What's been "mansplained" to you recently?

[askingrandomsonlinemighthelp]

My DP is a mansplainer extraordinaire. We were walking along the coast toward a famous (in these parts) lighthouse.

He told me what a lighthouse was.

I think TheYellowOfTheEgg is just yolking.

My husband mansplained driving over speedbumps for me.

I have been driving 22 years....

I replied lets talk about the one written off van and the massive dent in the side of your current van...

My 13 year old DS told me what I was doing wrong when I was going over some Spanish revision with him.

Yes, I have a degree in Modern Languages and have lived in Spain

@thetwinkletoescollective

My husband mansplained driving over speedbumps for me.

I have been driving 22 years....

I replied lets talk about the one written off van and the massive dent in the side of your current van...

Have an ejector seat fitted to your car and use it if he tries that again.

Oh I forgot, my DP mansplained periods to me when I told him that some women had found that their periods after the covid vaccine had been heavier than usual or at unpredictable times. He helpfully told me that sometimes periods are a bit irregular though, so it’s probably just coincidence that these women happened to have irregular or excessive bleeding straight after the jab.

@Changechangychange

I was interviewing somebody for a junior post. I asked him about his experience of a junior procedure he would be expected to do as part of his job, meaning “how many have you done, what is your complication rate, are you signed off as independent”. Was expecting a one-sentence answer.

He gave me a very detailed description of how to carry out this very basic procedure, as if reading out the SOP to a particularly stupid trainee. I had to stop him when he was still talking five minutes later, as I we still had three more questions to get through.

To be fair to him, in an interview situation, perhaps he thought you wanted him to demonstrate that HE knew what the procedure was, rather than he was trying to tell you how to do it. Sounds like he misunderstood the nature of your question but with competency based interviews everywhere now people are encouraged to be super specific and provide clear examples.

@MarkRuffaloCrumble

Oh I forgot, my DP mansplained periods to me when I told him that some women had found that their periods after the covid vaccine had been heavier than usual or at unpredictable times. He helpfully told me that sometimes periods are a bit irregular though, so it’s probably just coincidence that these women happened to have irregular or excessive bleeding straight after the jab.

That would have been properly rage-inducing for me! Did you fix him with a proper death stare for that one?

Men are (generally) such utter babies when it comes to pain/feeling unwell, I get properly angry when they think they’re in any way entitled to pronounce on periods/cramps/any female biological functions.

I once had a client explain to me that I needed to claim back the VAT on some postage stamps and wouldn't accept me telling him that stamps don't have VAT on them. But then I was only the freelance accountant he'd engaged to sort out the shambles he'd already made do his books for him.

I’ve also had a good few men explain why feminism/equality isn’t necessary anymore. Most have done so whilst interrupting and speaking over me.

@Tombero

I was buying a car. The salesman rang to discuss the merits of it with me etc and why I should go for it.

After I hung up he immediately rang my husband, said he’d talked to me, but wasn’t sure I’d understand it all properly so thought he’d ring him to go through it.

It was a shame for him, because I had been planning to buy it until that happened.

This too ! In a car dealership to look at a car that I, not my then husband, was paying for. Sales guy proceeded to look past me and communicate his whole pitch to my husband. I didn't buy the car from that dealership and I did explain to him exactly why afterwards.

Not recently but when a song called Ecuador came out my then boyfriend told me that Ecuador is in fact a country!
Oh would that be where Quito is the capital and it sit on the equator? was my reply he was literally dumbfounded!

...by a male colleague, how to calculate the area of a circle I was mapping out on a field.

Me: 'yes thanks I know what the radius is...' 'yep I've already measured it'... 'yes I know...' 'yep that's what I'm doing...' 'FOR GOD'S SAKE I DID A LEVEL MATHS I KNOW HOW TO CALCULATE THE AREA OF A FRICKING CIRCLE'.

Everyone else in the office cracked up.

My team had a particular kind of review coming up, where an independent panel panel comes in to scrutinize certain aspects of work. Because my male colleague had no experience of this, he sent round how-to guides, and précised them for us.

I am from time to a panel member

Also ALL BUILDERS direct EVERYTHING to my boyfriend despite the fact that I am more practical, have contacted them in the first place to specify what I need doing, actually own the flat where the work is taking place and hold the final decision-making power, since it's my money.

DP recently mansplained how to peel potatoes to me. Needless to say, all peeling in our house is now his job.

Oh if we’re including kids, DS2 was playing with my stethoscope and asked if I wanted to pretend to be a doctor as well. DH asked if he knew Mummy was a real doctor, and DS fell about laughing and said “silly Daddy, no she isn’t!” (I am)

Michel de Montaigne. I'm an English grad. The man in question knows this

yesterday I asked DH if he knew why fan ceiling control for the nook isn't working.
he told me the control belonged elsewhere.
I told him it belonged in the nook.

he then proceeded to prove me wrong by trying out 2 other controls (that he himself labelled as living room and dining room) and ended up proving me right.

🙄
this why I have no energy to diet!

I also want to point out that there's such a thing as MILsplaining.
There's a long list of offences, but my favourite one is when she tried to tell me how to peel a boiled egg.
I don't know why she thought I didn't know.

My previous workplace started a 'women's business group' for employees. This was aimed at ticking a box on an a diversity form identifying and addressing reasons why women held so few of the most senior roles in the company. Meeting 1 identified a few things that the majority of those present thought could be improved. Meeting 2 was started by a man in a senior position giving us tips on how to manage work, pregnancy, childbirth and childcare more efficiently. Which would have been bad enough but it was common knowledge that his ex wife left him when their child was a few months old, after discovering he'd been sleeping with a junior colleague. Since then he looked after his child every other weekend but frequently left the child with his mum for most of the time,

I was mansplained and "corrected" on the subject I am studying at degree level, by DH who heard something about it on a podcast.

Friend going through a divorce mansplained that his children were innocent bystanders in the conflict. Which I had told him a few months earlier when he was being unreasonable.

Oh there’s boss-splaining too, regardless of sex. My boss (I’m a nanny) complimented a soup of made and said it’s a shame I don’t bake (I literally just once said I prefer savoury foods so I prefer to cook savoury food) and then said she’d love to teach me how to bake sometime, then launched into a spiel about how it’s a life-skill

I’ve literally been baking all her children’s birthday cakes for three years. I make mince pies at Christmas. I make all the sodding fairy cakes for every school bake-sale.

Where did she think all that stuff was magically coming from???

Mansplained - how to play the guitar, by a colleague who likes to give me his opinion. He readily admits he is a non-guitarist: I've been playing 26 years.

Kidsplained - how to switch on my own laptop By a ten year old who probably meant well...

I had feminism mansplained to me - the irony! 😂