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What's been "mansplained" to you recently?

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askingrandomsonlinemighthelp · 19/05/2021 23:05

My DP is a mansplainer extraordinaire. We were walking along the coast toward a famous (in these parts) lighthouse.

He told me what a lighthouse was.

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WTF99 · 22/05/2021 11:54

@ErrolTheDragon

I think the word "mansplaining" is another example of names being used to silence people.

If that actually was the intent, it's been singularly ineffectual.

Grin
ginghamtablecloths · 22/05/2021 17:06

A young male shop assistant mentioned 'built in obsolescence' like it had just been invented. I raised an eyebrow and resisted the temptation to tell him that it had been around since before he was born and I was probably old enough to be his mother.

Fromage · 22/05/2021 20:37

Recently I heard mansplaining described as "correctile dysfunction" and soon I will stop laughing at that.

wellbehavedwomen · 22/05/2021 21:46

@Fromage

Recently I heard mansplaining described as "correctile dysfunction" and soon I will stop laughing at that.
Oh, that's beautiful.

I've had men explain to me that I could get pregnant on the pill if I missed even one dose (I was single and on it for medical reasons at the time, but he wouldn't let me finish long enough to explain this) and that I was wrong about what street I lived on, because that street did not exist.

Craftycorvid · 22/05/2021 21:54

Update: had an eye test today. The 12-year-old optometrist mansplained long and short-sightedndess to me in the sing song tone usually reserved for small children (oblivious to my increasingly stony gaze). He then proceeded to ‘explain’ the macula to me. I interrupted to say ‘yes, I know, my mother had ARMD’ - came the response ‘so you know a little bit about it, then’ followed by advice on care of the eyes. 😡 I let him live. I hear prison food is dreadful.

thenightsky · 22/05/2021 22:38

@Fromage

Recently I heard mansplaining described as "correctile dysfunction" and soon I will stop laughing at that.
Spot on!
thenightsky · 22/05/2021 22:41

@EMIS Fucking hell. How are you not doing time? Grin

EKGEMS · 22/05/2021 23:35

I've been seriously ill for the past 3.5 months and my doctor put me on a blood thinner (have had a couple blood clots in my prior history) and a male friend of mine from school sent me a very long message all about the blood thinner-I'm a registered nurse and work with cardiac patients and teach about blood thinners daily.

PurpleishDahlia · 22/05/2021 23:44

Car wouldn't stop making beeping sound due to fault with the central locking system. The Arnold Clark guy assumed what I heard is the beeping when you're on reverse. He then proceeded to explain to me that some cars beep when you reverse.

PastMyBestBeforeDate · 23/05/2021 01:00

I forgot work. I'm in a specialist role. The number of men from external companies who start to explain subject 101 to me without ever considering why I'm a senior technical person is amazing.

Messedupneedchocolatenow · 23/05/2021 01:26

@Thinnerlikeachickendinner

My BIL explained to me how to cut up a banana once.

(I do all the elaborate cooking from scratch in our house and have also worked for years in high end restaurants).

At least it wasn't a cutted up pear....
Messedupneedchocolatenow · 23/05/2021 01:28

@sashh

I'm not sure this counts as mansplaining.

I showed my cousin's little boy my polaroid camera and he then explained to his grandma that, "first it's white, then you have to wait"

No, it's boysplaining! 😁
sashh · 23/05/2021 06:11

Messedupneedchocolatenow

He was 3 and it was actually quite cute. Children are not used to photographs you can actually hold and take home.

Devastatedmum123 · 23/05/2021 06:38

My daughters boyfriend drives me mad. He’s 16 so I try to put it down to age but I will tell them something interesting. He will then tell us exactly the same thing in great detail about five minutes later and when I mention that I’ve already said that he tells me he knew it already. Hmm

I also had a man explain to me how I must like pink motorbike gear as I’m female. Needless to say he didn’t get a sale that day.

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 23/05/2021 07:32

Feminism, by a 16 year old. (After he’d mansplained the lesson I was teaching him first.)He then went on to say I obviously didn’t understand feminism. “Oh no, you mean I wasted three years at uni and all those hours writing my dissertation on it, going on marches, hours in meetings, all that reading-now that you’ve told me that?”

Bourbonandcoke · 23/05/2021 09:26

Unfortunately not just men. My MIL is an expert at 'womansplaining'.Hmm

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 23/05/2021 09:44

@Bourbonandcoke

Unfortunately not just men. My MIL is an expert at 'womansplaining'.Hmm
MILsplaning!🤣

does yours also insert the length of time she'd been doing it that way?
as if that had any extra weight or made her an expert?
I honestly couldn't give a shit if she scrubbed her carrots for 38754 years. I like to peel mine and didn't ask for her opinion or advice.

sashh · 23/05/2021 11:40

I had Mumsplaining, there was nothing I could possibly know that my mother didn't.

At a family Christening my parents were staying on a farm and the farmer had recently had a stent fitted so she was explaining to everyone that he, "had a piece of metal in his heart", I made the mistake of saying it was in a coronary artery and looked more like a spring.

