What's been "mansplained" to you recently?

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My DP is a mansplainer extraordinaire. We were walking along the coast toward a famous (in these parts) lighthouse.

He told me what a lighthouse was.

Depression - I am a mental health nurse. Also (apparently) people just need to exercise and get in contact with nature then they won't need medication. Total BS.

I experience a variant of mansplaining on a daily basis. Isn't 'the classic' but it's definitely related.

Me: 'what do you think of this layout, ignore the colours for now. This is just a mock up and those colours are the ones the software automatically puts in...'

Man: 'yeah those colours need to change...'

Or

Me: 'I think this is a great opportunity, I just need to check whether we will be eligible under Section B'

Man: 'yeah you might need to check our eligibility'.

Like, he's not repeating what I'm saying, for clarity. Hes deafing out what I'm saying and just looking straight at the problems, even though I've already flagged them up.

Really pisses me off.

It's not recent, because I have been locked down since Christmas, but a male colleague once mansplained feminism to me.

I got told today that I load the dishwasher all wrong.

I'm advertising tickets soon for the hunger games of just him and me and me twatting him.

My 5 year old nephew when I explained the earth is round: “It’s not actually, it’s flat.”

My DH doesn’t do it at all, thank goodness.

Recently on a thread here a man actually thought he could mansplain the female orgasm to us.

@Stompythedinosaur

Depression - I am a mental health nurse. Also (apparently) people just need to exercise and get in contact with nature then they won't need medication. Total BS.

And this is only men who say this? You weren't specific..

At a national chain of tyre fitters where apparently you can't get quicker......

Me: I have a nail in my front nearside tyre, could you have a look, it's not in the wall so is hopefully repairable
Man: Front nearside?
Me: Yes
Man: front as in front
Me: Yes, front,where the engine is, as opposed to rear where the boot is
Man: nearside?
Me: Yes, nearside
Man: You mean passenger side?
Me: if you want to call it that, but I refer to it as nearside as that's the correct term

Bear in mind I work in a role where I enforce vehicle and traffic violations (not a traffic warden) and am more than familiar with the correct terms to use!

I once too my car in for a service and asked them to fit new wiper blades. I then had a car mechanic mansplain to me that the reason they needed replacing was that I wasn't using them properly.

@Lumene

My 5 year old nephew when I explained the earth is round: “It’s not actually, it’s flat.”

But you're wrong!

It's an irregularly shaped ellipsoid.

Morning sickness. By a work colleague. I've been on medication for severe sickness for weeks. His wife had it apparently and really I should be feeling much better since I'm over 12 weeks now as the placenta is kicking in you know. Its not even my first pregnancy ffs 🙄 . One of our other colleagues shamed him so I didn't have to 🙈🤣

I was interviewing somebody for a junior post. I asked him about his experience of a junior procedure he would be expected to do as part of his job, meaning “how many have you done, what is your complication rate, are you signed off as independent”. Was expecting a one-sentence answer.

He gave me a very detailed description of how to carry out this very basic procedure, as if reading out the SOP to a particularly stupid trainee. I had to stop him when he was still talking five minutes later, as I we still had three more questions to get through.

Period pain

How to use a self service till when I was scanning the last item.

I pointed out that I did know, to which I received the suggest, most condescending smile I've ever seen in my life. And he was, of course, "just trying to help" .

A plumber who was fixing my gas boiler. I said I liked having an electric shower as well, in case the 'gas went'.

He slowly explained to me that the world was unlikely to run out of gas within the next couple of years. I was referring to my rather more local gas situation i.e. the boiler he was fixing.

A contractor recently explained the intricacies of childbirth to me. I've birthed 3 children. He has birthed zero

A male dog boarder returning my excited giant breed dog to me on a lead. He was pulled the whole way down the corridor, nearly on his arse several times. He then proceeded to explain that the dog was very strong and not good on the leash, would I like him to bring him to my car for me?

I took the lead, corrected the dog and he walked happily at heel back to the car.

Cheers mate.

My university assignment. He has never done anything of this nature before. I asked him to proof read and I got suggestions on how to improve it. On a topic he has never studied. Dick

Health food shop employee telling me (mid-40s post-hysterectomy) not to take HRT.... he wasn't mansplaining exactly.

Thanks mate, I'll follow my surgeon's guidelines instead.

I work in cybersecurity. I was mansplained on the very basics of computer cookies.

How nurseries work - by my DH who never deals with Dac nurseries and never had professional involvement with them (unlike me)

I'm not sure this counts as mansplaining.

I showed my cousin's little boy my polaroid camera and he then explained to his grandma that, "first it's white, then you have to wait"

I'm an IT recruiter and I was describing a role to a candidate. He cut across me then told me what the role was all about and exactly what the hiring company were doing wrong

This wasn't recent but I'll never forget the time a guy came to the party of my friends who are ultra feminist (he was the horrible abusive DH of one of the guests and turned up uninvited) and he calmly mansplained "feminism and why it's gone too far" to me. I didn't say anything at all, just let him ramble, then he proceeded to try to force me to respond. DP was sort of patting me like a racehorse who is about to bolt because he could see how furious I was So I went and found my host and her wife and told her the guy was there and what he'd said... It was glorious... She was like a lioness Bounded outdoors to find him and tossed his ass out.

Mine was online so not sure if it counts?

I'm a professional cellist and I have a YouTube channel, just videos of examples of my repertoire for wedding bookings etc (as requested by my agent) Some bloke decided to write a detailed appraisal of my performance and ways I could improve because he'd just started playing himself so he had lots of useful tips I should know, after 30 years of performing. Thanks! Let me write these all down....