case

Verbal manspreading

And it's happened again! I give up ...

Yes, only by my DP though - no one else would dare. When discussing with my sister some tummy issues I was having, he knew all about them and told me what would help, why it was sore etc and that he suffered from them too. My response - (before trans), so you're having your period too.............Never did it again.

Actually just had an argument with DH (Dick Head) about this.

Argument was about how I love cooking and walking the dog so why would I ever want a day off cooking or walking the dog?

"But you like looking because you have time to yourself and you like listening to your audiobooks. You like walking the dog because it's good exercise."

Right. I know these things already, given I'm in the privileged position of actually being ME.

I took on a new supervisor in my own company, he asked for me to send him a document I created. He mansplained it (incorrectly) back to me.

@Lumene

My 5 year old nephew when I explained the earth is round: “It’s not actually, it’s flat.”

Drow him. Save women of the future sanity.

Drown*

Slightly different, but: A female friend had just completed her pilot course (very misogynistic male dominated area that she had talked about a lot) of course I (female) was happy for her and joked “oh no, a female pilot, I’ll be scared to fly now!”. Another less close female friend who heard that told me off for making offensive and chauvinistic comments. I was a bit ... confused 🤷‍♀️

Small roundabout, 3 ways off. One R, to next town. Second, into city. Third, back to ring road. I was waiting for second exit into city, knowing that the level crossing gates were down. So I stayed off the roundabout. Man in car behind got out, leant on my window, to tell me that I could pull forward, as there was nobody on the roundabout. I asked him, very politely, wave of hand, where it was he would like me to go?

I asked the guy fixing the oven if it was OK to turn the electricity back on at the fuse box as he packing his stuff away. He asked if I wanted him to show me how... It was the same switch he'd watched me flip when I turned it off 20mins earlier.

And in this evening’s conversation with DH, I suddenly realise he does this all the feckin time.

Me: comments or shares information in 2-3 sentences
DH: explains everything about that shared information back to me for 30 minutes without letting me contribute further
Me: smiles
DH: goes in a huff