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Have you ever been to a wedding where someone was jilted?

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JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows · 21/04/2021 22:50

Me and my friend tonight watched a (so bad it's good) film where a bride jilts the groom and he runs off with her sister as they sing a Cher song together Grin we were discussing jilting, she said at Uni her friend's wedding was called off the night before when the bride had discovered an affair. And I remember as a teen my parents coming home only a couple of hours after they left for a wedding. The groom didn't show up to the service, he was seen leaving the hotel in the car of a woman waiting outside Shock is jilting very rare? Have you ever known anyone jilted or a wedding cancelled last minute?

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AgathaAllAlong · 22/04/2021 19:45

@MadamBatty oh no that last one is horrific, poor her.

hannayeah · 22/04/2021 19:46

[quote Cushionsnotpillows]@hannayeah do you think it was accidentally on purpose Wink[/quote]
I really didn’t for two reasons:
The brother was really drunk and we were all so used to saying “Rex and Samantha” for the years they were together.

It was horrifying and most of the room gasped! The bride handled it very well actually. I think many women would have run out of the room.

NameChangedForThisFeb21 · 22/04/2021 19:48

In our case, in our family (and I’m sure in a lot of families with siblings ten months apart) it was a tongue in cheek joke because for years when people would see the girls they’d say “awwww are they twins?” and they’d have to explain they were 10 months apart, they were in the same school year, for two months if they were asked their age they would answer the same number so people would say “oh, twins!” and my Aunt would reply “Irish Twins“ and everyone would laugh. She also got a lot of comments along the lines of “has that baby still not arrived or are ye having Irish Twins?” when she was pregnant for the best part of two years. It’s such a common, and affectionately used, turn of phrase in our family and our neck of the woods that no one would be offended. Unless they’re a mumsnetter, that is.

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wendywoopywoo222 · 22/04/2021 19:48

I went to a wedding where the bride left the evening reception with another man. No one knew she had been seeing him for ages before so not sure why she went through with the wedding.

LowlandLucky · 22/04/2021 19:52

Doesn't anyone purchase wedding insurance. £20k+ is a hellva lot to loose

steppemum · 22/04/2021 19:53

not quite the same, but a friend of mine. Groom and best man staying together night before wedding. Groom doesn't feel well, takes paracetamol and goes to bed.
5 am best man has to call an ambulance - appenixitis!

By the time he was at A&E and the bride had been told, most of the guests were on their way to the church.

The 'wedding' went ahead, in that everyone came ot the church, then they went to the reception and had a party. All guests stayed over. Sunday morning the groom came to the church in a wheelchair, was wheeled down the aisle and they got married, and then they took him back to hospital!
Fortunately as it was illness, the insurance covered the honeymoon.

steppemum · 22/04/2021 19:54

@LowlandLucky

Doesn't anyone purchase wedding insurance. £20k+ is a hellva lot to loose
not sure it counts if one of you chickens out. It is usually for things like my story above about illness
Ohdoleavemealone · 22/04/2021 19:54

@RoseMalone

I don't personally know anyone, but when I was being driven to my wedding in a hired wedding car, the driver said that he once drove a woman to her wedding who seemed like she had the weight of the world on her shoulders and she told him to turn round as she wanted to call it off. Her family were really angry with her but she seemed very relieved.
Exactly the same was said to me by my driver!
MadamBatty · 22/04/2021 19:56

@AgathaAllAlong it was heartbreaking...she met & married somebody about 10 years later.

LimpLettice · 22/04/2021 20:00

Not a jilting, but it should have been. Cousin was with her boyfriend for several years. Bit of spoiled princess type, he had pots of money, but he was fairly controlling and she was clearly in it for the big house and prestige. Very bossy & controlling mother pushing her. A birthday the week before, she cried, we told her if she wanted to call it all off, we'd bundle her off somewhere and tell everyone for her but she was determined and went through with it.

8 weeks later he walked out because she was 'cold'. Ten weeks later he was begging to come back, but she'd already moved on, with the guy from work she'd been seeing before the wedding who no one knew about! She is now married with 4 kids, to OM, so it all worked out, but it was a big bloody mess at the time!

purrswhileheeats · 22/04/2021 20:22

I used to frequent the You and Your Wedding forum years ago. I remember a woman posting on there saying she'd received an anonymous letter weeks before her wedding saying 'Ask who Lynne is'. Posters piled in saying it was malicious/jealous etc and not to worry about it. The OP asked her fiancé about 'Lynne' who said it was an older woman at work, blah blah. She found out days before the wedding that her fiancé had been having an affair with Lynne - everyone implored her not to go through with the wedding but she did, she even posted photos of them and her dress was hanging off her because she'd lost so much weight with the shock.

I often wonder what happened to her Sad

namedchangedforthisone · 22/04/2021 20:45

NC for this as outing.

I had been seeing a guy from work for about 4 months, he seemed like a really nice guy we got on well and went on lots of dates. I was early 20s (read naive) had my own flat so if we weren't going out somewhere he would usually come to mine.

Went to his a couple of times usually to collect his dog to go for a walk or pop in to pick up post but never stayed there and wasn't in the house longer than half an hour. The place didn't look like a bachelor pad but nothing particularly girly either.

One day we went there and I saw on the kitchen side 2 printed out boarding passes to Spain. Young (naive!) me thought he had booked us a surprise trip so I didn't say anything to him so not to ruin the surprise.

A few days later we were in the canteen at work and another colleague said to him "not long until you're a married man" i looked him dead in the eye and he looked extremely sheepish.

Turns out his wedding was the following week and the boarding passes were for his honeymoon!

He wasn't on SM and I didn't have a clue who the Fiancé was so i had no way of contacting her to let her know what a vile scumbag he was.