Queue

Mum: Well HE'S had it so he should know

Me: Mum I work in a Cardiology department, I don't actually insert the stent but I'm telling the cardiologist what the ECG is doing during while he/she is inserting it.

I know what they look like, I order them for the department, I hand them over to the cardiologist / scrub nurse, this is literally my job.

Mum: No, HE has told me what it is

NeverDropYourMoonCup · 23/05/2021 12:08

@PastMyBestBeforeDate

I forgot work. I'm in a specialist role. The number of men from external companies who start to explain subject 101 to me without ever considering why I'm a senior technical person is amazing.
Oh, yes, I forgot the best work one.

There was some crackling on one channel, the one where the senior manager's old (but very expensive) 16th birthday present guitar was plugged in.

I'd checked the circuit, switched over to another channel to see whether it was the lead connecting the stage box to the board, switched the lead over, checked the stage box, changed out the lead to the DI, changed out the DI, changed out the 6.3mm jack lead from that, everything except touched the senior manager's Very Special Guitar. Which meant, having dealt with all other eventualities, the likely issue was the actual input on his guitar needed tightening.

'You need to check the cable'

I've done it. I've [goes through the list of things I'd done]

'No, you need to check the cable'

I switch out to another channel in front of him and tell him 'OK, I'm using a completely different circuit. I've patched from number 7 onto 22 and in number 24 using a new XLR, different part of the snake and out of the number 7 wall wart. If it still crackles, it's going to be at your guitar, probably the jack port needs tightening'.

...crackle...crackle..crackle...

'You need to replace the lead, I've told you already'

Can't you wiggle the jack as it goes into your guitar, please?

'No, because I'm not validating your confusion when I clearly need a new lead'

'It's. The. Jack. Input. On. Your. Guitar.'

'No, I've played guitar in my bedroom for 22 years. I know when it's a crappy lead' [goes on to tell me how the lead goes from the guitar to the amp, completely forgetting that there's an absolute fuckton of cabling of different types, acronym soup and at least five battlefield repair style patches I've done precisely because I know what I'm doing. And that this isn't plugged directly into an amp, because it's a stage setup, not a practice with your mates using a cheap bass combi, in any case, so nothing he says has any relevance even if he knew what he was talking about]

for fuck's sake. 'Teenage assistant, could you pop up on stage and wiggle the jack as you plug a new lead into his guitar, please?'

[teenage assistant goes and wiggles the jack. Crackling ensues. Turns out the external metal but of the jack port on his guitar is loose and needs tightening. Teenager tightens it in front of guitar wanker him and hands guitar back to the senior manager']

NO crackling.

''You, see, all I had to do was have the lead replaced'.

[teenage boy jumps back by the board and mutters at me]

'Miss, I can see why you look pissed off all the time. He's a fucking idiot, mansplaining your literal job to you, isn't he?'

Yes, dear grasshopper, and you have now completed your training.

ImprobablePuffin · 23/05/2021 14:16

Had my second covid jab this morning - man next to me proceeded to explain to me what Covid is ffs

NewlyGranny · 23/05/2021 14:27

My DH to me yesterday as we strolled on a harbour wall: It's warm when the sun's out.

I'm afraid I asked him whether the title of the dissertation he wrote to earn his degree from UBO* was "Why Sunshine feels warm".

*The University of the Bleedin' Obvious

DrSeuss · 23/05/2021 18:50

DH is convinced the all you have to do to change an in person, classroom based lesson into an online lesson is do it in front of a webcam. I have been in education since 1993 so might know what I am talking about but no, he who has not been in a school since he left his own, a private boys' school with high standards of both behaviour and academics in 1986 knows better. The fact that my SEN students might find it difficult to follow a sixty minute on line lesson, that not being able to see the kids as they are not allowed their cameras on, that they can only speak to me via the chat feed and that teaching on line is totally different is apparently not relevant. Dunno how I would pass round worksheets or card sorts, etc. Also, it does actually take time to put everything on Google classroom.

Twitchynose · 23/05/2021 20:29

@StarlightLady

I’ve had the best tampons mansplained to me in great detail 😂
Oh god, you’ve just reminded me of the ex boyfriend who “helpfully” pointed out that if I just saved and reused the applicator that came with applicator tampons, I could buy the the cheaper non-applicator ones and save money!
Usernamerequired · 23/05/2021 22:56

Driving with a family member in the car-(partner knows better than to do this). Where to go, how to get there, its clear you can go, how to reverse bloody everything! If he didn’t need to collect his car from hospital after recent admittance i would have chucked him out. Oh and a man in shop telling me how to do my garden. Tongue bit off me after they ignore me saying “yes i know!” A thousand times. Bloody men that like the sound of their own voice. I’m ranting sorry, going to open a bottle of wine

AlwaysLatte · 23/05/2021 23:03

I know lots of women who do this kind of explaining, too!