What's been "mansplained" to you recently?

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My DP is a mansplainer extraordinaire. We were walking along the coast toward a famous (in these parts) lighthouse.

He told me what a lighthouse was.

I have a fond memory of my Dad mansplaining childbirth to me, when I asked if it was painful (I was a teenager), and my Mum interrupting him with, "because of course your father has given birth on numerous occasions!". Love both my parents, but my Dad thinks he's the only one who knows anything.

DH (years ago) as we were driving past a water tower asked me if I knew what that was (the patronising bastard - it’s a fucking water tower!)

My (much younger) brother mansplaining the menopause to me after I complained about getting a hot flush during one family dinner.

@Libertybells1

Again, not recently but a couple of years ago I met a man on a train who I had seen earlier that day in the waiting area for an interview we had both attended. This is relevant because I wasn't in the habit of talking about my PhD qualification with strangers generally (I'm not a complete knob), but in this case he started asking about my work background as we traded stories about the interview and our careers. And I am not joking, once he heard what the topic of my thesis had been, he spent the next hour mansplaining the subject to me! I wouldn't have minded so much if my research had been in a field related to our jobs and he had experience in it too, but I ended up working in an entirely different discipline and he clearly had no clue what he was talking about.

What amazes me is the confidence that these guys deliver it with. No self-consciousness - or even self-awareness - whatsoever

Oh to have the self confidence of a mediocre man!

Yes by H. He mainsplains what it's like to work in the civil service. He was a junior grade for 2 years in a minor Department. I've done 20 years in a Major Department and am really pretty senior. Annoys me no end.

Operational police officers (who know nothing about money) are often keen to argue with me about techie finance issues, or even better disagree with me about HM Treasury rules. I smile and nod.

My brother recently mansplained mansplaining on a Facebook article of women who had experienced mansplaining. Its just men saying things apparently.
Dick.

We've recently moved house and I have been doing 2X school runs every day with the children in the car since October. DH has been WFH in his office, and not often driven out of our driveway as frequently.

The other day I was driving him to the railway station, and when I stopped at the first junction, he started to tell me how I had to be careful because "there's a blind bend to the right. Use the mirror up there to look around the corner before you pull out."

I did ask how he thought I"d got the kids to school and back every day without knowing how to get out of this junction.

About 35 years ago, I had lunch at a friend's home. It included a gorgeous home made coleslaw, and she gave me the "recipe" which I have been using and modifying now for three decades. DH loves it, in many iterations.

Last week he made it himself for the first time. It was a success. (Well, it's hardly a major challenge... ) I said how good it was, and he said, "Right, well you start with chopping the cabbage really fine..."

I stopped him there. We laughed.

It included a gorgeous home made coleslaw, and she gave me the "recipe" which I have been using and modifying now for three decades. DH loves it, in many iterations

Do tell!

DH mansplained how to make a cup of tea once.

I don’t know what came over him as he’d never done anything like it before. I stopped and stared at him in disbelief - luckily he realised, and hasn’t done it again (tho I occasionally reminisce about it and take the piss out of him).

My DH was just mansplaining to my daughter why I was annoyed that she didn't say thank you to me after I had done a bit of DIY for her - in front of me. I told him it felt like the management was explaining why maintenance had a grievance!

The plot of a film that I had seen several times and he had never actually seen, but read a few reviews online.

I have my groceries delivered every Saturday morning and have done for several years. I know all of the delivery team ow and we have a chat while take my items from the crates and bag them up.

DP happened to be around last time they arrived and mansplained to me that if I put too much in a bag it would split. I exchanged "did he really just say that?" looks with the delivery chap and told DP, very sweetly, to fuck off. Delivery chap laughed.

Later that evening DP decided to cook dinner. I usually cook so this was nice. As we sat eating the meal I made a point of complimenting it. As did DS. DP mansplained to us how to cook mushrooms. I looked at DS, DS looked at me, pulled a face, sniggered and told his father that his mother cooks mushrooms multiple times a week and she doesn't need to be told how to do it by someone who picks up a saucepan once a month. Go DS. We high fived over the excellent mushroom stroganoff and I swigged some more Merlot DP had the good grace to apologise.

