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ADs shelter in The Sleeping Swans and have a group hug

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BogRollBOGOF · 17/05/2021 16:55

Another installment in the saga.

Maybe following up with an Indian, Korma please, but protect the naans...

Grin
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Evenstar · 17/06/2021 15:02

@LivinLaVidaLoki so sorry to hear that, sending a hug and hoping he will get the right care and get well soon

MercyBooth · 17/06/2021 15:14

@LivinLaVidaLoki I hope your bro recovers really swiftly Flowers Flowers ((((hugs))))

BIoodyStupidJohnson · 17/06/2021 15:57

Oh @LivinLaVidaLoki how horrible. Here, have a ((hug)) from me too. I hope they get to the bottom of it quickly and he feels better soon. Flowers

RainbowCrayons · 17/06/2021 16:16

I'm thinking of you and your brother too @LivinLaVidaLoki. If it's any reassurance my dad recently had a similar thing and they got him sorted.

BogRollBOGOF · 17/06/2021 17:02

I hope your brother is OK soon Livin.
The heat may not have been helping, it's easy to become dehydrated if you're not on good form.

Idly wonders how much of this "wave" is due to hayfever and high pollen counts... people testing due to hayfever symptoms when "cases" would normally pass unnoticed, and then the surge testing picking up more people with hayfever.

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justasking111 · 17/06/2021 17:49

@Worldgonecrazy

There is definitely mass under reporting of side effects of vaccines. Everyone I know under 69 who has had a vaccine has been floored and bed ridden for at least a day, sometimes two, yet none of them have reported their side effects using the yellow card system. Most of them don’t even know such a thing exists. Multiply that across the country….
I've had that with the flu vaccine. My grandkids have been the same with their jabs. Jabs do knock you about
justasking111 · 17/06/2021 17:53

@110APiccadilly

Plus all the lies about ‘get vaccinated and we will give you freedom’ when so far that hasn’t happened for anyone, and other countries are slowly dropping requirements it makes me wonder what the actual fuck is really going on.

Wales has (with some fanfare) announced that all adults have been offered at least one jab. As far as I can tell, we may have the strictest rules in the world about seeing people in private homes. So what's the point?

We're all jabbed welshies here are mixing now indoors outdoors amongst family, doing school runs, baby sitting, . I picked up three today from two different homes, watching them in the paddling pool needs must when parents working
justasking111 · 17/06/2021 17:57

Sorry about your brother @LivinLaVidaLoki that's worrying

NeedWineNow · 17/06/2021 18:05

@LivinLaVidaLoki sending hugs and Flowers and hope you get good need about your brother

Wishfulthinking1977 · 17/06/2021 22:11

There you lot are!! Lost you for bloody months!! It was like looking for Matt Hancocks brain!! Please somone talk some sense! I am overloaded reading bollocks!! 😂😂 Xx

Worldgonecrazy · 18/06/2021 08:14

@LivinLaVidaLoki Flowers

Lostinacloud · 18/06/2021 12:35

Don’t worry, we’re all in it together Confused

ADs shelter in The Sleeping Swans and have a group hug
ISaySteadyOn · 18/06/2021 13:45

Confused absolutely.

MercyBooth · 18/06/2021 16:08

Meanwhile Notting Hill Carnival has been cancelled. Wimbledon and Royal Ascot fine to go ahead though.

smallandimperfectlyformed · 18/06/2021 16:12

Hope your brother is OK now LivinLaVidaLoki. It is awful waiting for news. I am getting frustrated with certain people on the Internet, so not just here but on Twitter as well, telling people whom they can see are struggling that this is the way life is for the foreseeable future. I just don't believe that to be the case. Some people are terrified and some people do prefer life the way it is now but ultimately I believe that the majority of people want life to return to normal.

BogRollBOGOF · 18/06/2021 18:43

I think at this point there's a real gulf between people who by and large have got their little lives back and aren't seeing how wrong things are still. Businesses/ events not being able to plan or run profitably. Culture (music, choirs, theatre, clubs), residentials, community and sporting events. It's the additional measures driving me mad at the moment, school A can do this but school B won't type thing.

Even in our house, DH is nearly back to normal other than needing a face rag in his pocket. He's crept back to work. Most of what he does is viable. My volunteering is still compromised, and I do more events like races and residentials and miss them in my diary, and it doesn't seem to register that my life is much further from normal than his!

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LivinLaVidaLoki · 18/06/2021 19:09

Thanks everyone. It seems he has got a post op infection. He is very down at the moment though due to some after effects of the surgery. Hopefully with some physio they will improve but it's early so we aren't sure.

LivinLaVidaLoki · 18/06/2021 19:17

@BogRollBOGOF

I think at this point there's a real gulf between people who by and large have got their little lives back and aren't seeing how wrong things are still. Businesses/ events not being able to plan or run profitably. Culture (music, choirs, theatre, clubs), residentials, community and sporting events. It's the additional measures driving me mad at the moment, school A can do this but school B won't type thing.

Even in our house, DH is nearly back to normal other than needing a face rag in his pocket. He's crept back to work. Most of what he does is viable. My volunteering is still compromised, and I do more events like races and residentials and miss them in my diary, and it doesn't seem to register that my life is much further from normal than his!

Exactly. Life pretty back to normal my fucking arse.

Can't spontaneously go out for tea, you've to book. Everything. Ages in advance.

You have to scan an app or give your details everywhere you go.

Ordering on apps, restricted menus due to reduced staff

Queuing to get in and around anywhere

Can't dance at a wedding

I've a brother in a care home that if I visit I I sit with him in a "bubble" I can't take him out, he is effectively a prisoner in his own fucking home.

