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Mil mostly feeding toddler soup

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BountyIsUnderrated · 28/04/2021 10:28

Just wanted to rant really but not give too much detail away as it might be outing.
Basically my nearly 1 year old is being looked after once a week by mil for a whole day, which we are both grateful for as it saves us a lot of money, but there's one thing that really grinds my gears. . She mainly feeds him just soup and avocado's every time he's there.

I wouldn't have a problem with this but it really upsets his tummy and gives him diarrhea, I think because he's not having enough solid food that day as he's fine the rest of the week.
Dh has already brought this up once before.. She's very peculiar about food as she has gluten intolerance and an autoimmune condition so thinks wheat is bad, potatoes are bad, cereals etc anything not organic is full of 'toxins' and and she's just been getting worse.

She also says nursery just feeds him crap when I actually think it looks pretty healthy, chicken dinners, pasta nutritious food, more nutrious then her just giving him the same stuff every week.
She is generally quite nice but very stubborn in her ways, not sure what to do about it really, but like I said it upsets his tummy and gives him runny poos to be fed mostly soup (and I have to deal with the end result!). Sad

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ThumbWitchesAbroad · 29/04/2021 05:01

You really need to know what is in that soup. Or those soups. Full list of ingredients if it's home made, or the name and brand if it's shop bought.

It could be the avocados but I don't think so - if it was an oral allergy/intolerance thing, surely the child would complain and refuse to eat it again if it made them uncomfortable?

Your MIL might believe that any intolerances/allergies your child has must be the same as her own because they're related - this is not the case at all. So she might be avoiding foods that upset her, but would be fine for your child; and similarly feeding him foods that are fine for her but not for him.

As she has all these intolerances, she should be able to bloody well understand that feeding the child food he is intolerant/reacting to is a Really Fucking Bad Idea - would SHE accept being fed foods that set off her intolerances?? Wouldn't think so! Turn it back on her in that way and see if that helps to get it through to her!

alexdgr8 · 29/04/2021 19:17

foul-smelling suggests food poisoning to me.
get that child away from there.
often these home-spun types think everything they do is ok, some don't believe in being fussy over hygiene...

midlifecrash · 29/04/2021 19:43

if it is a soup with a lot of lentils or beans, and given without any bread or rice or other carbohydrate, then yes that can cause issues, even as a one off. there is a reason that legumes are eaten with carbohydrates. Also would be worried about whether it was very salty, or if she has a thing about some miracle health food ingredient which she adds to everything. Have you had any of this soup?

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Dustyhedge · 29/04/2021 20:58

3 meals of soup a day just isn’t normal. I’d be quite wary of her looking after your baby as your child gets older and understands more. You don’t want a whole load of food issues down the line.

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