I work in a very male dominated area of financial services and most of my clients are male.

Male client who is a builder. Asked me to do a tax calculation, after me doing this for him:

Client: This isn't right
Me: Explains in detail how it is right and how the calculation works
Client: You're wrong
Me: I reassure I'm not and here's why
Client: How do you know?
Me: Explain why it is literally my job to know
Client: You're wrong.

Said client then spoke to my male colleague who explained the exact same thing to him and he accepted it, because a male had told him and not a female.

This happens more often than it should do

I deliberately get the loading of the DW wrong : then don't have to do it
Its been mansplained too many times now
DS also instructed me on parallel parking 🙄

Basically any time I use the gym, play a musical instrument or use a computer.

I don't think the kiddy ones count. Surely lots of kids do this, by nature of being entirely egocentric and not fully comprehending of the fact that other people have experiences outside their own? DD is 3 and often tells me, 'Do it this way, Mummy, OK?' and, 'Nooo, that's not right, do it like this!'

This morning was my most recent mansplaining incident. Man comes up to counter and asks for Panadol. I give him Panadol. He says to me “this is just branded paracetamol”. I nod. He says “you do know that don’t you?”. I nod again.

Seeing as I’m working in a pharmacy, I would bloody hope that I know that 😂

On a walk a strange man passing the other way said "you can tell there are cows here". I replied "yes over there" pointing the the huge beasts 20m behind me, oh no he said "look!" Pointing at a cow pat.

And to make it clearer, here is a photo of the cows.

@QueenPaw

How I should always pull forward to the first pump at a petrol station, how I was blocking it and holding everyone else up. I drove off, he angrily moved to the first pump to find the big out of order sign. He couldn't use another then as there was a big queue I did try to tell him...

I had similar recently. He shouted “oi love you’re supposed to pull forward it’s not difficult” so I didn’t bother trying to tell him the front one wasn’t working. I’m sure he was smart enough to realise once I’d left just a shame there wasn’t much of a queue for him to be stuck in!

I made a comment to DH about a particular subject and he said “oh are you an expert on that now? and proceeded to tell me why my opinion was wrong. Apparently he has forgotten that I have a PhD in that subject.

@SmidgenofaPigeon

I met an old uni friend for lunch on Monday. I’m pregnant and his wife had a baby just last year. I was asking how everything had gone etc (I know from her she had a long drawn out labour but was asking his take on it) joking that I had it all to look forward to etc.

He said ‘all it is really is getting your breathing right. If you can do that then you’ll be fine. It really is about control through your breathing to manage the pain. The problem was that (wife’s name) didn’t get the hang of the breathing part in the early stages and ended up in pain and upset. I was trying to get her to do her breathing but it just wasn’t going in, and that’s why she ended up having an epidural and being in labour for two days. Control the breathing properly and you’ll manage the pain’

I nearly threw my lunch at him while he was saying all that so god knows how his poor wife must as felt at the time.

You should have grabbed his bollocks and twisted them in a vice like grip and told him to breath through the pain. If he got his breathing right he wouldnt be in any pain. Idiot.

@YetAnotherSpartacus

It included a gorgeous home made coleslaw, and she gave me the "recipe" which I have been using and modifying now for three decades. DH loves it, in many iterations

Do tell!

Lol, it's not much of a recipe - grated carrot, shredded onion and cabbage in whatever proportions you prefer (I go heavy on the carrot), dressed with a blended mix of vinaigrette* and twice as much mayo. The secret ingredient is a teaspoon of sugar of your choice. (I pretend brown is healthier, but granulated white has it's place.)

The many iterations have been down to using different oils, vinegars and mustards in the vinaigrette- I recall a raspberry vinegar with particular fondness. Then there's red or white cabbage, red or white onion, orange or purple carrots... So many variations with such simple ingredients!

*My standard vinaigrette is a tablespoon of oil, same of vinegar, teaspoon of mustard.

Thank you!