I handed my notice in at work and left but found out a while later he had cancelled the wedding on the morning it was supposed to happen.

I hope he is wallowing in the swamp he deserves and that she went on to marry her Prince Charming

worcestersauce29 · 22/04/2021 20:51

Yep, I was a bridesmaid at a wedding when I was 5. Everyone ready at our house (the bride was leaving from here as she'd fallen out with her family...or not as it seems) She didn't turn up, her family knew nothing about the wedding. The reception went ahead, I remember it really well. They married a few years later but it didn't last!!!!! It's a great conversation starter ;)

Monkeytennis97 · 22/04/2021 21:17

As a child chorister I saw this happen, very sad.

Also (far worse) a poor girl ran across the road to see a bride and was killed. Awful.

ancientgran · 22/04/2021 21:53

@Monkeytennis97

As a child chorister I saw this happen, very sad.

Also (far worse) a poor girl ran across the road to see a bride and was killed. Awful.

How awful. I can't quite work out what you'd do, I mean was it before the wedding and did it go ahead, did people go to the reception? I'm not sure what the etiquette would be for that.

I did know someone, not close sort of friend of a friend, whose father died in an accident a week before her wedding. They did go ahead with the wedding.

Staffy1 · 22/04/2021 22:03

Well this won't end up in the Daily Mail, no, not at all.

EastWestWhosBest · 22/04/2021 22:14

@Staffy1

Well this won't end up in the Daily Mail, no, not at all.
Not that bunch of cunts? No, not at all.
Ellmau · 22/04/2021 22:15

I didn't attend the wedding but someone I worked with married a man from overseas, Standing at the altar at the end of the ceremony he apparently announced 'thanks, I needed to be married to stay in the country' and walked out of the church never to be seen again. She had a mental breakdown and ended up in hospital for a time.

If it's any consolation you need to stay married for two years to get ILR. Mind you, I know someone whose overseas husband walked out as soon as the two years were up...

Doesn't anyone purchase wedding insurance. £20k+ is a hellva lot to loose

It never covers one of the parties changing their mind.

Staffy1 · 22/04/2021 22:19

@EastWestWhosBest, bunch of cunts is a perfect description of them.

ShamrockHillz · 22/04/2021 22:40

Two colleagues of mine, who’d been dating for almost 6 years, planned a huge Indian wedding. They’d also done an Indian engagement the year before where they’d invited 400 people. The actually wedding was due to have 600 people. She talked about it for almost a year and then, a few weeks before the actual wedding, just stopped talking altogether. All of her colleagues (we were all given invites) knew something was wrong but she just changed the subject if we asked. We’d gone to all her pre- wedding functions (for those who have never been to one, the whole week before the wedding is celebrating a different event) and her family had very kindly lent us some Indian outfits and jewellery. It was a very lavish affair. On the day, she looked sad and the groom was almost 3 hours late. He did eventually turn up but was wearing a crumpled suit and hadn’t shaved or done his hair. He look very scruffy and didn’t seem happy. They went on honeymoon and she left him as soon as they were back.

We found out afterwards she been having doubts for months because he never wanted to be intimate with her. As soon as they got to their hotel, he’d asked for a separate room and had spent the whole honeymoon getting pissed with a stag group in the bar. The reason he’d been 3 hours later is because he’d actually done a runner and his mum had to send his brothers out to look for him. They practically forced him down the aisle. Would’ve been so much better for him to not turn up, in hindsight.

On a separate note, are any of the people offended by the term Irish twins I actually Irish? It’s a very well used term where I’m from and used affectionately. Definitely not offensive to any of my friends, family or colleagues.

funtimefrank · 22/04/2021 22:47

I once went to a reception/party for a family friend who had got married abroad with only a few people there including my family member who was a bridesmaid.

Reception was about 2 weeks after the wedding. I forgot the vouchers I'd got for a present and told bridesmaid saying I must let the bride know and apologise. Bridesmaid told me not to bother as bride and groom had broken up 3 days after wedding.

Turns out both bride and groom had met other people at work a few months before the wedding. Both started to have doubts, hid them, went ahead with wedding then had a fight and it all came out.

Both bride and groom then entered relationships with the people they had met and whilst I dont know about groom, bride happily married to the work guy with 3 kids 15 years later.

CliffsofMohair · 22/04/2021 22:56

[quote Franklyfrost]@disconnected101

  • ancientgran @NameChangedForThisFeb21 You might not realise but "Irish Twins" is really offensive. Really? I had no idea! I'm Irish and an 'Irish twin' (sibling & I born opposite ends of the same year). I've never found it offensive.

Almost snap: I’m Irish and have Irish twins and can’t see how it’s offensive.[/quote]
I’m gonna guess you’re not Irish-in-England where it is used as a pejorative term. If you’re Irish-in-Ireland it doesn’t have the same connotations.

Shitzngiggles · 22/04/2021 23:03

@Bloodybridget we were all a bit wtf. But they have stood the test of time , so it all worked out OK.

Cruddles · 22/04/2021 23:11

Not quite cancelling the wedding but my dad got stood up by his best man. He was a guy my dad used to work with and was friends with. The wedding as at my mum's rural hometown. Best man never appeared. Dad had to ask another friend to step in, in the suit for the best man.

My mum says she warned by dad this guy wasn't trustworthy. My dad never heard from him again. This was in the early 70s

VenusClapTrap · 23/04/2021 00:04

A relative married a woman from the Philippines who he’d met online. She flew to the U.K. to marry him; none of her family came to the wedding. During the honeymoon (in the Philippines) he woke up one morning to find her gone, and her wedding ring on the bedside table. Cue lots of drama and anguish and phone calls home.

It turned out she’d gone for a swim in the hotel pool. 🙄

She did leave him two years later though.

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