What's been "mansplained" to you recently?

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My DP is a mansplainer extraordinaire. We were walking along the coast toward a famous (in these parts) lighthouse.

He told me what a lighthouse was.

A male GP once told me I should get a coil fitted and that it wouldn't hurt.
My reply was how the hell would you know?

Not quite mansplaining but very annoying!

I once took the Channel ferry with a couple of Breton guys, who asked me to correct their English. I said nothing till one of them said they wanted to go to CanTERbury (with the stress in the middle). Tactfully, I explained that it was CANterbury.
Oh no, I was told, it is CanTERbury, our English teacher told us.

DH mansplained what AI is- bc women couldn't possibly understand artificial intelligence. 🙄

Just before Covid hit I, a fort something woman who breastfed DD for two years, was at a work event when a twentysomething male colleague explained breastfeeding to me. 😑

*fortysomething!

Snarled up in traffic today. The car in front started reversing to let a bus through so I did too. But I braked when I saw a cyclist coming straight towards my reversing car. My DH, who does not drive and never has, said, 'That car in front wants you to reverse.' I pointed out that, though cyclists can sometimes be annoying, I had no intention of killing one. And he should shut the fuck up.

My DH tells me when to cross the road and when we should walk to one side of the path when walking the dog and others approach.

I’ve just remembered one that made me laugh.

Me: Unfortunately I can’t use the product image you sent me in PowerPoint. It’s too low res. Can you send me a high res version?
New guy in marketing: OK

An hour later I received a step-by-step instruction document with accompanying screenshots about how to open PowerPoint and then right-click and save an image to my desktop so I could use it in other applications!

I’m a graphic designer.

What to say, at a work investigation, I was actually told " yes, that's good, that's what I want you to say".

• I do woman splaning too to dh and it drives him mad 😂😂😡😡

Just tonight a male vicar was confidently explaining to me that in his opinion his mate would meet criteria to be detained under the mental health act contrary to the opinion of my female consultant psychiatrist colleague who had just assessed him.

I asked him if he actually knows what those criteria even are and in essence his response was 'it's just obvious that he is mad innit'

I refrained from saying what I wanted to say which was along the lines of 'so sorry. I did not realise that you actually had a medical degree, a postgrad psychiatry qualification and were certified under S12 of the mental health act as well as your theology degree'

No. Just mansplaining then.

@secretburper

I had a gut full of mansplaining one day last week all in less than an hour. I had to collect a parcel from the sorting office so as I parked my car and was walking towards the office door a car screeched up and the man jumped out and ran past me into the sorting office , I collected my parcel and went to towards home calling into a supermarket enroute , I was looking into a chiller cabinet no-one else in sight when a woman came around a corner and literally pushed her trolly into me to push me out the way , I said excuse me do you mind keeping your distance , she completely ignored me and lent on her trolly looking into the cabinet where I was previously , honestly bloody rude , then I called into my local post office and as I pushed the door open a man barged through the gap into the office ahead of me No excuses for this bad behaviour , I wasn't dawdling I was actually hurrying because I had a busy day . Just plain bloody rude people .

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These are fabulous.
My favourite recently was a teen relative mansplaining how to train your dog not to fear fireworks. Apparently if your dog fears fireworks you are a neglectful owner, and dogs don't naturally fear fireworks - where does one think gun dogs come from?? He has never owned a dog, but walked his girlfriend's parents' once or twice. He knows all about noise fear training in dogs because he played loud bangs on his phone to his kitten. Bless.

@CovoidOfAllHumanity

Just tonight a male vicar was confidently explaining to me that in his opinion his mate would meet criteria to be detained under the mental health act contrary to the opinion of my female consultant psychiatrist colleague who had just assessed him.

I asked him if he actually knows what those criteria even are and in essence his response was 'it's just obvious that he is mad innit'

I refrained from saying what I wanted to say which was along the lines of 'so sorry. I did not realise that you actually had a medical degree, a postgrad psychiatry qualification and were certified under S12 of the mental health act as well as your theology degree'

No. Just mansplaining then.

You should have argued that the patient was clearly not mad but possessed, so ball back in vicar’s court.

Genuinely wish I had thought of that

Things which I had just told him about only five minutes earlier.

@BikeRunSki

Bet a man had this idea!

maybe that explains the "allergy warning: contains eggs" label on egg boxes.

The other day I commented to DH that I'd noticed an increase in job adverts being shared by the nursery DD attends since the management changed. I was vaguely musing about why that might be & was about to tell DH I was a little concerned about what this might imply, given that I have experience of working in childcare & am wary of the sort of environment that produces high staff turnover.

DH cut me off & explained at length about how many people might have some childcare qualifications "from a while ago" & be out of work because of the pandemic so might opt for a job "like that as a temporary stop-gap."

I pointed out that one needs to be up-to-date with knowledge of EYFS & that, for many people, childcare is a career, not just something they do until they can get a better job. He insisted he wasn't suggesting it wasn't a worthwhile job & carefully explained to me how it's like nurses - they've got some qualifications, sometimes some quite high qualifications, but they're not as highly skilled as doctors so sometimes people might choose to take a short term job as a nurse, but they wouldn't be able to do that as a doctor.

He got rather defensive when I pointed out that, nursing is a degree level job, just the same as his job so perhaps someone who has the same degree as him but chose to pursue a different career might like to take his job as a "temporary stop-gap" while they're out of work. Apparently, they couldn't do that because there's standards that change that they'd need to be aware of & CPD that would need to have been done...

We then had a looooong conversation about why nursing & childcare are low paid & undervalued & the effects of a patriarchal society & internalised misogyny. None of that applies to him though, he has total respect for nurses & nursery workers & definitely thinks they should be better paid... but anyone could do their jobs...

A male gynaecologist during a consultation in hospital while I’m miscarrying (after TTC for 2 years). ‘Oh, conception is just a game of chance, throw away your ovulation sticks and relax’
Ok mate, it’s not though is it...you have to know when you are ovulating otherwise it’s absolutely pointless. No point me relaxing and having sex two days before my period is there? Ffs.
Redeemed himself a year later by allowing me to have an elective section, no questions asked. But even so...

A conservatory blind salesman once explained to me what bespoke meant. Using the example of buying a dress off a rack in a shop verses having one made especially for me.

I had an electrician wire in an oven for me. Once finished he turned it on an told me how difficult it would be to use and that you would ‘need a degree to understand it’.
‘Will my degree in technology and electronic engineering be ok?’ I answered.
His face! Ironically it was an incredibly easy oven to use, no degree required!

Not quite mansplaining, but I am a former athlete, multiple national champion, Olympian etc. The amount of men who reckon they could beat me at my sport is quite amazing. I get challenged a couple of times a year, never once by a female. Unless they've had coaching and training to a high standard they just couldn't.

Getting a valuation done, so I'd written down notes for the Estate agent. Showed him around, then towards the end, I went to check my notes to see if I'd forgotten anything.

EA: Oh, did your husband write that down for you?
Me: No, I wrote it myself as a reminder as I've been so slammed with work and didn't want to forget anything.

He quickly changed the subject.

My husband today
“Make sure you rinse those plates before you wash them”
Me “yes ok”
“Because the gravy will make the water all dirty and you will have to refill the sink”
Me through gritted teeth- “yes I know”
And also make sure the tray is soaked before you wash it
Me- “anything else”
Well the bits stick you see......
Me- “right well since you are the fucking expert you might as well carry on”
Went in the living room and sat down with my feet up while he meekly did the dishes followed by an apology