Half my gym classes aren't running and I've to book a slot I can't just decide to go

Colleagues I've not seen in over a year

Constantly living under the fear of state mandated isolation and testing myself twice a week in order that I can go to work

That's all before I get into having to wear a mask all the time. I've even to wear one to fucking sports day next week. Sports day. Outside.

It's like life is a bit normal, but all the stuff that makes it fun is gone.

justasking111 · 18/06/2021 19:35

No parents allowed at sports da again this year , in fact they maybe will cancel it because of the delta variant. Years 3 and 4 were sent home this week. Many other schools here have sent lots of years home because of a case God knows where

LivinLaVidaLoki · 18/06/2021 20:00

That's shit @justasking111

I've just remembered something I read last year that sums the whole mess up for me...

"Welcome to the UK. Where we have stopped treating the sick and constantly test the healthy to make sure they aren't sick"

Curlygirl06 · 18/06/2021 20:52

I am trying to book a time to go swimming, bloody hell I've lost the will to live! The local pool- it says look at the timetable below but there's no bloody timetable. I found a website that I could book on all the local pools and then lost it again, now I can't find it.
I've got to work in a shop with a face mask behind a screen in my polyester uniform, great when you're having a menopausal sweat.
I'd like to go out for coffee with friends but I'm not downloading the app or giving my number, as I'm not isolating because someone 5 tables away might have coughed in my direction.
I don't want to mooch round shops with a mask on as I'm always sweating like a fat man in a cake shop, I wear glasses and they steam up so I can't see. If I have a mask up under my glasses it affects my downwards peripheral vision so I'm more likely to trip over something which I can do easily enough normally without any further interference!
I don't want to have to book to go out for a meal weeks in advance, or even days, sometimes you just want to turn up on spec.
I don't want my granddaughter growing up thinking masks are normal, she was only 4 months old when the pandemic started.
And on another note, I wanted to buy a washing machine from a website called appliance next day or some such twattery, and couldn't because of covid! I got one from a local shop eventually.
And breathe. There's an awful lot of shitty rules that gets right on my tits, and I'm so pissed off with the whole bloody lot of them.
I could go on ( and on and on!) but you get my drift.
I look after my grandchildren one day a week, drop the oldest at school then have the toddler all day. I should imagine there are toddler groups about, although ''Musical Monsters " first time round with the elder grandchild had me ready to kill the organizer after half an hour, ain't no one got time for that jolly hockey sticks type of fuckwittery! I only went once. So now, every Friday I'm going to get a bit of shopping with the toddler, she is getting better with people in masks but it's not what I want for her. Then it's down the park AGAIN to count the bloody geese, walk round the lake twice dodging the goose shit, drink a coffee on a bench and home. She loves it down the park but she should be mixing with other children, fighting over toys and getting sand up her nose.
I feel better for that!

ISaySteadyOn · 18/06/2021 23:08

Flowers @Curlygirl06, fwiw you sound like an excellent grandmother.

I need a bit of sympathy tonight. I hate bedtime. It is the worst part of my day and always makes me feel like a terrible mother. It's the perfect dysfunction of the interaction between my ASD and my dyspraxia. I desperately need a routine and structure to follow (ASD) but my stupid brain can't organise one for toffee (dyspraxia). So I am ok up until after supper when worrying about getting them to bed kicks in.

It doesn't help that DH is a night owl and 2 of the DC have inherited those tendencies. I want them to get enough sleep to grow and be healthy and I just can't seem to manage it. All I keep thinking is that I messed up when they were babies and now I reap what I sow.

Anyone ever feel like that?

RainbowCrayons · 19/06/2021 03:14

@ISaySteadyOn I totally understand that feeling. Not about bedtime in my case but about food. 2 year old DS got noro a few weeks back and lived off toast. Now it's basically all he will eat along with chips and bread. I just tell myself to keep trying and it will come good over time even if we had yet another day where tomatoes were thrown across the living room! I'm not sure what else there is to do at the moment except keep plodding on. I would keep going with as much routine as you can but don't beat yourself up if it all goes to pot. Hopefully if/when normality returns everything will get easier again?!?

Routine seems to be really hard at the moment when everything is almost back but not quite. It's like living in a parallel universe and you can't quite put your finger on what is wrong. It's exhausting so even though I'm normally hyper organized, I crash by 3pm.

I realized that the reason I get so upset with the 'it's not going to normal for a long time' brigate is because I'm plodding on, hanging on to the fact it's only a few more months. I can do that for a few more months but if I knew I was looking at years I think I would give up. It gets harder when the 'few more months' lies from the government get more obvious though.

Curlygirl06 · 19/06/2021 08:40

@ISaySteadyOn

Flowers *@Curlygirl06*, fwiw you sound like an excellent grandmother.

I need a bit of sympathy tonight. I hate bedtime. It is the worst part of my day and always makes me feel like a terrible mother. It's the perfect dysfunction of the interaction between my ASD and my dyspraxia. I desperately need a routine and structure to follow (ASD) but my stupid brain can't organise one for toffee (dyspraxia). So I am ok up until after supper when worrying about getting them to bed kicks in.

It doesn't help that DH is a night owl and 2 of the DC have inherited those tendencies. I want them to get enough sleep to grow and be healthy and I just can't seem to manage it. All I keep thinking is that I messed up when they were babies and now I reap what I sow.

Anyone ever feel like that?

@ISaySteadyOn thank you, I love looking after the grandchildren, I might be looking after the other two during the school holidays on a different day, depending on a few things. This is the thing-"depending on a few things." As @RainbowCrayons said, knowing it's only going to be 4 weeks more is one thing, but what if it's not? It's the not knowing that's the issue.
justasking111 · 19/06/2021 09:38

If it's any comfort bad eating habits in children is a phase and night owls normal as early birds. Raised three boys two night owls. They could study half the night at university.

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